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Comment by LouMiss on May 3, 2015 at 1:38pm

Boy have I heard some of that...

Comment by Chantelle on May 3, 2014 at 4:36am

So sad...but so true.  

Is there anything someone "could say" that would be the "right" thing to say? Naw...just a hug or a hand hold...yep, I would prefer that over any of the things I heard. 

Comment by Leslie on March 21, 2014 at 7:49pm


This is a great video all so true ! Were are peoples minds!
Comment by princess57 on March 13, 2014 at 3:50am

I was aware that my mate was leaving this earth  long before his family was we didn't talk about it ..actions speak louder then words, I felt that i had to ready myself to release him to God and the angels.  It still hurt when it did happen i wasn't notified or included in his last days (his way of protecting me), then dealing with his family basically strangers to me was unbearable his niece alone. His niece thinks she needs to know everything about her uncle in the past 15 years that he was with me and i feel that she isn't . He was a veteran and suffered from PTSD and it was rough at times and top that with cancer, i felt i was fighting to wars rolled into one. I have a book of quotes that he gave me from the bible and i turn to that more then i listen t the chaplain and other professionals.  I d understand exactly how you feel.

Comment by Pcs96 on March 12, 2014 at 7:07pm
My husband of 36 years passed away unexpectedly after bypass surgery 3 weeks ago. The hospital called me at 12:30am and said "we're coding your husband, you need to come". He passed away 30 minutes after I got there...I didn't get to see him until after. The doctor, a nurse, and the chaplain came into the waiting room so I knew the news was bad. While I was waiting to be able to see my husband, the chaplain (who meant well I know) patted my knee and said "this will be a life changing experience". No shit Sherlock!
Comment by daisy on February 23, 2014 at 4:19pm

The Quote"wish god would take the ones we want to go" followed by laughter and repeated three times till I got up and left. Husband had died 4 months earlier

Comment by princess57 on October 20, 2013 at 8:37pm

every comment that I have read on this site , states the truth! including my girlfriend who had made her mission to set me up with a blind date (her choice in men are not in line with mine) I derail her on this matter every time she brings it up.  I know that my soul mate would want me to be happy but, he was my best friend and could read me better then myself. His death blew me over and still does I will not  recover anytime soon  I miss him more now that I can't talk to him. I wish he was here to hug and hold me I really could use it. Hey he died and left me---his best friend doesn't call and check on me or ask if I need help on any matters I am back to managing for myself.   I believe that the nights are longer when you are alone!

Comment by Loss&Hurt on October 18, 2013 at 2:05pm
I have been hearing ( it will get better with time) or ( you have to keep moving forward) or (stop crying so much) This is what I want to tell the people who say these things!! Unless you've walked in my shoes an loss your one an everything don't tell me how to react or deal with his Death! It's not something me an my kids will get over in a day or a week or a month or even a year. We will always be impacted by his Death always!!!! It's been 2 months now an it still don't seam real feels like he's away an were waiting on him to return. Not a day goes by or a night we don't think of Antwian. Who will hold me now? God help me an my kids!!!
Comment by Jule627 on October 18, 2013 at 12:48pm
I like when people me! How about YOU call and check on me? I'm the lonely, heartbroken one!
Comment by mari on August 12, 2013 at 7:18pm
I think that the comments are bad but worse is when my family acts like it never happen. My sister basically told me to move on that everyone has problems. She does not even call me to see how I am doing. It has only been 3 months. I want to scream at them I am not ok and I wish you would call me just to ask how I am doing.

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