Yes. I am angry with God. That he did not save her. That I was not given an opportunity to help her. The total unexpectedness of her passing away. I don’t know want to be angry but over 8 months later I still am.
Yes. I feel enraged when people offer ridiculous platitudes and deny my grief. The death of my husband is not a gift and I do not need his death to grow or become a stronger person. The fact that my husband is no longer in pain and is no longer suffering is irrelevant. He is GONE and I am shattered. And I am tired of being brave and strong. My husband died 4 months ago from ALS.
It is nearly nine years for me and I still occasionally get angry that Ray is not here to share my life with me. I hate that he never saw Alice our youngest grandchild past her being three months old, I am angry that the skills he had will never be passed onto the grandkids. I am angry that being a widow is nothing like being a wife and that widows get treated differently. But after all these years ?I know there is no going back and I have to go forward.
Alan D says
Posted on October 1, 2021 0
Yes. I am angry with God. That he did not save her. That I was not given an opportunity to help her. The total unexpectedness of her passing away. I don’t know want to be angry but over 8 months later I still am.
TomH says
Posted on September 23, 2021 1
No, not as of yet.
I’m 15 months into having lost my wife to cholangiocarcinoma, she was ill for 18 months, very ill for 6 of those.
I don’t know what anger would solve, so I’m not angry.
Oddly enough, I don’t know what sadness solves, but I am sad!
So there’s the paradox!
ChristinL says
Posted on September 15, 2021 2
Yes. I feel enraged when people offer ridiculous platitudes and deny my grief. The death of my husband is not a gift and I do not need his death to grow or become a stronger person. The fact that my husband is no longer in pain and is no longer suffering is irrelevant. He is GONE and I am shattered. And I am tired of being brave and strong. My husband died 4 months ago from ALS.
only1sue says
Posted on September 14, 2021 0
It is nearly nine years for me and I still occasionally get angry that Ray is not here to share my life with me. I hate that he never saw Alice our youngest grandchild past her being three months old, I am angry that the skills he had will never be passed onto the grandkids. I am angry that being a widow is nothing like being a wife and that widows get treated differently. But after all these years ?I know there is no going back and I have to go forward.