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Alma
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  • Mount Ephraim, NJ
  • United States
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The physical comfort

Started this discussion. Last reply by Estragon on Friday. 5 Replies

Is something I really miss. Just to be held and have my back rubbed as I grieve. How do you learn to live with that loss?Continue

My wedding anniversary

Started this discussion. Last reply by chef (John) Apr 25. 5 Replies

Today marks 28 years I was married to my husband. Our vows say " for as long as you both shall live ". He died. But I am still alive. And I still feel married to him. Our physical connection may be…Continue

None months ago today

Started this discussion. Last reply by Alma Apr 22. 4 Replies

Was the last day I ever saw my husband. He kissed me goodbye before leaving on a business trip. It was a Monday. He came back late Thursday afternoon but had to work late and so I went to bed without…Continue

On this date

Started this discussion. Last reply by Alma Jan 27. 4 Replies

Six months ago I lost my husband to suicide. My heart still feels shattered in a million little pieces. I miss him desperately and don't know what my life is supposed to be when my purpose was so…Continue

 

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Alma replied to Dee1960's discussion What to say, when well meaning friends tell you to "get over it"?
"I think accepting some people just can't sit with other's grief is all you can do. This is not a friend who can be there during your grief. So, come here and share your feelings. We get it."
Monday
Alma replied to Oskar Ruettiger's discussion Anyone feel like this ? Nightmare, Twilight Zone, Groundhog Day
"Is it not possible to be in both? The grief world and the living world? I know at ten months I am still so early in my traumatic loss but I think I'm some ways I will always want to be a part of the community even if it's just to support…"
Monday
Estragon replied to Alma's discussion The physical comfort
"It's coming up 4 months for me, and I'm also really missing it.  Even getting to 10 months feeling that loss seems too hard, patience is lacking for me as well."
Friday
Alma replied to Alma's discussion The physical comfort
"That is what I figured. I have plenty of time especially as it has only been ten months for me but patience I am really lacking."
May 21
Alma replied to Alma's discussion The physical comfort
"Thank you for responding. It's only been ten months for me."
May 21
Ultra2015 replied to Alma's discussion The physical comfort
"Alma,  I miss this terribly.  I just want to hug Sandi.  We had a very close physical and emotional relationship.  I just hug her pillow and dream of the comfort we gave each other.  I don't think anything or anyone…"
May 21
Alma replied to Barbara Ann's discussion Where is my grief?
"Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry for your loss. It is quite possible the shock is protecting you. The whole world is weird right now with this pandemic. To lose your spouse in addition to it may just be too much right now for your brain to…"
May 21
Alma posted a discussion

The physical comfort

Is something I really miss. Just to be held and have my back rubbed as I grieve. How do you learn to live with that loss?See More
May 21
Alma replied to Oskar Ruettiger's discussion Anyone feel like this ? Nightmare, Twilight Zone, Groundhog Day
"I am only at nine months from my husband's suicide so I don't have any words of wisdom. Just know you aren't alone in your feelings."
May 21
chef (John) replied to Alma's discussion My wedding anniversary
"The legal stuff is a bear, as is dealing with life insurance and Social Security. I don't recommend doing it all in one day. The "W" designation is overlooked by most people, so you may have to let things slide in some circumstances."
Apr 25
Alma replied to Alma's discussion My wedding anniversary
"Thank you"
Apr 25
Alma replied to Alma's discussion My wedding anniversary
"This will be my first anniversary without him. Tomorrow marks nine months since he died. I just got a job cashiering at a supermarket so I am hoping it will distract me. I live in NJ so our Covid rules are very strict. No going anywhere expect for…"
Apr 25
Estragon replied to Alma's discussion My wedding anniversary
"It would have been 39 years for us at the end of May.  The "celebration" of life was to have been on her birthday in March, but we cancelled/postponed because of Covid.  My adult kids and I went for a nice hike and then dinner…"
Apr 25
Alma posted a discussion

My wedding anniversary

Today marks 28 years I was married to my husband. Our vows say " for as long as you both shall live ". He died. But I am still alive. And I still feel married to him. Our physical connection may be gone but our hearts are still connected.I love you Michael!See More
Apr 25
Alma replied to Alma's discussion None months ago today
"Thank you so much for reaching out. Your words have brought me more comfort than you can imagine. Yes, life became too painful for my husband. But, the devastation brought by this kind of loss is incredible. I am so glad you have chosen life. I just…"
Apr 22
Alma replied to Alma's discussion None months ago today
"Thank you so much for reaching out and I am so sorry for your loss. You are certainly right about the brave and strong thing. If one more person tells me that I may scream. I am tired of being brave and strong."
Apr 22

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At 9:58pm on October 10, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Alma. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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