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Alma
  • Female
  • Mount Ephraim, NJ
  • United States
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His things

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gazania on Monday. 14 Replies

How did all of you handle this if you had children? Nothing is of great value beyond the sentimental and nothing has been asked for. I can't have these things around forever. Eventually I am going to…Continue

First special moment

Started this discussion. Last reply by Alma Oct 24. 2 Replies

Today is my eldest son's birthday. The first without my husband. We used to use this day as a mini celebration of us.We would joke about how old we were getting. How time flies. How amazing it was we…Continue

Sometimes the anxiety

Started this discussion. Last reply by DIVA70 Oct 27. 17 Replies

Just rises up and washes over me. Making me so scared. The world seems such a scary place. How do I live in it all alone? How do I keep going forward when half of me is gone?Continue

The supermarket

Started this discussion. Last reply by barbee Oct 12. 10 Replies

Every where I turn it seems there is something that reminds me of him and what I don't need to buy anymore. Whether it's a potato chip flavor or a snack or product that was only for him. It's…Continue

 

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Gazania replied to Alma's discussion His things
"For financial reasons I had two of his friends move in with us shortly after his passing.  That meant that space became an issue and we had to get rid of some of his things.  We had a family meeting and decided to donate most.  I had…"
Monday
Alma replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Good morning. Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry for your loss. It does help to talk."
Nov 15
Rich replied to Alma's discussion His things
"Laurajay: I get what you are saying. Janet always said she would have to die first since she would have a difficult time without me.  I know she would not be able to maintain the property and animals, but she was strong enough emotionally to…"
Nov 4
Rich replied to Alma's discussion His things
"Regarding you comment:  Just wish our spouses could be here for us to continue our sharing I believe they with us, always and forever."
Nov 2
Rich replied to Alma's discussion His things
"Laurajay: Janet and I built this house, did all the landscaping and the barns put in. The entire place is a reflection of us. People use to ask Janet about vacation and her reply was " I live in vacationland where would I go anywhere". She…"
Nov 2
Alma replied to Alma's discussion His things
"That is so cool you did that."
Nov 2
Rich replied to Alma's discussion His things
"My wife was able to give items to friends before she died. However, there were things she didn't want passed on, wedding ring, beautiful diamond cross necklace (my parent bought her) rings and certain clothes items like her wedding dress. We…"
Nov 2
DIVA70 replied to Alma's discussion His things
"I have done the same. In fact, I have also started getting rid of a lot of my own stuff I know they wont want. When I told my oldest son I know he wont drive 1200 miles from Florida to where I am to lug stuff back 1200 miles just to throw it away he…"
Nov 2
Mac replied to Alma's discussion His things
"I ask my children want they want, not just their late mom's stuff, but my stuff too. I continue to do this as I go through my stuff and try to downsize. Some stuff goes on eBay, some stuff gets donated. Stuff doesn't mean as much to me as…"
Nov 1
Alma replied to Alma's discussion His things
"Thank you."
Nov 1
Doug02122014 replied to Alma's discussion His things
"You can also buy the book that recently came out on the subject and promoted by the founder of Widville. Would be a curious read to see how much overlap there is between the author and all of our experiences.  Take care.  Doug  ."
Nov 1
Doug02122014 replied to Alma's discussion His things
"Alma, Here's a free link to a post I put up here on Widville over 5 years ago.  http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/what-to-do-with-spouses-personal-effects-and-when Hope some of everyone's experiences will help you.  Take…"
Nov 1
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His things

How did all of you handle this if you had children? Nothing is of great value beyond the sentimental and nothing has been asked for. I can't have these things around forever. Eventually I am going to have to move for financial reasons and so space will be an issue.See More
Nov 1
Alma replied to Melissa's discussion Support we need vs get
"For now she has to go. It may sound mean because she seems so genuine grief is an exhausting time and you must care for yourself first. So, don't answer calls or texts or be really firm and say right now I can only handle a one hour lunch date…"
Oct 30
DIVA70 replied to Alma's discussion Sometimes the anxiety
"I agree with you about the grandchildren. That is why this year to celebrate Grandpa Tony's birthday I told my son and daughter-in-law we would not be going to the cemetery.(I did that alone this year) Their grandpa always enjoyed taking them…"
Oct 27
Alma replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"No it isn't and yet here we are. Knowing my husband chose to die sends me reeling multiple times a day. My life in a lot of respects has become about trying to get through this loss and grief."
Oct 27

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At 9:58pm on October 10, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Alma. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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