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Aloneagain
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  • Toledo, OH
  • United States
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Aloneagain replied to Barbara Ann's discussion Where is my grief?
"Everyone is different and grieve in different ways. There is no right or wrong.  Not everyone cries.  Perhaps you don’t need to cry. In a way I envy you...It’s been eight weeks for me and I haven’t stopped crying.…"
Jun 5
Aloneagain replied to Weemunk's discussion Finding Hope in the group Born in the 60s
"Reading your comment gives me hope.  Today is a good day, I am sad...yes, but I can manage and be more productive than just sitting around crying, feeling the world will swallow me.  This is something to look forward too.  I will…"
Jun 3
Estragon left a comment for Aloneagain
"In the big picture, does the carpet really matter?  If it gets cleaned a month from now, will it change the world?  Are the boxes hurting anything if they sit there for a while?  Probably no to both questions, so just look after…"
Jun 2
Estragon left a comment for Aloneagain
"I know that feeling of "what's the point".  I also know that feeling of (s)he's still here.  I also know that feeling of not wanting to be alive anymore.  For now, how about we just say the point of still being…"
Jun 2
Aloneagain commented on TeresaNY's blog post So, I ponder.....
"No one has the right to tell you or even imply that you are not grieving properly. There is no time line. Books don’t help me much. Therapy is sometimes helpful but it drains me.  You do what feels right to you because this is your…"
Jun 2
Estragon left a comment for Aloneagain
"Hi Aloneagain, I wish I could tell you it will get better right away.  At a bit over 4 months out, I'm afraid I'm still struggling.  It maybe isn't quite as constant or acute as it was in the first couple of months, but it…"
Jun 2
Aloneagain commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"My husband passed away this March. He is the love of my life, my soulmate and my best friend.  I feel lost without him.  Sometimes I stay in bed crying all day, unable to do anything for myself.  I was forced to move out of the house…"
Jun 1
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Jun 1
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Aloneagain
"Welcome to Widville, Aloneagain. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions…"
Jun 1

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We met purely by chance about three years ago. We knew right away that we had so much in common. I left the life I knew for 30 years and took a chance. We lived the kind of live that you read in books. We were each other’s best friend. We healed each other, laughed together and where never separated for the precious months we were together. When he passed away, his family erased me from his life. They did not include me in his obituary and even sent a hateful message to all of their family and friends not to ever speak to me again. I not only lost the love of my life, I lost the only support group I had. I am completely alone, surrounded by the grief and emptiness I feel. It’s not getting better, it’s getting worse. I’m drowning

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At 1:58pm on June 18, 2020, EAZYTZ said…

Im totally new to this site but looking forward to joining in.....a bit confused about adding comment and then how to get back and see if there are replies.

Is there anything that explains how it works?

I am in California - widow since Feb. last year 

today would be his 80th birthday

we met when I was 15 and he was 20!!! went different directions for years - but oddly enough, seemed to have lived in same neighborhood and had people around us who knew him and knew me but it never connected until many years later in a very serendipitous way.

Anyway, we were together (again) after both having been married and had children 

together since 1982 - married 1990 

I am convinced that the "soulmate" concept is real.!

I am suffering alot -

this is sometimes so daunting that I really wonder if I can stand it!!!!!!!

At 7:42pm on June 2, 2020, Estragon said…

In the big picture, does the carpet really matter?  If it gets cleaned a month from now, will it change the world?  Are the boxes hurting anything if they sit there for a while?  Probably no to both questions, so just look after yourself and your kids for now.  I'm kitty-sitting my daughter's cat for now, and that's what gets me up in the morning.  Maybe it's pathetic, but it seems to work.

At 7:07pm on June 2, 2020, Estragon said…

I know that feeling of "what's the point".  I also know that feeling of (s)he's still here.  I also know that feeling of not wanting to be alive anymore.  For now, how about we just say the point of still being here is me.  If you get to the point of wanting to end it, call a hotline, for me.  

I promise, it will get a bit better.  Not easy, but better.

At 7:30am on June 2, 2020, Estragon said…

Hi Aloneagain,

I wish I could tell you it will get better right away.  At a bit over 4 months out, I'm afraid I'm still struggling.  It maybe isn't quite as constant or acute as it was in the first couple of months, but it still hurts.  One thing I can tell you that your main job right now is looking after yourself as best you can physically, mentally, and emotionally.  I know that can be easier said than done, but it's really important.  This is hard enough as it is, and if you don't look after yourself, it just makes it even harder.  I've learned this the hard way.

At 1:54pm on June 1, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Aloneagain. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions for conversations on all sorts of topics. Share your story. You'll find the latest news on the HOME page.

 
 
 

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