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AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I'm here, you're doing it right! I know it's so confusing at first...It's okay, we are here ♥"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"For me, many things are worse the second year...it was so long ago that we last talked, kissed, etc. My heart is just broken...I miss him so much, that sometimes I don't know how I can go on one more minute...He was my EVERYTHING for 31 years..."
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"I totally agree with Christina...it is not worth it. You don't need someone like that in your life..."
Mariposa left a comment for AmyN
"Amy- so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is. I lost my husband 15 months ago. I wish you peace, strength, healing, courage and comfort. Hugs to you.~Mariposa"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"I feel completely hopeless...this is no life..I don't want it...All I want is to be with Wes...sometimes I feel like I cannot stand this for another minute. I don't know what to do...
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onmyown left a comment for AmyN
"Sorry you had to sell your house.That must have been a loss in itself. Are you still close to those neighbors? I know connections are so important. For me the grief has come in waves. I would think an event such as this would trigger a…"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Thank you Joyce and Onmyown...I just felt SO much better 6 months ago...since then we've had to sell our "dream home" in our neighborhood full of all the people we know, and move into a house with no memories of Wes in it...I want go…"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Lately, I feel "invisable"...like I don't fit anywhere...for me, it is definitely getting harder in this second year...I am just so sad and unhappy..."
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"That reminds me of somthing funny I saw on pinterest...This Lady says "For the LAST TIME! I DO NOT WANT TO GO TO YOUR DOG'S BIRTHDAY PARTY YOU FREAK! My Cat is getting married that day!""
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Keith's Wife, I am so sorry about everything you are going through...I wish there was somthing I could do to help you. I'm so glad you have your daughters. I will pray for you to get a job, one that you will like, and with people that will…"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"Puddy, it will be 2 years on Sept. 12th, and you have just expressed everything I'm feeling...amazing...I cry every time I'm alone in the car, and I am really not much of a "crier". They are are gut-wrenching sobs..I still cannot…"
AmyN commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"I'm in Wisconsin, my husband was 51, and died suddenly of a heart attack while in the Netherlands for work...we had no wills, or anything and I have had no problems whatsoever in those regards. I too am so lonesome for him I just wish I could…"
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- At 9:56pm on March 23, 2013,
carolynne said… Amy, are you going to CWE?
- At 9:58am on March 22, 2013,
Mariposa said… Amy- so sorry for your loss and my heart goes out to you. I know how hard it is. I lost my husband 15 months ago. I wish you peace, strength, healing, courage and comfort. Hugs to you.~Mariposa
- At 1:39am on March 20, 2013,
onmyown said… Sorry you had to sell your house.That must have been a loss in itself. Are you still close to those neighbors? I know connections are so important. For me the grief has come in waves. I would think an event such as this would trigger a lot. Again, I am so sorry. Make sure to take care of yourself. You are in my prayers. I know this pain too well and it is intense.
- At 3:23pm on July 10, 2012,
Kat said… Hi Amy,
WOW do not know what to say but Thank you. This journey that we are taking is not easy.
You live in De Pere I live in central Wi and I have daughter and her family living in Oshkosh. I hate the term so sorry for your loss. And along with the word Widow. As woman going through this we only know how it it feels. We have to............ as much as it may hurt or feel uncomfortable keep going!
- At 9:42pm on June 3, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
Supa
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- At 10:04am on May 31, 2012,
Arnie (New Normal) said… Hi AmyN,
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
- At 8:54pm on May 30, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome AmyN: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
- At 8:28pm on May 30, 2012,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
I'm so sorry Amy for the loss that brought yo here, but I'm glad you've joined us. I hope you find the same support, peace and comfort here that I have over the past year. All the wonderful friends I've made here have helped get me through some of the hardest times of my life. We will all be here for you if you need us. Welcome!
- At 5:17pm on May 30, 2012,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason you’re here but glad that you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same journey together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad that you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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