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My whole story finally written for now

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gaining Strength May 15, 2014. 14 Replies

Judy, Alex and Cornelius Roeland It was over 24 years ago that I first laid eyes on Judy, I was with friends at a nightclub in NYC Emerald City. I saw a girl that I knew Valerie, she said hello and…Continue

How is it possible 2 of my loved ones in 2 months, Now 3 in 5 months what the Hell is going onin my life?

Started this discussion. Last reply by barryanna Feb 12, 2013. 38 Replies

How is it possible to move on? I know i will for Dillon's sake (my17 yr old son) but how does it work out? I think of all the things that we all did an after losing Alex (19) and now Judy my wife of…Continue

 

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Please check out our meetup group as we are having a really good time helping each other through this dark tunnel of grief.

http://www.meetup.com/Northern-Central-NJ-Widows-Widowers/

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Soaring Spirits Regional Event - NORTH JERSEY at Red Stone Tavern

October 7, 2015 from 6:30pm to 7:30pm
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Dec 11, 2015
Arnie (New Normal) replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion hendrixx2 - Fred in the group In Memoriam
"I have lost my words but Fred was one of my first contacts after being widowed and losing my son...... Good God His words saved my life................Miss him dearly Arnie"
Sep 30, 2015
MissingRKK commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"How are you doing this weekend, Arnie?"
Jan 20, 2015
missincin (Dan) commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"Arnie....You have helped so many people here, how can you be alone. I have come to find that only 1 person from my wife's family talks to me, the rest say "their not related to me what so ever". It's sad and lonely but screw…"
Jan 20, 2015
JK (OK) commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time Arnie. Hang in there bud. I know that's what you've been doing for the last 2 1/2 years, holding on to hope that it will get better. That's all we have, don't let go of it. Try…"
Oct 16, 2014
oceangirl commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"Hugs to you, Arnie. Yes, this is all about you. I've come to realize that, in the end, it's all up to me. Even with the love from family and friends - it's up to me. Your last paragraph (I need to fight to live) - I get it. I felt…"
Oct 16, 2014
MissingRKK commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"Sending you hugs and deep breaths. Some days the tiny kernel of hope is all that exists but that tiny bit of hope is everything and enough to keep you going for a better day tomorrow. You are not insane. You are in grief. Yes, keep fighting for…"
Oct 16, 2014
Morgana (Janet) commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"(((Arnie))) I can relate to what you are saying. It isn't easy and your not alone. Sending warm ((((Hugs)))) and thoughts your way. Miss having you in chat. Remember we are all in this together to help each other get through this roller coaster…"
Oct 16, 2014
Dave55 commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"Hugs Arnie, even from where you are, you were able to give me hope when I so needed it.  It was you that got me to camp, and showed me a way forward.  I realized then that I was not alone.  Don't you forget it, I don't want…"
Oct 16, 2014
hendrixx2 commented on Arnie (New Normal)'s blog post Is it all about me?
"Hi ((Arnie)), sad to hear you're having a slump Bro, but they come; what i'm saddest about is that much of the cause for it is the lack of family support and understanding. Altho i have been fairly fortunate in that area, i think i can…"
Oct 16, 2014
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"Arnie, this is all such a sucky roller coaster ride, up one minute and down the next.  Tomorrow will hopefully be a better day.  I'm sorry about whatever your brother-in-law wrote but they don't understand and never will unless…"
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Is it all about me?

Posted on October 13, 2014 at 4:57am 9 Comments

2 years, 8 months and 11 days later

Things still can rock me to the core. I just wanted to write about my Brother-in-law, and the nasty text he wrote me,  but this is really about me. It is about thinking you are just fine and really not being just that! I miss that warm place of my wife's embrace. The embrace when the world seemed to be closing in on me, and she would just hug me and say "its ok babe as long…

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My Story_update 3-1/2 years later

Posted on March 17, 2014 at 7:00am 6 Comments

Judy, Alex and Cornelius Roeland

 It was over 24 years ago that I first laid eyes on Judy, I was with friends at a nightclub in NYC Emerald City. I saw a girl that I knew Valerie, she said hello and she told me who she was with, as she looked over her shoulder there was Judy! She had a small wall in front of her, she was wearing a white halter top and I was immediately drawn to her. I said to Val, “hook me up she is cute” I remember Valerie’s exact words, yea she is cute, you too…

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A story of Faith and continung Prayer

Posted on September 27, 2013 at 6:07am 8 Comments

I have owned a home improvement business for 3 decades now. I suffered a flood that took everything and then after this the loss of my 19 yr old son, my wife of 22 years, and my father, all in a 4 month period at the beginning the day after Thanksgiving 2011. I was deep in debt from carrying my people, and a bad economy. I have made deals with all my vendors to stay open and they all have been so…
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Money stress bringing grief right back to the beginning

Posted on February 5, 2013 at 10:39am 8 Comments

Well I am at one year plus since the loss of My wife Judy, and 19 year old son Alex. We did not have a perfect life but it was good enough to make us happy. We all loved each other, losing the 2 of them in 2 months really crushed me as well as Dillon my other son (18 now). Here i am sitting around after 47 yrs of being alive and went from a family of 4 to a family of 2, plus now Mom is here as Dad died only 2 months after my wife. I said I would take care of her and she will live with me…

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At 7:37am on July 20, 2014, GB Julie said…

Hi Arnie - long time/no talk! Hope all is going well with you. There is a new person here, she calls herself "Slick," who is dealing with multiple losses. I told her you would be a good person for her to talk to - and that you're a GREAT guy! Can you see if you can connect with her? Thanks, Julie

At 4:47pm on May 29, 2014, RiseAgain said…

HI Arnie.. I went through some changes. Needed to talk with you if you could call me at your convenience before Saturday morning. Have a meet up scheduled with some folks and want to get some imput from you  THanks Victor

At 5:02pm on March 24, 2014, Leslie said…

Hi Arnie Thanks for excepting me as a friend I read your story it is really similar to my own ,we always had aallot of troubles with my  disabled daughter.Your story about Judy is so romantic ! So Sorry for your loss.Leslie

At 9:06am on November 20, 2013, Roy said…

Hi Arnie,

Thanks for the phone call today.  See you tonight.

At 5:54am on October 10, 2013, KerryJude said…

Hi Arnie

I was on chat this morning and was hoping to talk to you.  Hope you are doing well, and have a great day!

Kerry

At 11:58am on September 17, 2013, KerryJude said…

Thanks for the friend invite, Arnie!  I now have one friend!  LOL

At 5:55pm on September 9, 2013, smileanywayNJ said…

Hey Arnie! Thanks for the friend request. I am definitely passing through North Jersey this weekend on my way to (Friday) and from (Saturday) Rhode Island to help my daughter with a few things (she's in college there). Very cool that you're hosting this event. Sorry for your loss buddy but you are blessing many by bringing us together...cool.

At 6:55am on September 2, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Feliz Cumpleanos Arnie! You are doing a very nice thing w your party!! A fellow traveller --16 monthes for me!
At 7:19am on July 22, 2013, Kathleen said…

thanks Arnie...Talk to you soon!!.  Agains so sorry for your loss's in life.  Its hard to stay positive and truly laugh...but someday God will bless us all with that!

At 5:21pm on July 9, 2013, RainSong said…

Arnie, thank you for the friend invite.  Hope all is going well with you...it sounded like lots of laughs in the main room earlier tonight.

 

 

 
 
 

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