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AtSam(Steve)
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AtSam(Steve) replied to Mimis's discussion Still doesn't feel real! in the group Widowed in 2019
"Mimis, Your feelings are natural and there are no answer nor magic words that help us. At first everything seemed unreal and now as I come to accept to the reality of Sharon death it kind of is slapping me hard. The holidays and it being winter in…"
Jan 21
AtSam(Steve) replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Maggiepie, I have pretty much from day one. I think it is completely natural to think and talk out loud to our loved ones. I have always talked to my late father in my mind (not so much out loud). He was very special to me my whole life and he died…"
Jan 14
AtSam(Steve) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Dee, I have not had any anger towards others, since Sharon died.  Too sad to be angry I guess. Was told that tonight, oh you are so strong. Nope look closer, my eyes are glossed most of the time, cannot breathe chest is so tight most of the…"
Jan 12
AtSam(Steve) replied to Lost Girl's discussion Living a life I did not choose in the group Widowed in 2019
"Sorry someone was following you who you did not want. Another issue of being widowed is people trying to take advantage. Please watch out for yourself.  Lost Girl, your feeling about New Years started for me a few weeks ago. Just thinking about…"
Dec 28, 2019
Maggiepie left a comment for AtSam(Steve)
"Thanks for reaching out, Steve. Appreciate the thought."
Dec 25, 2019
AtSam(Steve) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"DeeDee, What a wonderful memory to share with us! Thank You, brought a smile to my face! Tears of love flow freely. Without the love there would not be the lost we all have. I find myself often, as of late, just sitting with almost a blank empty…"
Dec 24, 2019
AtSam(Steve) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Tiang5, We CARE as we share the same issues. You might be able to find a widows group local which can help. They are not grief councilors but those that are or were in a very similar spot you are right now. Safe places to share and express your…"
Dec 22, 2019
AtSam(Steve) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"How so very cruel we all find ourselves in this very dark place of loneliness. For me my heart is shattered and my mind is broken.  Ten weeks ago was the last time I held the love my my life for the last time. Now as others, I have pictures and…"
Dec 22, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to Lost Girl's discussion Living a life I did not choose in the group Widowed in 2019
"Denise, 10-10-2019 everything changed forever. Sharon was 54 when she was taken, after a short illness. Your thoughts and feelings are a mirror of many. The inability to breathe, the difficult memories that just do not want to leave our brains, no…"
Dec 13, 2019
Sleepless In Seattle left a comment for AtSam(Steve)
"In the beginning of her talk, she talked ten seconds about the lingering need for sex, I thought, Sex! “Sex makes you a candidate for the nuthouse if you don’t go crazy first.”  And I had to laugh at my self. Thanks for the…"
Nov 24, 2019
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Nov 15, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Something that kind of fits in our discussion which a friend sent me this morning. https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it?language=en Hope it helps."
Nov 15, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Athena53, Funny thing is both of my FIL wives died of diseases. He was not really part of their day to day care but he was there. He is very religious and completely believes God has a plan and just keeps marching forward. Second wife was maybe not…"
Nov 7, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to Rich's discussion The obsession of starting a new relationship
"Rich, I will relate to you my thoughts. My whole world crashed not long ago. In real time it crashed the day the doctors told us there was little to hope, other than time. We went from being the happiest people in the world to spending all of our…"
Nov 6, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"AandC  MeToo! The often repeated responses from people cause me to roll my eyes at times. You made me chuckle with what you said about the correct response. It is the way I feel also. Never was much of a hug'er but if someone reaches out…"
Nov 3, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"DebiT, Your words hit me hard. This is all new to me but everything you write is like I am seeing it in a mirror. My wife and I have been together since age 15 married 35 years this past August. I also knew how lucky I was - told her often I was…"
Nov 3, 2019

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At 6:17pm on December 25, 2019, Maggiepie said…

Thanks for reaching out, Steve. Appreciate the thought.

At 3:47pm on November 24, 2019, Sleepless In Seattle said…

In the beginning of her talk, she talked ten seconds about the lingering need for sex, I thought, Sex!

“Sex makes you a candidate for the nuthouse if you don’t go crazy first.”  And I had to laugh at my self.

Thanks for the video.  It made me realize that I was still at the station with the baggage of pain.  You know, If you by chance, someone should slip off the platform into eternity, just make sure you’ve got your ticket punch for heaven.  That was a really good video, and helpful too.  Thank!

At 12:48am on October 13, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, AtSam. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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