Funny thing is both of my FIL wives died of diseases. He was not really part of their day to day care but he was there. He is very religious and completely believes God has a plan and just keeps marching forward. Second wife was maybe not…"
I will relate to you my thoughts.
My whole world crashed not long ago. In real time it crashed the day the doctors told us there was little to hope, other than time. We went from being the happiest people in the world to spending all of our…"
The often repeated responses from people cause me to roll my eyes at times. You made me chuckle with what you said about the correct response. It is the way I feel also. Never was much of a hug'er but if someone reaches out…"
Your words hit me hard.
This is all new to me but everything you write is like I am seeing it in a mirror. My wife and I have been together since age 15 married 35 years this past August. I also knew how lucky I was - told her often I was…"
"Talking and reaching out hopefully is a good start Mel.
Each minute seems like a struggle. Our minds telling ourselves we could have done more is not healthy but a sad reality. The truth is, it is doubtful anything you could have said or did would…"
We can all tell you it is not your fault. Hopefully one day you will see that we are powerless over others. I hope his actions do not drag you down into his gutter. An alcoholic mind is so evil and self defeating, there was no way for you or…"
"I too totally understand where you are coming from. The loss for me was devastating and has left a hugh hole in my heart.
Unless you have experienced a loss of your spouse, you cannot feel or understand what the grief process is. My sweet…"
"Heart goes out to you Justme!
Searching for support led me here and I am seeing that we are not going nuts. I go home and keep wanting to talk to my best friend I could ever imagine and she is not there to talk with anymore. That and not being held…"
"Truly, I am so sorry to learn of your lost. Believe me I do understand. My darling husband and I met in the sixth grade. We attended different high schools so we didn't see each other again until we were 20 and 22....but the bond was…"
"It is going to be like this for a while, Sam. Our lives are forever changed in the most horrific of ways. But I believe they can hear us and they are mentally with us. Hang on in there. We are only separated for a while. "
Yes, I said to Sharon a few days ago I wish we would just wake up from this nightmare and it not be real. I also said that if the nightmare was real I just want to hold her in my arms we could just go to sleep and never wake up. Now she is…"
My name is Steve. Lost my wife, Sharon, on 10/10/2019 at 7:43pm while I laying beside her holding her hands looking into her deep blue eyes. She dealt with colon cancer for 10 months, I say dealt as we were told it was way too far gone…"
"I have looked for the Chat function here and it seems to be gone.
Yep that is exactly what I need is to talk to others. Tried to join a grief group but was told I have to wait 60 to 90 days. Will go to one on one next week. Most of the pain is in…"
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