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BarbsWife (Tamera)
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Posted on August 10, 2013 at 9:30am 4 Comments

In the 4+ months since Barb has died (and even before when she was very sick), I have given a lot of thought to moving out of our house to another smaller, easier to care for house.  It is hard to consider...I love our/my house, and I live in a neighborhood where I "know everyone" --when I walk my dog , I always run into people who I talk to, and sometimes have a glass or wine or beer with.  My immediate neighbors are close friends who I share dinner and many good laughs with.  Although I…


Is Crying a "disease"?

Posted on August 5, 2013 at 5:45pm 5 Comments

I feel like I have been doing pretty damn well on this sh*&&^ journey I am on.   For most days in the past 4 months since losing Barb I have exercised, cooked for myself, seen friends, kept the house up and even worked some.   I am taking on some tasks (like cleaning out closets) that I could not even think of two months ago without wanting to hurl.    I have had a few days where I have curled up and done nothing but really, very few.   So, why is that when I cry, which…


The Anniversay Gift

Posted on July 26, 2013 at 2:00am 1 Comment

I have been very fortunate to spend the entire month of July at an apartment on the beach where my dog and I walk 2 hours every morning, in and out of the waves. (She runs and chases the ball the entire time). I have family who live within a mile of here and see them often in the evenings but I have deliberately chosen to spend most of this time alone, recovering from the 19 months of Barb's caregiving and her recent death in April. As I get ready to pack up and return home to m friends, my… Continue

One foot at a where?

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 3:30pm 2 Comments

It has now been almost 4 months since I lost my partner after an 18 month fight with cancer. Her brave battle with cancer and subsequent death left me exhausted but determined to continue to live for both of us. Barb would have given anything for one more sunrise, one more walk, one more day..and she would have shown gratitude for that day in a thousand ways as she did every day of her life. As she did to me.

So....every day I am putting one foot in front of the other... walking miles and… Continue

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At 6:17pm on May 14, 2013, Joyce said…

Welcome Barbswife: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"


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