"Barbie: I get it. I guess we have to guess what they would do. I was just thinking what would he do with all of my stuff???? I think he would have my daughter go thru it all and give it all away. I can hear him in my head…"
"It is now been 20 months. It does not seem like that much time has gone by. I have donated all his jeans and good socks and undies to a mens shelter. I have given all his umpire gear to his brother to share with other new umpires.…"
"Gordy's Widow: I did the same. I did it many more times. Then one day, I was home alone ... and I yelled at his picture and cried really hard; why are you never coming back!; YOU ARE never coming back; YOU ARE NEVER EVER…"
"Most definitively write her the most hateful letter, letting all your anger out. Forgive her in the letter too. Then BURN it. Make a nice ceremony in burning it. These kinds of actions will really help you let go of her…"
"Whoa. Guess I needed to have something to say. But I have to go back to work now.
Everyone I love to ready your comments. You all really understand. And I really understand you! Love and Blessings Always."
"I have only gotten rid of his regular jeans and some pants. Some shirts. I kept a lot of his t-shirts and will someday make a quilt orhave someone do it for me. Maybe two or three for me and my two kids. I got rid of his…"
"Paul: I'm sure your vet will advise you well. If you trust your vet, he will have the best interest of your kitty in his advice for her care. If they give you the worst news, please remember Eli's good life. I know it…"
"Go for it. As long as you feed them, THEY will not let you get down. If you can afford two, get them! 7 months after my hubby died, our second old kitty died. I had a list a mile long for new guys. So I babysat a couple…"
I would try and hire has much help as you can for now. If your neighbor has more to say ask him if he will do it at a better price or if he can recommend someone else, otherwise tell him "helpful suggestions would be…"
"It has been 19 months. It is better at times. More times. I have accepted, his loss will always be hard. But I will continue to remind myself. He never liked to see my cry. He loved my smile. I am always…"
"I know our pets are very precious during our seasons of grief. We had two cats; spooky and KC. Spooky died right before my husband was diagnosed and KC passed 7 mos after him. It was really hard losing them both. I was so…"
"I have been reading so many comments. It is really nice to hear that we are so many and that we all "get it". It has been 18 months now after 35 years. I can even imagine being with another man. But I know my husband…"
"Grace, I see you are in a similar situation. - sort of. I say celebrate - it is what you husband would want you to. Cry, because that is how you feel! I found myself laughing and crying at the same time yesterday. Very…"
"Cathy, I too wonder why my father, 81 yrs, survied and not my hubby, 60 years. His 61st bday was hard, but I got family together to celebrate. We all celebrated our bdays, and especially mine and my hubby. My Bday is 9/13 and the…"
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