"I thought I was doing pretty good, in my own way. Until I talked to my brother-in-law last night. For some reason, the phone connection was acting up and we kept getting cut off. When we finally reconnected, he told me that he had called me and…"
"Glad to see you're still here, Terry! I was following your journey. I've made it through 1 3/4 years now. The acute pain is not so much, but the missing, the memories of everything are sometimes hard to manage. My life seems so alone and…"
"Thanks for your support, Hope! I try to be active but by the end of the week I often just don't have the energy or inclination. Time gets away from me and I "catch up" on the weekend. And anything extra, such as a trip out to see my…"
"Struggling with so many things right now - trying to care for my 95 yr old mom who lives 3 hrs away, being legally blind with an inoperable cataract that is aggravated by bright sunlight, financial stress as I discover that my salary will go down…"
"Terry and Flower, I am right there with you! I would love to be able to just go according to my own rhythm instead of trying to keep up with the rest of the world. And they soo don't get it! Everyone is so invested in you moving on according to…"
"To Cindy, Hope, and Seaneen...yes, I hear you!!! I can't imagine looking too far into the future and seeing nothing there! I would like to have companionship again, but I want it to walk up to me. I am not about to start looking for someone! I…"
"It seems like the fog is lifting. I can think more clearly! Some of you know that I am legally blind and that my husband was my "good" eyes. We used to go everywhere together and even mundane things became dates for use. Two places that we…"
"Hope, it's only been 15 months since my husband died but I also share your feelings. I miss him terribly, yet I am managing to go to work and I am actually figuring out how to take care of myself better lately. But the saness and loss is always…"
"Laurajay and IBelieveinYou, I feel like I am being shut down and redirected elsewhere to discuss a spiritual aspect of sudden death and grieving. I think the topic I posted is very germane, especially to sudden death. I had friends who asked me…"
"Solamente Mio, I have had similar experiences of communication from the afterlife as well. Those brief moments have come as signs such as pennies, thoughts in my head that I recognize as "not my own" and in his "flavor", as well…"
"One Year Later....
My brother-in-law and I had the memorial for hubby this weekend. Last year when it happened, I was a basket case and no way was I going to be able to handle a funeral, so we put it off. A wise decision! A yeR AGO THERE WAS…"
"Mary H, thanks. I see you understand what I mean. I am not a weak or dependent person. Most people know, but I also think they may take advantage of that by not allowing me room to be less than that. Or they decide to take over my life. I will…"
"The Year in Recap
So, it's just about a year since hubby passed. My brother-in-law and I are having a memorial at the Brooklyn Botanic Garden. Just a few people...maybe 10 altogether. I can't believe the time has flown by, but this year…"
"It's not the actual calendar date anniversary, which is October 9, but it feels like it's maybe the "52 weeks in a year" anniversary. I have been thinking of Al more than usual and feeling the emptiness. I long for the weekend…"