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Cath replied to Marvy's discussion travel documents for children whose parent has died
"Thanks so much for posting the link...the death certificate is such a trigger for so many and I can't imagine carrying it around every time I take my 3 little boys on vacation for the next 12 years.. Please help change this x"
Jan 13, 2016
Lupe's husband replied to Cath's discussion Camp widow Toronto 2014 - can we connect here too and match handles with names?
"I remember speaking with you more than once Bobby's Girl.  It was nice meeting you.    I probably will only be going to Camp Widow San Diego next year.   Good to see you are on Widowed Village.  Keep in touch.  "
Nov 7, 2014
Lupe's husband replied to Cath's discussion Camp widow Toronto 2014 - can we connect here too and match handles with names?
"My name is Steve.    I live in the Montecito Heights area of Los Angeles.     If you know Los Angeles, the surrounding communities are Highland Park, Mt. Washington and Lincoln…"
Sep 29, 2014
Cath replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow CANADA in Toronto? Let's get acquainted!
"I know its over....but can we go back now?! Thank you to all for making this a life changing experience. I truly feel blessed for the first time in a long time :)"
Sep 29, 2014
Cath commented on Dave55's blog post My first Camp Widow - Toronto 2014
"Dave, it was wonderful to meet you! Being with so many truly lovely people who get the journey was exactly what I needed and when I needed it. Sometimes I wish I could live at camp xoxoxox"
Sep 29, 2014
Cath commented on flannery's blog post Learning To Compassionately Embrace The Wound And Walk With The Limp
"Beautifully put....I know my "scar" with be with me forever.....xo"
Sep 24, 2014
Cath commented on AuntT (Steph)'s blog post Out of Place.
"Awww Steph I feel the same way a lot of the time....getting used to pretending everything is fine time but crap is it exhausting xo hugs"
Sep 24, 2014
Cath commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 70s
"Ocmama17 I'm glad you found this place! It has certainly helped me feel like im not the only one travelling this horrible road. I have three boys and talking about the issues with raising them without their daddy here with people that…"
Sep 24, 2014
Cath commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"You are not a soulless bitch lol....I am sorry for what you are going thru :( The problem is that unless you have lost a piece of your heart you just don't understand what this feels like. I know my friends and family have the idea that because…"
Sep 24, 2014
Cath replied to teacher50's discussion Hello. My prayers are with all of you
"Welcome....but I'm sorry you are here :( I have my second angelversary in November, and I have three kids too but they are 10, 7 and 3. One day at a time is really all we can do! One foot in front of the other until I learn to run on my own :).…"
Sep 24, 2014
Cath replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Who's going to Camp Widow CANADA in Toronto? Let's get acquainted!
"Three more sleeps!!! Can't wait to meet you all x"
Sep 23, 2014
only1sue commented on Cath's blog post The two sides of a coin
"Just had the two year anniversary of my husband's death.  I made sure i was busy all day so i didn't mope but got home and the dam broke and down I went into a fit of misery.  Yes, it is a two sided coin and you don't know…"
Sep 19, 2014
Cath commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"My two year is November 8th...the weeks leading up to it were truly painful for Kev to endure and me and the kids to watch. I wish I could forget the horrible and just remember the's still so painful to think about...being here and…"
Sep 18, 2014
Cath commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Anne, my angelversary is Nov 8 and last year we (our three little boys and I) celebrated Kev's life instead of marking his death. I took them zip lining as it was on his list to do with them. As I go forward I'm going to try to do the…"
Sep 6, 2014
Cath commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Ali I'm sending you love and hugs this morning xoxo just think of that beautiful smart grand baby of yours and know that we are here for you x"
Sep 6, 2014
Cath commented on shamrock's blog post Angry
"Shamrock, I think most of us have been angry at losing our partners no matter how it happened...unfortunately there is no solution to this, its a part of grief. I'm trying to meditate and do yoga to calm my heart and somehow find piece. Sending…"
Sep 5, 2014

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The two sides of a coin

Posted on September 18, 2014 at 5:40am 1 Comment

It's my memories. They are like two sides of a coin. One flip and I'm brought back to laughter and silly and happy, where smiles abound and giggles and joy are intermingles with love. They are the memories I need, that feel my soul and allow for that one foot in front of the other thing. Then there's another toss and it goes dark and scary and hurtful, where pain was a daily occurrence and where the feeling of helplessness took up residence. I want to find a way to weight the coin so that it… Continue

The Letters :(

Posted on August 11, 2014 at 9:22am 4 Comments

I was going through more stuff this weekend....through computer stuff and files that I haven't been able to look at and read. They are Kevin's words you see...thoughts that came out of his head. He was the list maker, had lists for everything, boys camping list, bucket list, list on how to beat cancer, list of things he wanted to take the boys to. It was in going through this stuff finally with tears streaming down my face that I found them. Letters. A letter for our boys, or two of them… Continue

Sometimes I'm just not ok...

Posted on August 8, 2014 at 6:07am 9 Comments

I am trying. So very hard. This is not the life I wanted, not the way it was supposed to be. I had a loving husband, two beautiful boys and one on the way when cancer came and stole my life, my children's daddy, my life partner. I've been told to keep things as normal as possible for the kids but nothing about this is normal. Normal is daddy making them breakfast in the morning, normal is daddy tucking them into bed with me. I am trying so hard to create a new normal but I hate it, hate how it… Continue

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At 11:21am on August 22, 2014, loycer said…

Cath:  It will become LESS painful with time and you have the beautiful children to comfort you.  it is good that you have this site and can be supported by other young widows like yourself as you do have youth on your side and we all have our own strengths but continue to reach out and allow yourself to be supported by the positive peeps who do care.  Feel all your feelings and realize that most of us are feeling the same emotions of sorrow/sadness/disappointment so you are in a gigantic club

At 4:20pm on August 7, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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