"I can understand that, MrsD. Please understand that I am speaking for myself & not trying to advocate for remarriage. Just want to make that clear. :-)
I loved being married to my late wife, too. Unfortunately she died,…"
"I felt very much the same as most of you when my wife died - I was never going to date anyone else, etc. That all changed when I met a very special person, though. I didn't think it was possible, but God has blessed me by putting…"
"I had to ID my wife's body after she died. Those are images that I wish I could erase from my mind. I had no choice in the matter, though, so no regrets when it comes to having to see her. I give a lot of credit to those of…"
"Kiki8 - I was widowed at 28 (my 5 year anniversary is Thursday the 27th, actually) and shared similar thoughts as you. My late wife (Sarah) and I were working on our first when she died & I envy your living, breathing reminder of your late…"
"If you are having suicidal thoughts, please talk with someone - a counselor, therapist, etc. Get help. Don't try & do this alone!
Killing yourself will do nothing to honor your late spouse. Instead, use the time…"
"I told myself that I would never remarry, too. My counselor reminded me that I was in a good marriage partially because of me, and that people who are in good marriages tend to get remarried after their spouse dies because they know of the…"
"The whole 'kid' element is a tough one! My late wife died when we were working on our first. She had stopped taking the pill a month or two prior & had just made her first entry into her pregnancy journal. I am…"
"I agree, K21 - our old lives are over. But that doesn't mean we stop living! It's just the end of a chapter in our life. The good news is that we are given an opportunity to start over and better ourselves. We have…"
Hey Chris- thanks for the friend invitation. I just trolled around your wall and saw that you're four years in- I'm so very sorry for you loss. I think it's great that you are here as a support in spite of your own ongoing grief- I remember how helpful it was for me to hear from others on the journey before me and the reassurance I received in those moments when I thought I was going crazy. Hoping you are having a peaceful day, and wishing you continued strength and comfort moving forward...Tanya
I can't imagine what it must have been like to see your wife slipping away like that.
I read your comment:"It was also evident to me that God has his hand in everything that happened that day".
I am a Christian(not sure if you are) and am curious what was this "evidence" that led you to feel that God had his hand in the events of the day? I am sorry, that is a pretty heavy question. I guess I am just trying to relate it to my situation. When everything first happened(heart attack) I was numb and in shock and felt that my faith in God pulled me through those 1st few weeks/months but now almost 2 years later.. I find myself questioning many things.
Your story is pretty unique. I hear lots others stories of loss but none quite like yours. Having children forces you to keep your loved ones memories alive, but when you have none then I can see how that would be difficult. Talking about my LH and what he loved to do is "okay" around everyone because the kids should hear about their father. But if you don't have children then those stories seam to be "not okay" to everyone else after a while. I can appreciate your situation.
Chris, it was so nice to meet you and your wife at Camp Widow last summer -- thanks for joining this "under construction" site -- look forward to supporting you and hearing your feedback on making this the best place possible! Thank you!