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CinaBina
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  • Los Angeles, CA
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Bellaboo left a comment for CinaBina
"Honestly I was numb for the first year. I couldn’t believe he was gone, I couldn’t handle anything that life threw at me, I ran away for most of it on trips, and I think the biggest thing was that I didn’t care what happened to me.…"
Nov 27, 2018
Bellaboo left a comment for CinaBina
"Thanks for the message, I’m sorry for your loss as well. I’m hanging in. Honestly I’m just starting to feel “normal” again which is a nice feeling but also scary hitting the reset button. Im starting to go to a therapy…"
Nov 26, 2018
kat left a comment for CinaBina
"I know... I have been in my bed for an entire year just in denial of this horrible existence... Some say it gets easier to handle to pain or the load feels lighter, but going on year 2 I feel the load even more so. If you ever need to talk to…"
Sep 24, 2018
kat left a comment for CinaBina
"Hi CinaBina, I saw your comment on "Born in the 80s" and it didn't seem like anyone responded? I might be wrong... I am new to all this as well. I am actually part of the Born in the 90s group but it seems like there is more action…"
Sep 23, 2018
Sar_ML left a comment for CinaBina
"Thank you for your comment and the well wishes. We are taking it day by day but it's s hard adjusting and accepting this new reality when everything inside me wants to think it can't be true... it sounds like we both joined this 'club…"
Sep 4, 2018
CinaBina replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I'm sorry to hear that.  It's sucks planning your whole lives together, expecting to grow old with each other.  You are so strong to keep going for your children.  I'm a mess staying at home and avoiding everybody,…"
Jul 28, 2018
CinaBina commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"Hello everyone, I am new to this website.  My husband unexpectedly passed away June 2018 and I'm hating my life.  Food doesn't taste right, things I use to enjoy I'm not liking, I get annoyed easily.  My attitude…"
Jul 27, 2018
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Jul 26, 2018
CinaBina replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you for your kind words.  It's nice talking with someone I can relate to(even though the situation sucks).  I understand that I can't really think clearly but people think because I'm a little "off" that they…"
Jul 26, 2018
CinaBina replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hello, my husband passed away recently and I'm feeling a little lost, confused, and overwhelmed.  Friends and family mean well but they don't understand the daily struggle.  There's unnecessary stress on top of dealing with…"
Jul 26, 2018
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for CinaBina
"Welcome to Widville, CinaBina. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions…"
Jul 24, 2018

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At 10:22am on November 27, 2018, Bellaboo said…

Honestly I was numb for the first year. I couldn’t believe he was gone, I couldn’t handle anything that life threw at me, I ran away for most of it on trips, and I think the biggest thing was that I didn’t care what happened to me. It is totally normal to feel crappy at family functions, a lot of times they feel like they’ve moved on so you should to. There is no way to move on from the loss of your spouse, you just learn to live through it. Don’t feel guilty for staying home sometimes, you need it, but don’t completely isolate yourself. Like I said before, I am just starting to feel kind of normal again and it’s been almost 2 years. I still have days where I don’t get out of bed, I’m still irritable and exhausted, and I still think about Stefan every minute of my day. However, I believe it is now my job to live as he saw me and honour his love for me. He thought the world of me so I need to feel that about myself. I think if you have that thinking you kind of feel like you have purpose again. I know everyone and every relationship is different but I always believe your partner loved you because they thought you are pretty amazing and inspiring so honour them by believing in yourself. 

At 5:49pm on November 26, 2018, Bellaboo said…

Thanks for the message, I’m sorry for your loss as well. I’m hanging in. Honestly I’m just starting to feel “normal” again which is a nice feeling but also scary hitting the reset button. Im starting to go to a therapy group 3 days a week to treat my PTSD which is making my life a lot easier. I’m glad to hear you are finding support, it’s not easy to do especially in our age group. If you have any questions please feel free to ask, I would never judge, we all do crazy / weird things when we’re grieving. 

At 7:32am on September 24, 2018, kat said…

I know... I have been in my bed for an entire year just in denial of this horrible existence... Some say it gets easier to handle to pain or the load feels lighter, but going on year 2 I feel the load even more so. If you ever need to talk to someone, I am here. 

At 9:29am on September 23, 2018, kat said…

Hi CinaBina,

I saw your comment on "Born in the 80s" and it didn't seem like anyone responded? I might be wrong... I am new to all this as well. I am actually part of the Born in the 90s group but it seems like there is more action on the 80s group. I became a widow at 25.  You asked if it got better - I just passed the year mark and unfortunately... it doesn't. I feel like the second year is harder for me than the first. Everyone is different though, and I hope you find a way to have hope. I am back living with my parents, on a leave of absence from graduate school. I spend every day in bed - just in intense grief and sorrow. I know this doesn't make you feel better, but maybe it will make you feel less alone? If you ever want to chat please reach out - my number is 941-468-4933. I love looking at your photos, and if you want to talk more about your husband please let me know, sharing stories seems to be the only soothing thing. Much love to you. 

At 3:29pm on September 4, 2018, Sar_ML said…

Thank you for your comment and the well wishes. We are taking it day by day but it's s hard adjusting and accepting this new reality when everything inside me wants to think it can't be true... it sounds like we both joined this 'club no one wants to join' around the same time. I'm sorry for the heartache you must be feeling too. 

At 8:04pm on July 24, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, CinaBina. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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