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DebiT
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  • Simi Valley, CA
  • United States
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Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"I'm so sorry. You are probably still in shock and disbelief, so give yourself time, lots of it, before expecting to somewhat move on. I've been told there's no timeline for grief."
Nov 27, 2019
Lisa replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"It is really hard, and most days I don't manage it. I agree, it often still doesn't seem real. It is only one month today for me."
Nov 27, 2019
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, I know how you feel. It's been 6 months for me, and I can't emerge from the fog and confusion and depression."
Nov 26, 2019
Mary replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, that is probably a good way to look at it, but still so difficult.  I just can't seem to get things sorted out in my mind about all of this.  Some days it still doesn't even seem real."
Nov 26, 2019
Lisa replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Mary, I'm so sorry. Maybe we will get back there with a little more time. I guess for myself right now, though, I have decided to think about it this way. If we won't ever be together again, and our time here was all we had, was it worth…"
Nov 25, 2019
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Pray for stronger faith. It works."
Nov 24, 2019
Mary replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Lisa, I feel the same way also.  I used to believe that we will be together with our loved ones again, but now I'm not so sure.  I'm just questioning everything.  I don't really know how to come to peace with all of it."
Nov 24, 2019
Lisa replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Cville Sarah, I do feel that way too. I wish I could find comfort from others' belief that they'll be with their loved ones again, or even their reassurances that my partner and I will be together again. It's something I have believed…"
Nov 21, 2019
Judyrose replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
" CvilleSarah, Reading your comment made me cry. I’m like you and Mary I don’t know how to live the rest of my life . I’m just waiting till I can be with him again.   Hugs   Judyrose "
Nov 13, 2019
Judyrose replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Melissa,  That makes so much sense. I think your brain is so use to think about how you use to do things with him it doesn’t know how to do it alone.  Thank you for the link, it was so helpful. I keep it on my phone so I can go back…"
Nov 13, 2019
Judyrose replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Mary  I’m sorry to hear about your dog I hope he is doing better.  Doing things by myself that we use to do together is so hard. The first time is the hardest, I was changing the batteries in the smoke alarms and just broke down…"
Nov 13, 2019
CvilleSarah replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"These comments really resonate with me too. I constantly feel like I’m “in a fog”, and what was said about there not being much room in my brain right now for anything but grief really makes a lot of sense. That’s how it…"
Nov 11, 2019
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank God for our faith. I went to my parish's All Souls Mass and they called out the names of those who died in the last year. When they said my husband's name, it was comforting to know he was being prayed for. I'm so glad we know…"
Nov 4, 2019
Melissa replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Judyrose, Like DebiT below, I also recently attended an event for those who have lost someone in the last year. We were talking about how thick grief can feel, how it can cloud your normal executive functioning. One woman said she accidently paid…"
Nov 4, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"AandC  MeToo! The often repeated responses from people cause me to roll my eyes at times. You made me chuckle with what you said about the correct response. It is the way I feel also. Never was much of a hug'er but if someone reaches out…"
Nov 3, 2019
AtSam(Steve) replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"DebiT, Your words hit me hard. This is all new to me but everything you write is like I am seeing it in a mirror. My wife and I have been together since age 15 married 35 years this past August. I also knew how lucky I was - told her often I was…"
Nov 3, 2019

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At 6:48pm on July 22, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, DebiT. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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