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DebiT
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  • Simi Valley, CA
  • United States
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CvilleSarah replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"These comments really resonate with me too. I constantly feel like I’m “in a fog”, and what was said about there not being much room in my brain right now for anything but grief really makes a lot of sense. That’s how it…"
yesterday
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Thank God for our faith. I went to my parish's All Souls Mass and they called out the names of those who died in the last year. When they said my husband's name, it was comforting to know he was being prayed for. I'm so glad we know…"
Nov 4
Melissa replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Judyrose, Like DebiT below, I also recently attended an event for those who have lost someone in the last year. We were talking about how thick grief can feel, how it can cloud your normal executive functioning. One woman said she accidently paid…"
Nov 4
AtSam replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"AandC  MeToo! The often repeated responses from people cause me to roll my eyes at times. You made me chuckle with what you said about the correct response. It is the way I feel also. Never was much of a hug'er but if someone reaches out…"
Nov 3
AtSam replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"DebiT, Your words hit me hard. This is all new to me but everything you write is like I am seeing it in a mirror. My wife and I have been together since age 15 married 35 years this past August. I also knew how lucky I was - told her often I was…"
Nov 3
DebiT replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Today is 8 months, and the calendar matches up, so today is 8 mos on a Saturday.  It was very upsetting to me yesterday to realize that.  I am so grateful for my faith, and the religious rituals that it brings.  Because today is also…"
Nov 2
Mary replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Judyrose, I feel that way, too.  Sometimes have trouble with the simplest thing because I feel like I can't think straight.  Some of it is exhaustion from not sleeping well and now one of my dogs is having health issues.  So,…"
Nov 2
Judyrose replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"I’m So sorry for everyone’s loss. It’s been 5 months for me after 49 years together. I keep telling him it’s been long enough he needs to come back now. Does anyone else feel like they are in a fog? I do some of the dumbest…"
Nov 2
DebiT replied to Mel's discussion Loss By Addiction/Suicide in the group Widowed in 2019
"I am so sorry that your husband did this.  If you have been dealing with his addiction for a while, then you have probably heard already that none of us can persuade an addict to give up his addiction.  And that addiction messes with their…"
Oct 26
DebiT replied to Judyrose's discussion Lost in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Mary I lost my husband of 41 years not quite 7 months ago. We were together 45 years, ever since I was 16. I'm not on this group often, I read it in "chunks" and then not for a while.  I saw your comment about feeling like…"
Sep 28
AandC replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"DebiT I'm not sure what to say. I could say I'm sorry for your loss that most of get often. But, then the response of thank you is the correct response which doesn't make sense.  I'm still trying to understand and cope with…"
Sep 16
Pat in Ct replied to DebiT's discussion So many places to say goodbye in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi Debi, I'm in the same spot you are. I'm 59 and my husband died unexpectedly four months ago today. I like your model because it shows me that I'm not the only one experiencing the exhaustion. Getting out of bed is so hard.…"
Sep 15
DebiT added 2 discussions to the group Widowed in 2019
Sep 15
DebiT replied to DebiT's discussion Regrets about what I didn’t realize in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Erica Thank you for this.  My condolences to you as well.  Your experience just shows me that no matter what is already done, we think about what more could have been done.  In the end, it just happened, and if these things could…"
Aug 12
Erica_D_W replied to DebiT's discussion Regrets about what I didn’t realize in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear DebiT, I am so sorry for your loss of Randy. I am three years out of a very similar experience and I responded to another post somewhat similarly as I am responding to you. Nearly three years ago, my husband Alex died of a massive heart attack.…"
Aug 12
DebiT replied to DebiT's discussion Regrets about what I didn’t realize in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Thank you all.  I'm sure everyone in this group feels the same way.  His doctor did call me right after and we had a long conversation.  I think that hindsight makes everything seem so obvious, but I'm not sure anyone would…"
Aug 5

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At 6:48pm on July 22, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, DebiT. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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