"I just have no ambition, each day just drifts by, and then the next. I try to force myself out of the house every couple of weeks, but if I don't need anything from the store, well why waste gas? It's cold here for us, down to…"
"I am going to take our wedding rings and have them made into a bracelet some day. At one time he thought he had lost his ring, again, and we had another made. It is far larger and heavier than the first replacement we had made. So I have three of…"
"Today it is 7 months since my sweet husband passed away at barely 60. Still seems impossible. I know he isn't coming back like from a trip as he used to do, but even our dog looks out the window for his car.
I am holding up as well…"
"I am approaching the 6 month mark (Dec 8) and so dreading Christmas as that was the day Steve was rushed via ambulance to ER. Then the next 5 1/2 months of hospital visits, 11 times ranging from 4 to 17 days, and then...................
"Wednesday we will go to the cementry and they will place Steve's ashes in the grave, next to our son's. Did this same thing for our son 15 years go, same week, right before Thanksgiving. *sigh* I am really dragging, and…"
"Oh do I understand the hoarding issue, both my mom who passed Jan 2011 and my hsband who passed June 2012 loved to shop and shop and shop. I am so over helmed by the amount of stuff. Both bought so many clothes, ell everything!"
"Thought I'd check in as I am back and "survived" the cruise. It was a good decompression time. I am glad my daughter talked me into going. It was to be our 40th anniversary ruise, 30 days and 21 ports. I…"
"I have a friend who is retired from UN in Africa. She lives in Chiang Mai and has invited me to come over and help w/Hmong farmers in Luang Prabang area of Laos. I am seriously thinking this would be a good healing venture. This…"
I also will be at 3 months on Sept 8. Steve was diagnosed Dec 25 in ER and was in hospital 11 times before passing. It was so fast and he was so sick, losy 55# in that timeframe. He was 175# at 6' for 30 some…"
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Hi Brandy, thanks for the friend request. I haven't been on in awhile but it was nice to get on tonight and find a few new friends. I hope you are hanging in there and finding ways to peace. It's quite a process. I just passed the one-year date. My husband and I were together 35 years. So hard to start life over again at 56 :(
Hi there and thanks for the friend request. That's so interesting about your husband being originally from this area - this is a pretty little place so it's one of those "small world" things, I suppose. Anyway, so very sorry for your loss and hope that you're doing as well as can possibly be expected. Wishing you all the best. Lynne
Yes, we are going to make it. We may have bad days, but we're going to have good days too! It is two steps forward, one back. Sometimes it's one step forward, two back, but then I pick myself up again and keep putting one foot in front of the other. I lost my Neal after only 5 years together, but that doesn't make the pain any less. We were enjoying life together so much. He was supremely happy after years of being miserable. And I finally found the love of my life. I am gonna make it through this and keep living. I know that's what Neal would want me to do!
So sorry we have to meet this way, I am Arnie from NJ and offer friendship and a ear when needed. I do not write much but love the chat feature so I hope to see you there. My losses are many in short times, a 19 yr old son, a wife of 21-1/2 yrs, a Dad and BF wife all in span of less than 7 months, new and very deep but I have found an amazing place of comfort and healing, this place has been a big part of it. The rest of my "healing" is for private conversations. Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the club no one wanted to belong to.
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