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Frank
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  • Como, CO
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Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Callie2 Ah... Norfolk.  We were there for 13 years.  I Floated in on the Roosevelt CV42 finishing up her last cruise and then decommissioning.  I walked across Pier 12 and boarded the Independence CV-62 and went right back out on…"
Wednesday
Frank replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Soon after my wife Susan (35 years) died, I had a person tell me they knew exactly how I felt as they had just lost their dog. I was shocked, comparing the loss of a wife to that of a dog?  I said " lost my wife."  He said yes, I…"
Sep 14
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I went to Boot Camp at Great Lakes outside of Chicago in the middle of the winter.  When we went through the "Smoke House" for gas warfare training, washed our uniforms and then hung them on outside clothes lines they were stiff as…"
Sep 14
Frank replied to Jwick's discussion I don't understand.
"Susan and I were married for 35 years when she passed.  I can honestly say that we never fought, or really even ARGUED.  We did disagree and how much usually depended upon the subject.  When we were married, her mother Dotty, sat us…"
Sep 10
Frank commented on shellybean's blog post Fury
"Hi Shellybean, As they have said, go ahead and pitch a fit.  Careful not to break something expensive though like that wide screen TV or HiFi system! This is the place to rage, vent, scream, cry, and talk.  The more we write the better…"
Sep 10
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Interesting, being "A Guy" with very varied background including 20 years in the navy, and good health, I'm good with physical things.  I find I miss Susan especially when it is time to make decisions.  As the saying goes…"
Sep 10
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"It's interesting reading how some of us grew up.  I have a younger brother, and an even younger sister (spoiled brat).  She was the first girl in 6 generations, could do no wrong, and only had to wish out loud to get whatever she…"
Sep 10
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My Susan went to sleep Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  She died in her sleep from a silent heart attack. There is a thought within our community that one should not make any major decisions in the first year.  The shock…"
Sep 10
Frank replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Hi, About a year after Susan suddenly passed, I felt I needed to get out among people.  She and I helped found a Ham Radio Club in Park County, so I rejoined and became a volunteer examiner.  Now I proctor the exams for the ham radio…"
Sep 6
Frank replied to Navywife0219's discussion New From Alabama
"Hi Navywife, Welcome to Widowed Village.  I'm sorry you are here, but here is the best place to be.  Here you can scream, cry, rage, and rant.  We all speak the same language as we all have lost our right arms, our best friends,…"
Sep 6
Frank replied to Kipuka's discussion when one loss triggers feeling of other losses..
"Hi Kipuka, Yes, our minds sort of prioritize our life and problems.  The disaster in Hawaii' is a self preservation "thing" and it did take precedence for a time, over the loss of your life.  Now that, that imperative has…"
Aug 11
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Overwhelmed
"Hi Mrs Bear, Your "coasting in denial" is spot on.  It's sort of a internal self defense that our minds work for us.  Some times that fog can last a full year or so.  It depends upon the person and each of us, while on…"
Aug 11
Frank replied to Tekwriter's discussion Holidays
"HI Teckwriter, It's barely been three months for you.  Please understand that where you are now is completely normal.  The  first couple of years seem to go by so slowly.  Each minute can seem like hours and just making it…"
Aug 11
Frank replied to Luv4Z's discussion Grief hurts
"Speechless. One Picture can express 1000 words. Frank"
Aug 5
Frank replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Hi Shoosie2, I think we all understand where you are coming from, and your choice, will be the best for you. When I received Susan's ashes, my youngest son and I went down to Denver to get them.  We set her on the floor between us as I…"
Jul 31
Frank replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty, I'm sorry but, for now, the best advice is to cry, rage, scream, take a hammer and beat on the sidewalk.  The pain is real and at times it will seem as though you cannot breath, like someone had just punched you in the stomach…"
Jul 28

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I'm retired Navy, an Amateur Radio Operator (HAM),
My hobbies also include freshwater aquariums, I am an "Aqua Gardener." My home is at 10,000ft elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains. My formal education is in Geology and Philosophy.

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Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…

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At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 

~Ronna

At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

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At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.
-Debbie

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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