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Frank replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion "My friends keep telling me I should feel angry."
"Hi Debra, I believe I can say that I really understand.  I met Susan on a blind date and I asked her a couple of questions and did not have to say anything for nearly the rest of the date.  We went to see a group called "The Misty…"
Frank replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion "My friends keep telling me I should feel angry."
"Hi, Anger, even rage, can be a part of grief.  Like you, I have never been angry.   I was looking through papers for information I needed shortly after Susan died.  We had retired and moved to our home in the mountains…"
Frank replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
"Hi Gal, Hey, its winter. At least it is here with overnight single digits all week long, and snow all around. Perhaps she's off on a cruise in the Bahamas? LOL Hugs Frank"
Dec 4
Frank replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Holidays
"Hi All, When Susan suddenly passed without warning, 6 years ago this month, my two boys (in their 40's) stayed with me for two weeks. Having them there was a joy and we talked, watched TV and played games.  Then they left, and as I waved…"
Dec 3
Frank replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
"Hi Misty, I'm going to step out on a limb, and if I'm wrong, I hope others who are in the same position let me know, or better yet, advise how they have managed. Over the years I've come to believe that those of us who loose a spouse…"
Dec 3
Frank replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
"Hi Misty, I'm following up with you.  How are you doing with your Blues?  December, 17th 1012, is the day that Susan passed.  It was sudden.  She went to sleep Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning. I'm…"
Nov 30
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Each year for 35 years, Susan and I would get up and make the dressing, she would stuff the turkey, and I'd peel and cook the potatoes. Once all was done, we would go back to bed for a nap.  While we lived in Norfolk and I was on active…"
Nov 22
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Sue, I found it very very hard to be alone when Susan passed.  My children came up to stay with me and for the two weeks that they stayed, things were not so bad. There people in the house talking, sleeping, snoring, and then they wanted to…"
Nov 17
Frank replied to Peacefrog's discussion Went to bed and didn't wake up in the group Suddenly Widowed
"Dear Peacefrog, I am so sorry that you have joined our "Club."  but here is the place you should be.  Six years ago, I lost my wife the love of my life, my best friend, and lover of 35 years one Sunday night. She went to sleep…"
Nov 17
Frank replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Winter time BLUES complicating grief.
"Hi Misty, There are two things going on here.  One is Nature.  With the time change we fall back and the days get shorter.  In some areas that means that in some cases we get up in the dark and drive home in the dark spending our…"
Nov 12
Frank replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion ****FRANK CONGRATS!!!!
"Hi Misty, My sister, 8 years junior, commented to me on the phone that I was now the patriarch of the family...  I had to look it up! I'm excited for my son and his new wife.  Pretty soon I can babysit for them so they can take a…"
Nov 12
Frank replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Widowhood in a Rural Area
"Hi Bonnie Thank you for your comments.  I can only make suggestions and comments that I have found worked for me.  Perhaps variations of my comments may help another individual, or the fact that something I did worked for me and may be an…"
Nov 11
Frank replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Widowhood in a Rural Area
"Hi, My name is Frank.  I live at 10,000' elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains, in south Park County Colorado.  The nearest town to me is the town of Como (pop-16).  This is considered "Frontier" by the…"
Nov 9
Frank replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"I think that saying is designed to give us hope and support.  I lost my wife of 35 years suddenly. She went to sleep on a Sunday night 6 years ago and did not wake up on Monday morning.  She died of a silent heart attack. When she died I…"
Oct 17
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Jlsrdh, I'm so sorry to read you introduction.  While your neighbor may be a well intended jerk, he is still acting like a jerk.  I would  not blame you a bit it you turned your "nice hat" around.  You are most…"
Oct 11
Frank replied to Hopesmom's discussion after
"It's been 6 years now for me.  One of the things Susan and I discussed was what the survivor should do.  We each told the other that they should go out and continue to life life to the fullest. Get remarried.  At first nothing…"
Sep 21

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My hobbies also include freshwater aquariums, I am an "Aqua Gardener." My home is at 10,000ft elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains. My formal education is in Geology and Philosophy.

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Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…


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At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 


At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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