There is a saying in several cultures that boils down to this: A man is not truly a man until his father dies. Likewise, a woman is not truly a woman until her mother dies. Our parents taught us the basics of life,…"
What you describe is perfectly "normal" for what you (we) are going through. I have no idea how long we go through this. I know it depends upon the individual, and many add to that comment that it also depends upon…"
"Interesting question. I guess that my only real fear is the fear of being alone. Since an incident when I was 5, that has been the overwhelming fear, that I would have to live alone. With Susan's passing 4 years ago, I've…"
Nice to meet you and read of your thoughts. I'm 72 and Susan passed 4 years ago. I cannot do anything about our age, but as long as I'm thinking and moving, I'll be darned if I'm gonna watch the paint…"
I'm sorry that you had to go through that first alone. When I think of all the times I went with Susan to the Doctor's, hospital ER's, surgeries, and dialysis, I was there for her. Now, I am living through my…"
I remember my "First's". They were filled with the pain of loss, a physical pain, and a sort of panic. With our retirement, and the move to our home in the mountains, September was a beginning. October was our 35 was…"
I'm sorry you have to make that decision. I've been in your place several times first, with our kennel in Norfolk, and again with our cats while in Denver. One lived till 16 and the other into her 20's. …"
I'd like to think that we are not the only two struggling to find a purpose in life. Susan was a diabetic. When we first started dating, said "You know I'm a diabetic, and I said Yes. She then asked me if I…"
Welcome to our "Club." It's something none of us ever thought we would become members of. This is one of the best places you could be. Here you will read postings from folks just like yourself, awash in an…"
I'm sorry that you have joined "our club" and have arrived here. But, I believe here is the best place to be. Here you can grieve, vent, rage, ask questions, and
receive support. We need support and…"
I'm sorry that you have joined "Our Club." I think you will find that as you read our posts and think about them that you will find here is the right place to be. We all speak of the same feelings and use most of…"
I understand what you are talking about. Susan spent so much time on, and off, in the hospital (double heart bypass, kidney failure, 5 spine surgeries, etc) that despite the absolute knowledge that she was dead, I found myself hoping…"
I was thinking of this the other day, you must have tuned in. It's been four years and a couple of months now and I have pictures but nothing with her voice... After 35 years of marriage I'd have thought I could…"
I'm Frank, and when Susan died, I too felt the same way. Men die first, WHY HER??? As I watched the helicopter carrying Susan lift off from our front yard and it soared over our home on the way into Denver, I…"
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Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible. -Debbie
Hi Frank, Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun . Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were..... Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?
Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.