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Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi John, Thanks for the laugh.  I served 20 years in the Navy and retired in '84.  I guess that the military somehow leaks out in much of my writing. As for writing, yes I'll continue.  It helps me and I hope it helps those…"
Aug 3
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Barb, That was a bit north and west from me. It was in Glenwood Springs on I 70 and had no effect on me. Thank you for asking. (HUGS) Frank"
Jul 27
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I'm so happy to hear your good news Sue!.  Now, be sure and rest, and no sneaking out for a pint or two. HUGS, Frank"
Jul 23
Frank replied to JustLynn's discussion Do you think you’ll get married again?
"Hi Lynn, Sooner or later we are all asked that question.  We were married 35 years when Susan passed suddenly in her sleep.  Essentially, she went to sleep Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning, the victim of a "Silent Heart…"
Jun 21
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Mrs L, I went to Great Lakes for Navy Boot Camp.  On Christmas Day, it was -27 degrees w/o the wind chill. I must have done something wrong as I was standing "Thermometer Watch"  in my dress blues and peacoat standing at…"
Jun 3
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Barzan Yes, I'm in CO. I live at 10,000' elevation inside south Park County CO.  The nearest town to me is the town of Como CO (Pop 16.)  At this altitude, the sun is much more intense and all the snow was gone by 1300. Its…"
Jun 3
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Melissa, I'm not sure I'd call this a "Hobby"...maybe more like a "club" as my eye doctor told me when he learned of Susan's passing...He shook my had and said WELCOME TO OUR CLUB.  Not a "club"…"
Jun 2
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Sue, Should I wait for you to catch up???  I'm 74.  You had a winter birthday... This is snapshots from our 30 May 2019 latest snow storm.  I like to get out and play in it!  You can see that I don't have a paved…"
Jun 2
Frank replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Hi SFbay, Susan, wife of 35 years, went to sleep one Sunday night and did not wake up Monday morning.  My life exploded, my right arm was gone in an instant, my best friend and confidant was gone in a flash.  My whole life imploded in an…"
May 24
Frank replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Hi Sue, I hope that by the word "had" and that you posted here, that you are home now.  I hope you don't try another repeat just so you can sample the hospital's food. When I had my gall bladder attack, it was the absolute…"
May 13
Frank replied to Dee1960's discussion Death Anniversary
"Hi Dee, You have been through hell on earth and have some terrible memories.  Let me suggest a possible beginning of a solution to you.  My wife, Susan and I were married for 35 years when one Sunday night, 6 years ago, she went to sleep…"
May 9
Frank replied to sis's discussion Drowning In Immense Sadness
"Hi Sis, Welcome to our club...The one no one wanted to belong to.  The sadness is, of course, normal.  Were you to mention it to your family, without a doubt they would circle the wagons in an effort to reassure you, encourage you, and…"
May 5
Frank replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"Hi J, Some folks move because of the memories.  Some move for financial reasons.  Some move to be closer to their adult children or other family members for support. The counselors are right, one should not make any major changes or…"
May 4
Frank replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Have you tried our Chat Room?
"Hi Dianne, I'm glad that you posted this nudge to folks. When Susan suddenly passed in 2012, I was a mess, a real basket case, and I knew that I was facing something that was more than I could handle by myself.  It was in December, and…"
Apr 17
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Laura, My reference to the BINGO and the black out was analogous to my waiting for the Good Lord to say it's time. It had nothing to do with assisted living and the games the residents play. It's not yet my time to enroll in the Soldiers…"
Apr 8
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"It's been six years, and as Laura says "going onto 7" for me.  I talk to Susan nearly every day, if nothing other than while kneeling at the foot of the bed saying my night prayers, I tell her "I love you, and I miss…"
Apr 7

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Posted on March 13, 2019 at 3:23pm 1 Comment

Hi Lostandlonely,

I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO,

Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metro ; (720) 748-9908

When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional…



Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…


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At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 


At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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