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Frank
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Frank replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee, I like Laura's answer.  Susan and I were married 35 years when she suddenly passed in her sleep.  I continued to wear my wedding band for three to four years longer.  We had chatted about what to do if one of us died…"
Jan 22
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Yes, Frank, I won't be making big decisions for a long while. I can see that I'm not in the right frame of mind to do much. Even deciding what to do next is an anxiety attack.  I did gather the medicines for proper disposal. I'm…"
Jan 10
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, I live at 10,000' elevation in south, Park County, Colorado. Take care (((HUGS))) Frank"
Jan 9
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Just wondering, when did you (if you did) start reorganizing Susan's belongings?  (I'm still not sure about leaving comments here or sending a direct message - if you have a preference, please let me know.)"
Jan 8
Maggiepie left a comment for Frank
"Thanks, Frank!"
Jan 7
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, After the Navy, I went back to school majored in Geology and minored in Philosophy.  After school which was the height of the "Oil Bust" I did soil surveys and soil analysis. I suffer from "Hoof-in-Mouth" disease…"
Jan 6
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Rich and Maggiepie I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  I don't normally go to bed till midnight here and the getting to sleep may depend upon how frisky my two attack house cats are feeling.  If either of you would like to talk, I am…"
Jan 6
Frank replied to Alma's discussion Getting through my first Christmas
"Hi Alma, I was reading through some of our writings over the past months and found this unanswered note that you posted.  Christmas has come and gone and I'm sorry to only now have seen your note.  How was your Christmas? Did you have…"
Jan 5
Frank replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"Hi Rich, Yes, I think many of us do. For me it is around 0400 in the morning.  This is the time they checked on Susan ( she was in an assisted living facility recovering from a kidney rejection and a broken ankle) and found her sleeping…"
Jan 5
Frank replied to MishyB's discussion Is it just me, or is "How are you?" a dumb question to ask a widow?
"Hi MishyB, Folks just want to know how we are doing and perhaps open some dialog with us. Most everyone we meet will not have had the experience that we are going through.  They can see, hear, and sometimes feel, that we are in pain.  They…"
Jan 3
Frank replied to GKinSD's discussion Bad days.
"Hi, Thanks for the reply. In your profession you get to see us all in some of our worst times. It takes a toll on you folks and can lead to a crust of self preservation.  I appreciate your service, I hear that very frequently now days when…"
Dec 27, 2019
Frank replied to Maggiepie's discussion Green checkmark on profile picture
"Yes, it does mean that you will respond to notes, letters, or emails.  I was never "matched" with someone, I just expected to have folks write me and vice-versa. I exchange emails with several of our members and am fortified by our…"
Dec 27, 2019
Frank replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Hi Maggie, At 7 years out I talk to Susan frequently.  I make a point of talking to her on our anniversary, each night as I'm on my knees praying I end it with "Hi Darling, I love you and miss you, good night.  Sometimes I talk…"
Dec 27, 2019
Frank replied to GKinSD's discussion Bad days.
"Hi GKinSD, You aren't going to scare me off.  My wife, Susan expectantly passed in her sleep one night, on 17 December 2012.  Everything you wrote about your marriage reminded me of ours.  We had very few friends as we were our…"
Dec 27, 2019
Frank replied to Tanne's discussion Feeling lonely
"Hi Tanne, Take a glance at the comment I wrote on "Married 62 Years."  It also talks about loneliness and what You (we) are going through.  At first after Susan's passing, my adult children would come to visit. Sometimes for…"
Dec 27, 2019
Frank replied to phyllis's discussion Married 62 years in the group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Phyllis, I'm sorry for your loss.  You were married for "twice" as long as I was married to Susan.  We had 35 years of marriage when she suddenly died in her sleep back in December of 2012.  The bonds that we have…"
Dec 27, 2019

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My hobbies also include freshwater aquariums, I am an "Aqua Gardener." My home is at 10,000ft elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains. My formal education is in Geology and Philosophy.

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Posted on March 13, 2019 at 3:23pm 1 Comment

Hi Lostandlonely,

I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO,



Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metro

https://www.heartlightcenter.org/ ; (720) 748-9908



When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional…

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Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…

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At 4:38am on January 10, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Yes, Frank, I won't be making big decisions for a long while. I can see that I'm not in the right frame of mind to do much. Even deciding what to do next is an anxiety attack. 

I did gather the medicines for proper disposal. I'm working on general decluttering a little here and there. Personal stuff will wait. I did put up some stuff on Craiglist. I have plenty to do, it's confronting each activity that's painful. But commonsense tells me to do what I can each day. I stopped working ten years ago to take care of hubby. I don't know what's ahead of me right now. Once the finances are in order, I'll need to take a hard look at life ahead. For now, I'm okay where I am.

Thanks, Frank. I did keep your contact and number, just in case! Very much appreciated.

At 7:43am on January 8, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Just wondering, when did you (if you did) start reorganizing Susan's belongings? 

(I'm still not sure about leaving comments here or sending a direct message - if you have a preference, please let me know.)

At 4:17am on January 7, 2020, Maggiepie said…

Thanks, Frank!

At 4:58am on August 29, 2019, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank if you are on Facebook there is a Widowedvillage Chat set up.

At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 

~Ronna

At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

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At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.
-Debbie

 
 
 

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