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Frank
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Frank replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Have you tried our Chat Room?
"Hi Dianne, I'm glad that you posted this nudge to folks. When Susan suddenly passed in 2012, I was a mess, a real basket case, and I knew that I was facing something that was more than I could handle by myself.  It was in December, and…"
yesterday
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Laura, My reference to the BINGO and the black out was analogous to my waiting for the Good Lord to say it's time. It had nothing to do with assisted living and the games the residents play. It's not yet my time to enroll in the Soldiers…"
Apr 8
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"It's been six years, and as Laura says "going onto 7" for me.  I talk to Susan nearly every day, if nothing other than while kneeling at the foot of the bed saying my night prayers, I tell her "I love you, and I miss…"
Apr 7
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I had to laugh Faolan...  That's my impression of them as well, and I like your definition "God's Waiting Room." It's probably better than mine.. sitting waiting for my card to fill up so I can shout BINGO on the black…"
Apr 7
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi Sue and Bonnie, I wrote that in hopes that someone might read it and maybe ease their burden a little bit.  A year before we retired and moved to our home in the mountains Susan came to me and told me that our 3br 2 ba 1500 square foot house…"
Apr 6
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"I agree with you Jlrdh, I have gone through much the same thinking process since Susan passed 6 years ago.  Once I was able to accept my loss, truly accept it, it's only been lately that as I rebuild Frank as a single person, that I think…"
Apr 5
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"We all go through the "Firsts" and I think, in a sense that many of us continue to go through them year after year.  I know I did.  Mother's Day, her Birthday, our Anniversary, Christmas's and so on.  I did that…"
Apr 5
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Tess & All, At this point,  I find myself adrift on a raft.  I find I have no purpose in life.  I've set some goals and things I "Aim" to do, but I find I've no real purpose in life.  I was stationed at…"
Mar 23
Frank replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Hi Pooh You are going through a truly terrible time, way more than any one person should endure.  The first year many folks get through by putting one foot in front of the other, day in and day out.  We are stunned by the tragedy that has…"
Mar 20
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi, I'm not really "Happy". "Content," maybe." I'm sort of in a waiting stage.  I've accepted that Susan has died and I am rebuilding "Frank" to exist in a life without her.  I've…"
Mar 20
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Lostandlonely, You asked if I was happy...  That came right out of left field.  I'm now where near as happy as I was the Saturday before Susan died.  I think I'm on a plateau where I might rather say that I'm…"
Mar 18
Frank replied to Portpom's discussion How do you share without worrying people? Also is it normal to be in denial?
"Hi Portmom, When we are struck with this tragedy, our lives are shattered, and we fall to pieces.  It is as if a bomb went off and we are stunned.  We scream, cry, some rage, others just fall to emotional pieces.  One of our members…"
Mar 15
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hi, When Susan passed my two sons and I gathered up all her Dialysis and blood sugar test equipment and supplies and donated them.  The boxes of dialysis fluid remaining, we gave back to the clinic. Since they cannot reissue the stuff they…"
Mar 14
Lostandlonely commented on Frank's blog post Help
"Frank, you are a very kind and generous man.  I have read about Heartlight Center in many of your posts and so hoped there would be a group like that near me.  Unfortunately I live in a very area rural area.  I have researched widows…"
Mar 14
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Hi Lostandlonely,I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO, Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metrohttps://www.heartlightcenter.org/ ; (720) 748-9908When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional connections I'm sure she knows someone.…See More
Mar 13
Frank commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Hi Hi Lostandlonely, I got so into my response to you that I went way over what "They" allow. I'm going to use my response as a part of a Blog that you can read when you log in next. Sincerely, Frank"
Mar 13

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Posted on March 13, 2019 at 3:23pm 1 Comment

Hi Lostandlonely,

I do have a suggestion. Try contacting Jennifer at the Heart Light Center in Denver CO,



Heartlight Center Inc., Grief Support in Denver Metro

https://www.heartlightcenter.org/ ; (720) 748-9908



When you reach Jennifer tell her where you are and that I suggested you call her. Ask her if she might have a suggestion for you for a Grief Group where you live or near by. With her professional…

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Reflections

Posted on March 7, 2018 at 9:03pm 6 Comments

I was sound asleep the 17th of December 2012 when the phone rang. I’d been up late that night and was sleeping in. Susan had gone to bed that night round 9pm saying that they’d worked her hard during physical therapy, that she was tired and that she’d call me early in the morning to wake me.

I grabbed the phone and exclaimed, “Boy you weren’t kidding when you said you would call early, how are you doing honey?” “Is this Frank? “Asked a strange voice. “Yes.” Frank this is (I don’t…

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At 11:35am on July 24, 2018, Rkay said…

Hi Frank..

I checked in this morning and saw your Hello.  I walked away from my computer last night when I went to put the horses away and didn't come back to my office.  Anyway..Hello to you! 

~Ronna

At 9:54pm on May 10, 2018, Mamitha said…

Hi Frank, how are you? How is Colorado? 

At 7:41am on February 21, 2018, Gunnerx2 (Carol) said…

Hi Frank, thanks for the friend request :)

At 8:17pm on October 30, 2017, kemunto said…

Hi Frank,  oh no this search for one another is taking another turn.  It has been more than a week since we had a chat!  Please confirm that you are fine.

At 9:44am on July 10, 2017, TxDD said…
Have a good day Feank... Keep hanging in there! Ee all support and encourage each other. Q

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At 12:10pm on December 27, 2016, BabushkaD (Debbie) said…

Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible.
-Debbie

At 10:45pm on January 19, 2016, kemunto said…

Thank you Frank.  I appreciate you,  you have a great sense of humour.  Good night.

At 1:48pm on July 29, 2014, beachgirl3 said…

Hi Frank,  Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun .  Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were.....     Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?

At 10:59am on March 25, 2013, Morgana (Janet) said…

Frank the "My Likes" list what you have clicked on that you like (the blue heart).

At 8:39pm on March 6, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.  

Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info  Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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