It's going onto 6 years, is it me or "new math" or what? Susan passed in December. We retired and moved up here in September 2012. Next month we would have celebrated our 40th anniversary. In November, on Thanksgiving…"
While we have chatted, I had not seen your note until now. You know, it does not matter how long we have been married. Two months, 9 years, 35 years,
59 years... We all want the same thing...MORE TIME. It's how we…"
I'd like to say a few things, and then I'll go to the back of the room, sit in the corner, and be quiet.
Susan and I met on a blind date. We, unknown to the other, agreed to meet at a common friend's home to check each…"
"Hi Former Yooper,
I'm sorry that you are here but here is the best place to be. Here you can ask questions, cry, vent, rage, laugh, and interact with folks who are either going through or have been where you are now. You will find…"
Part of the decision process is "How attached are you to the home?" Did you live there long, is it filled with good memories, what is the age of the
Susan and I built this home back in 1992. Until…"
"I think that this involves timing. As we are talking about an adult son, he is going to be protective of his mother. Plus, it your are ready to explore a need for companionship, he may not be at the same place that you are in your…"
No, I did not go back east this year. I was combining purposes with the trip. Mainly I was going to meet someone in Canada, the other side of Niagara Falls, but she is not going to be able to do that this year. The other…"
"It is September now and I've just completed winterizing my antennas. Took me three days to complete the task. I also inventoried my pellets and I've enough to last me through the winter. Gotta rotate the tires on the…"
"Two months ago I had the worst pain in my chest. Eventually, I called 911 on a Sunday evening. The fire dept followed by the ambulance arrived and they found it was not my heart but that I did need to go to the nearest hospital,…"
I guess I'm surprised that so many feel negatively about Grief Groups. When Susan suddenly passed in her sleep, I fell completely into pieces. I scared the heck out of my children. Both they, and I knew that I needed…"
What you describe is perfectly "normal" for what you (we) are going through. I have no idea how long we go through this. I know it depends upon the individual, and many add to that comment that it also depends upon…"
"Interesting question. I guess that my only real fear is the fear of being alone. Since an incident when I was 5, that has been the overwhelming fear, that I would have to live alone. With Susan's passing 4 years ago, I've…"
I'm sorry that you had to go through that first alone. When I think of all the times I went with Susan to the Doctor's, hospital ER's, surgeries, and dialysis, I was there for her. Now, I am living through my…"
I remember my "First's". They were filled with the pain of loss, a physical pain, and a sort of panic. With our retirement, and the move to our home in the mountains, September was a beginning. October was our 35 was…"
I'm sorry you have to make that decision. I've been in your place several times first, with our kennel in Norfolk, and again with our cats while in Denver. One lived till 16 and the other into her 20's. …"
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Frank, I of course could come meet you nearer to Hampden. There's also a Village Inn near Wadsworth and Hampden, right? (by the Kohl's and Chipotle?) I don't know if that's where you shop, or not. You are making the trek, so once you're here, let's make it as convenient for you as possible. -Debbie
Hi Frank, Saw your message and appreciate your thoughts. I doing well, keeping busy. Lots of beach time with the family and had loads of fun . Anticipating my 44th wedding anniversary with so many emotions. I must say I do feel better, it's not as raw . This is the 3rd one without Gary. It was always a day of celebration. He would bring me roses, and we would go out somewhere to celebrate. On different occasions we celebrated with a destination. Now I must carry on. I will buy those roses and have a nice dinner , drink some wine and toast the love of my life... How lucky we were..... Please tell me what you have been doing? How are you doing these days?
Welcome to Widville, Frank. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's a good place to start: Basic Site Info Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.