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HelensRay
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Do others have problems with photo's

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Aug 7. 3 Replies

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue

 

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HelensRay added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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I have this feeling

Today has been a horrible day.  I am in the UK and have been confined to the house all day being snowed in.  Did talk on the phone to family and did manage to get out for an hour but really first time since 30th June when Helen left that I was entirely on my own. After drifting around the house all day feeling quite sorry for myself I sat down early evening to watch a film " the second best Marigold Hotel".  Helen and I both loved the book and the film of "the most exotic Marigold Hotel" and…See More
yesterday
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Shasha, last night I felt really "happy", I had sent my 2 granddaughters Christmas sweaters, something Helen had always done.  I thought Helen would want me to send them - I really am not very good at this sort of thing but was…"
Wednesday
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"H2017, Oh! how I feel for what you are going through. My Helen passed away 30th June also snatched away by Stage 4 breast cancer and Helen went through most of the same things as your dear wife.  I did get an extra year with Helen she was…"
Nov 26
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Midnightbear, its now 5 months since my Helen left my side.  Like your dear wife Helen also had cancer and almost 2 years to the day of diagnosis she went but the end also came so quick.  I am so so sorry for your loss and really…"
Nov 19
HelensRay replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Have had a strange experience this evening.  Have a had quite a boozy weekend, out last night to a gentleman's evening at the the rugby club, too much to drink and don't really remember getting home.  Back to the rugby club this…"
Nov 18
Pearlinden replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hi HelensRay,  I absolutely am where you are.  I lost my Charlie, also to cancer, Feb. 24, and life just keeps getting more difficult and hopeless.  I'm tired of doing everything large and small by myself.  I miss him like…"
Nov 17
Tania replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Oh, I am so sorry for your loss HelensRay, unfortunately we are all with you in this. Sometimes its like you are going thru the motions when going out - just not totally involved. I too lost my everything to cancer. We so want them back, but not…"
Nov 16
Mandy replied to HelensRay's discussion Its Official in the group Widowed in 2017
"Helens Ray, What you expressed helped me today. Thank you. This stinks!"
Nov 16
HelensRay added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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Its Official

Its official I just hate hate hate hate this life without my Helen.  Cancer snatched Helen from me 30th June and I thought I was doing OK, but every day is getting so more wearisome.  I go out, I talk to people, I talk to my 2 sons and I have a laugh and a joke but in those lonesome days and late at night, like now, I just miss her so much. I want her back but know that can't happen, but it dos'nt stop me wanting. See More
Nov 16
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Nancy, Its just so bad that we have to go through these hoops.  I did have a few issues when closing accounts but generally no major problems but it all felt a bit impersonal, however there was one occasion it was not and I think it is worth…"
Oct 30
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Pearlinden, what I get from Widow village is that I can say where I am at, and everybody here knows exactly where I am (if you get what I mean!!).  I can say things here that if I said in the pub I would get some very strange looks or someone…"
Oct 30
HelensRay replied to soulmate's discussion Her Belongings in the group Widowed in 2016
"I wear Helens wedding ring on my left hand little finger and the last ring I bought her, a buckle ring on my right little finger.  I to will move out of our to big house at some stage its at that point that I will have to start going through…"
Oct 22
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Inside, so so sorry about Marty, lost my Helen on the 30 June also after 47 years, our 48th Anniversary is the 8th November.  Helen was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer 2 years ago but the end came so quickly it was too much to…"
Oct 16
HelensRay replied to Miket's discussion Next Week in the group Widowed in 2016
"Sandi, thank you so much for your contribution. I have been wrestling with how I should manage with Helens ashes.  I did'nt know if I should just spread them in one spot, the one place she did talk about many years ago, or if I should…"
Oct 15
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Adoption1964, I did mean to contact you last week to pass on this website:  https://www.nosleeplessnights.com/best-over-the-counter-sleep-aids/ this may help with your sleeping issues.  I have sent for some of the Kirkland Aids, but…"
Oct 3
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"adoption1964, I am sure that there must be something similar, I know that they do sell Kalms in the US. I found the Vantage more effective for me than Kalms but Kalms or similar might work for you, I did try a few different ones before I found the…"
Sep 27

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At 11:52pm on July 27, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, HelensRay. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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