Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone. Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone. Now I know that a lot…Continue
My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue
"Catapan, I posted a discussion some time back asking somewhat you are asking:
i.e.: Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone. Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message…"
"I lost my Helen June 2017 and had intended scattering Helen ashes on her birthday January 2018. That did'nt happen. I decided last week that the time was now right and I would scatter them on Sunday. Made some excuse why I…"
"Oh! Christine I just feel so sorry for your situation, to lose your husband so unexpectedly but then to have to wait 6 months to say your last goodbye is just so so awful. The 2 weeks before I could lay my Helen to rest was so bad but to wait…"
"Sandya, I lost my Helen on June 30th 2017, and after 48 years of marriage, and even now when I wake up each morning I have that initial "surprise!!" that I am on my own. I miss her so much and still feel "lost" and whilst things…"
"Amy, so sorry for your loss and in such a obvious traumatic experience. Any loss is horrendous but Helen and I knew what was about to happen, losing your husband in that manner must have so so bad, and so so bad for your young children. I am…"
"Oh Luz, your position just makes me so sad and I do have tears. I was so fortunate to have my Helen for 50 years but to lose your love so soon and with so many small children. I thought my heartache was bad but I just can't imagine…"
"Chronicler, so sorry that you are here with us. I too have just passed the first year milestone, I don't call it an anniversary, thats something you celebrate. I have been fortunate to have family and friends that have not tried to…"
"cushty, I so feel for you all our feelings are different but the hurt is just so bad. I lost my Helen 30th June 2017, the past 2 weeks up to that milestone (not anniversary - thats not the word) has been so bad, just remembering those last 2 weeks…"
"HI, I think it's for several reasons. People, in general, don't understand, when the funeral is over it's over (for them), they don't want to intrude because they have no idea what to say, because they are afraid of you,…"
"well, you sound like a nice caring man! Being sad and feeling alone is a constant for all of us going through our losses. Sometimes if I’m around people I feel fine. I chat and smile because the connection to anyone, even for a short while…"
"Hi Bobbig, I am going through a phase of feeling a bit sorry for myself. Last night I was feeling a little bit lower than usual and perhaps a little bit hurt as well. And I should say not hurt for me but hurt for Helen. I have a good group of…"
"Hi! What i’m learning as a recent widow, it is important to reach out to people you like or have been a friend to you before. Post on facebook if you do that. People in ited me out quite a bit in the first couple of months but now i contact or…"
Its just past 10 months since Helen has gone. Whenever we went out for the day/evening when we got back home there was always (well usually!!) a message left on the phone. Now I know that a lot were left for Helen but some were for me!!! Now - nothing!!! I know its me being sorry for myself and I know no way near as popular as Helen - but no messages!!!See More
"Hi Diana, I think all on this site know in their way of what you are going through.We all know how hard it is to keep on going when your heart has been ripped out. I lost my Helen 10 months ago and have, over the past 3 weeks, been feeling…"
"Steph, I could say snap, snap, snap, snap to everything that you said. Its now nearly 10 months since I lost Helen and its just so hard. I have this routine where at night I take Helen's photo to bed and in the morning I take it…"
"Just to set the scene, I live in the UK and lost my Helen on the 30th June 2017.
Last Friday our 15 year old granddaughter went to South Africa with a party from her school. Bethinn and 10 of her fellow pupils have gone for 15 days to…"
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