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Do others have problems with photo's

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Aug 7. 3 Replies

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me…Continue

 

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HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Inside, so so sorry about Marty, lost my Helen on the 30 June also after 47 years, our 48th Anniversary is the 8th November.  Helen was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer 2 years ago but the end came so quickly it was too much to…"
Monday
HelensRay replied to Miket's discussion Next Week in the group Widowed in 2016
"Sandi, thank you so much for your contribution. I have been wrestling with how I should manage with Helens ashes.  I did'nt know if I should just spread them in one spot, the one place she did talk about many years ago, or if I should…"
Oct 15
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Adoption1964, I did mean to contact you last week to pass on this website:  https://www.nosleeplessnights.com/best-over-the-counter-sleep-aids/ this may help with your sleeping issues.  I have sent for some of the Kirkland Aids, but…"
Oct 3
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"adoption1964, I am sure that there must be something similar, I know that they do sell Kalms in the US. I found the Vantage more effective for me than Kalms but Kalms or similar might work for you, I did try a few different ones before I found the…"
Sep 27
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Adoption1964, I too have sleeping issues, perhaps getting a little more than 3 hours sleep but probably wake every couple of hours. I do however use some pharmaceutical at least twice a week and I do get a good 8 hours sleep then. I don't use…"
Sep 27
HelensRay replied to JK (OK)'s discussion What song or line(s) from a song relate to how you feel? And how/why?
"At Helen's funeral I played Alan Jacksons "its just that way" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYtKREtdzJc A few days later I found this Alan Jackson song "Every Now and Then" I played it in the car with my sister-in-law and…"
Sep 12
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Its now 8 weeks since I lost Helen, yesterday was a bad day.  Another one of those "first" days.  It was the best day weather wise since Helen passed and I just got to thinking what we "WE" would have been doing on such…"
Aug 28
HelensRay replied to Raven2017's discussion "I know what you are going through" UGH! in the group Widowed in 2017
"I do have friends who ask, or did ask  "how are you" and when I tell them it does all go a bit quiet.  I am finding that more are now starting to ask "what sort of day have you had".  But no nobody can know how…"
Aug 15
widow85 replied to HelensRay's discussion Do others have problems with photo's
"I'm not quite sure where my wedding album is! My husband was an avid amateur photographer (he had a gallery show at some point), and if he could have taken our wedding photos himself he would have. Anyway, he didn't really like our…"
Aug 7
booktime (Susan) replied to HelensRay's discussion Do others have problems with photo's
"I really like this, Frank, concentrating on your wedding day. And Ray, it just takes time and everyone has their own time. For a couple of years I didn't have any pictures of Ed in the house - took them away. Now I have a picture of us on our…"
Aug 7
Frank replied to HelensRay's discussion Do others have problems with photo's
"Hi Ray, First, please understand that this is completely normal.  We all go through it. When Susan passed over night in her sleep, my world imploded.  I was so used to her riding with me in our truck that I printed a picture of her and…"
Aug 6
HelensRay replied to ByHisGrace08's discussion Young Widow/Widower (YWW) with no Kids
"John, I'm Ray more than twice your age (72) and I too lost my Helen to Metastasis breast cancer just 5 weeks ago.  We do have 2 sons and they are hurting as bad as I am but it is still difficult to talk about how we are feeling.…"
Aug 5
HelensRay posted a discussion

Do others have problems with photo's

My Helen passed away 30th June, going through all the trauma's that all know about on  this site but why is it that some photo's can give comfort and some healing whilst others just seem to send me into deep grief and longing.  I have 3 photo's on the mantle constantly Helen with the two granddaughters as babies, Helen looking lovingly at our two boys in their teens (now in their 40's) and one of Helen on her own when she was 40 ish.  I bring out other photo's occasionally but after a few hours…See More
Aug 3
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"BP you really have had it very hard with the physical pain of your injuries and the pain of losing Joey.  The words that come to mind to me is what our hospice nurse said to me the day Helen passed she said "Ray I have not known you very…"
Jul 31
HelensRay commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"My Helen passed away on the 30th June, we were together for 50 years, at the moment  I just can't see a future without her, every day is getting harder to bear.  "
Jul 30
HelensRay replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"BP I agree with Athena you have had a very difficult time on top of losing Joey.  Athena glad you have some bright spots in your life,hope I can get there some time."
Jul 30

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At 11:52pm on July 27, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, HelensRay. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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