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Jabs
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  • Cypress, TX
  • United States
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Jabs's Discussions

The inevitable question has hit me....

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Sep 22. 3 Replies

 Rings. I'm sure this has been discussed a million times. Sorry if you all have had this one too many times.I've had a bad case of maybe exzema, or something of the sort going on with my fingers.…Continue

Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!

Started this discussion. Last reply by booktime (Susan) Sep 4. 5 Replies

    Many of my friends have kids going off to school the last couple of weeks. I am soooo sick of hearing about their Empty Nest syndrome!!! UGH!! Its either, OHHH, its soo quiet with them gone, or…Continue

Curious about Camp Widow

Started this discussion. Last reply by Dianne in Nevada Aug 13. 2 Replies

Hello, Sorry if this isn't the right place to put this. I've searched and didn't find much that is current.I'm quite curious about Camp Widow. I have a couple of questions and just not sure where to…Continue

 

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SweetMelissa2007 replied to Jabs's discussion The inevitable question has hit me....
"Whatever is comfortable for you ..."
Sep 22
Frank replied to Jabs's discussion The inevitable question has hit me....
"Hi Jabs, This is kind of a "Variation on a Theme."  It's sort of "when should (could) I take off my ring(s)?  I'm sure if you are looking for a time frame, after x number of months, or even, years you will get all…"
Sep 21
Athena53 replied to Jabs's discussion The inevitable question has hit me....
"I keep mine -Ron's original, the one we bought as a replacement when the original got lost, and my wedding band on a chain around my neck.  (I found the original wedding band 6 months after Ron died.)  My engagement ring has a pink…"
Sep 21
Jabs posted a discussion

The inevitable question has hit me....

 Rings. I'm sure this has been discussed a million times. Sorry if you all have had this one too many times.I've had a bad case of maybe exzema, or something of the sort going on with my fingers. Started splitting open and was pretty bad. Dr told me to remove all jewelry while its been healing. Its been about 6 weeks and my fingers are almost back to normal. I decided to try my putting my wedding ring back on today, and it just felt so strange. I never, ever took it off for anything for 28…See More
Sep 20
Jabs replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"We took my husbands ashes (not all but most) to Scotland for the one year anniversary of losing him. It had been our favorite place to visit over the years. I invited both his brothers and their wives, my niece and her husband and my kids. We spent…"
Sep 20
Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I'm at a loss for words. Thats rare for me. "
Sep 16
Jabs replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I can't count how many times I've heard that about a dog, or a cat. Even a grandparent I almost, sort of get..not that someone's 87 year old grandfathers death was the same as my 48 year old husband..but at least it isn't an…"
Sep 16
Jabs replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Ok, had my most insensitive thing said to me today! (Maybe more just utterly ridiculous then insensitive?? Not sure) Had lunch with someone I hadn't seen since my husbands funeral (I think she was there, don't actually remember seeing her)…"
Sep 12
Jabs replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
" I haven't changed my status either. I do however get a ridiculous amount of friend requests. I think its because I joined 2 different widow pages on FB. They aren't hidden they can see the names, just not the posts. Since I joined…"
Sep 10
Jabs replied to iheartdoggiz's discussion Employment Issues After Loss in the group Born in the 60s
"Hi!  I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer also. My youngest turned 12 two weeks after we lost his dad. I had never worked full time, so a little different. However, I had a realtor friend that decided the best thing for me was to work and she…"
Sep 5
booktime (Susan) replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Jabs, totally into the planning what comes next! Once I turned 64, suddenly retirement loomed large. So what does that look like? Well I can tell you I am not sitting on my haunches waiting for it to come. I am planning. I am currently in a good…"
Sep 4
slconcann (Sharon) replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Jabs, there is a lot of healing and power in planning, daydreaming, researching, and exploring options. To be able to control your own destiny is the most self-empowering thing we can do for ourselves. It's an interesting opportunity - do…"
Sep 3
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Thank you! There always are people who are well meaning and give us advice... sometimes good sometimes...bad. What to me has always been true is that the one I truly want advice from isn't here. It's hard enough to plan...life...as well…"
Sep 3
Jabs replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Thanks Timelord...Yes, lots of it would be based on kids I'm sure. Oldest is married, middle is in school and like I said, youngest is starting HS. I'm not as worried about what everyone thinks, mostly, I'm just confused as to why…"
Sep 3
Jabs replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
" My husband and I never talked about it. He fought for 20 months after being diagnosed with terminal cancer. He lived those as if all was the same. We didn't discuss that he wasn't going to make it. He never admitted it, to himself,…"
Sep 3
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Jabs, no worries - this is not even at all a bit much!!! I'm in the same place...kids are at school, and the nest is TOTALLY empty.  In fact my son is working and living with GF near where daughter is at college.  Who knows where…"
Sep 3

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At 9:37pm on August 7, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Jabs. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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