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What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Hope Aug 5, 2014. 116 Replies 1 Like
I have a question for everyone. A woman who reads my blog emailed me. Her husband is dying and she's been reading for a while. She asked if there's anything that I wished I could have asked Jim,…Continue
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Hope replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
Hope replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"I think you did have the conversation and that you did everything you could have. It's just not pretty at the end, in spite of all our efforts. But you managed very well."
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"I would have asked "Do you want to go or do you want to come back?" I had like a 24-hour window where I could have asked this. But during that early time, and indeed for the two weeks until the dreaded "family…"
RainSong replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"This is such a great discussion. I am extremely fortunate...my husband was a planner, and made me sit down with him when things were looking a little bleak and practice getting onto an online savings account ( I still am not sure I can…"
Hope replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"You are right about the need for privacy when dying. I was with my husband at the hospital and the 60 last hours were hard to bear. He was barely breathing as his sister stroked his hair and I held his hand. We told him that it was…"
saltypearl replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"I would have asked where keys were to everything and how to operate stuff. I have no idea how to run the snowblower, pressure washer or a bizillion other things. I also sold his antique car to his mom, but I have no idea where the keys…"
widow85 replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"This is a really mixed list:
Check beneficiaries on old insurance policies, make sure they are who you want. Go surprised by one of them -- he forgot to change it and I know that was not where he wanted it to go.
Of course get your will,…"
Hope replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"My wise mother-in-law says the service is for the living. You can still have one if you decide to, nancyde."
nancyde replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"Even though my husband's death was sudden, he was super-organized and prepared. Life insurance policies filed and easy to find and our wills had been taken care of for a long time. I knew he wanted to donate his body to a local…"
Hope replied to Janine (txmomx6)'s discussion What's something you wish you had asked before your spouse died?
"I would have insisted that he tell me the passwords to his email accounts. We received important bills there, and I was unable to pay them, because I didn't know about them."
Janine (txmomx6) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Camp Widow Alumni
"Nanci,I still experience Camp Crash, and I've been to every one! For me it hits on Sunday, after most of you leave. I usually stay until Monday or Tuesday, and end up wishing I just went home on Sunday. I hate saying good byes.I…"
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"LOL, you are DEFINITELY not out of the ordinary. I, too, drank way less wine (or whatever) before my husband died. In fact, I wasn't that big of a wine fan.However, now I'm in my "after" and many, many things have…"
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Posted on March 6, 2013 at 8:51am 6 Comments 8 Likes
One Year Older ......
Posted on January 9, 2013 at 11:49am 1 Comment 5 Likes
...... or not.
Monday was Jim's birthday. He wasn't here, of course, but it was still his birthday.
I wonder if anyone else remembered?
I almost forgot ...... for a while.
I mean, I knew it was coming ..... I always know that it's coming.
But last week I was in the middle of moving to NYC (part time) and in all of the flurry I didn't think about it while I was there ...... until Saturday. When a widow friend, our kids, and I were walking around the city,… Continue
Monday was Jim's birthday. He wasn't here, of course, but it was still his birthday.
I wonder if anyone else remembered?
I almost forgot ...... for a while.
I mean, I knew it was coming ..... I always know that it's coming.
But last week I was in the middle of moving to NYC (part time) and in all of the flurry I didn't think about it while I was there ...... until Saturday. When a widow friend, our kids, and I were walking around the city,… Continue
Ho, Ho ......
Posted on December 26, 2012 at 3:44pm 2 Comments 4 Likes
Comment Wall (9 comments)
- At 7:49am on September 28, 2012,
bj628(Bonnie) said… Janine I wanted to Thank You so much for chat last night.. and for this site
- At 1:39pm on March 16, 2012,
Linds said… Hi J - I finally joined!
- At 11:51am on October 18, 2011,
CrazyWidow said… - Hey lovely - how are you doing?
- At 10:11pm on July 13, 2011,
Greggies Widow said… Thanks for adding me as a friend. Looking forward to meeting you at CW in a few weeks.
Hugs to you sweetpea.
- At 10:31am on June 21, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… Hope your day is filled with love and peace, Janine.
- At 4:58pm on March 24, 2011,
Boo said… - Janine, I just noticed that there is a group for "widowed in 2011". That made me so sad ... but anyway, I've joined the group just to say that if they want to ask questions about stuff they can ... and I know that you are passionate about helping new widows too ... so just flagging it so you can join, if you like? Big hugs to you my lovely friend xx
- At 10:53am on March 19, 2011,
A Widowed Father said… - Janine, sounds like somebody is getting excited about heading back to camp already...
- At 8:21am on January 11, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSoaring Spirits said… - Desperate? Never! Very excited to have you here. What topics would be most interesting to you?
- At 4:53am on January 11, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSoaring Spirits said… - Janine, I'm so glad you've joined us here as we build this new community! Thanks so much -- what an adventure we're on!
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