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Does any know of an online bereavement group for young adult children who have lost a parent?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gaining Strength May 14, 2014. 4 Replies

Hello,My husband passed two years ago and I have been enormously helped by this site.  My daughter is stuck in her grief and has attended a few bereavement groups but says she finds nothing in common…Continue


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My husband passed from Cancer in 2011. He was 57. We have 2 adult children.

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Posted on May 17, 2014 at 6:30pm 7 Comments

My husband of 33.5 years passed away 5 days after his 57th birthday from Multiple Myeloma. He suffered for three years. He was a quiet guy who never complained about anything or anyone.  He loved to play his music and keep parties at home. In fact when we moved into this house he took down walls to build a party room with a dance floor and a disco ball and all the blinking lights etc. With his stereo going full blast, he entertained many people here at the house over the years. His car was…


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At 3:06pm on April 20, 2016, Nieta said…

A virtual rose for you.



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At 2:12pm on April 20, 2016, Nieta said…

Thank you Gaining Strength,
I hope you enjoyed a wonderful day. I like to read about when anyone here has a good day because we have to take those when we get them. It gives us hope and your post made me smile. Thank you for that and so much more.

At 12:10am on May 20, 2015, MaryJ said…

thank you for the friend request. 

At 2:43pm on July 24, 2014, Tony said…

Hello Jen,

Thank you for your kind post.

Wishing you peace and comfort.


At 5:08pm on May 30, 2014, Ziggy said…

Thank you for your kind welcome Jen.   I look forward to getting to know you as well.

At 11:31am on May 23, 2014, Spazzola (JohnLee) said…

Hello Jen!  I agree with you completely rushing into the arms of another, for me, I think would make me feel guilty. Thank you for sharing your experience and responding to my post.  Body pillows are nice, and I do have those.  I am going insane here without but trying my best to manage it.   There is so little information known on how to help widows.  Sure there are books but the understanding and what to do is surely not part of public knowledge.  I swear there should be a 'hug a widow' day or something.

At 7:37pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

So true, Jen. You don't KNOW it until you are here, many DON'T understand. I've worried over these last 8 mos without Rick how I responded to the widows I knew in my life before. I so hope I was kind...I wanted to be. I so hope I was gentle with them...I owed them that. I know that now, I am a you are (sadly). Only those of us who know...KNOW. Doesn't Scripture say somewhere, "With knowing comes great sorrow" ? I believe it does...and how true it is.

At 7:09pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Jen...I know EXACTLY what you mean by 'deflated'. Flat and hollow. An emptiness that reaches down to the very bone of you...I know. I'm there. But there are little spots of sun in these clouds...I guess that is what my life is now...waiting for the sun. Sometimes I think of Rick and fact, more often now. It used to be that I could hardly bear to think of him...because he was gone and I couldn't believe it...didn't WANT to believe it. I still have moments like that...but they are just that...moments. I've never been through anything so horrendous in my life. And I know I'm blessed to say that. So many people here have suffered so greatly...I don't know how they have the strength to get out of bed. It gives me hope that I will be alright one day...and you will too, Jen. I HAVE to be...I love my children. They still need me. (Sometimes I don't WANT to be needed...but it is what it is, you know?) Yes, you know. God bless you, Jen. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and the next day and the next...

At 4:47pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hi, there Jen! Thanks for the friend request! Another blessing I can count...another friend.


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