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Does any know of an online bereavement group for young adult children who have lost a parent?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gaining Strength May 14, 2014. 4 Replies

Hello,My husband passed two years ago and I have been enormously helped by this site.  My daughter is stuck in her grief and has attended a few bereavement groups but says she finds nothing in common…Continue

 

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Gaining Strength replied to Prissy's discussion in-laws of deceased husband in the group Born in the 50s
"Prissy, I have had a similar experience.  30 minutes after his death, while we were still in the ICU waiting room, his oldest brother wanted to know what I was planning to do with my house.  The evening of the funeral, I got into it with…"
Jun 28
Gaining Strength commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Cee, Your doctor has terrible bedside manner.  You have to lose your spouse to understand. As mush as it is very painful to lose your parents, sibling, close friend etc, the loss of a husband is on an entirely different level. Do not expect too…"
Jun 20
Gaining Strength replied to Leeky's discussion The Long Good-Bye in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Leeky,  The long goodbye is a very appropriate way to describe the process and eventual event.  It is wonderful that you found someone to spend time with. Judging other people for trying to grab comfort is  for those who lack…"
Jun 19
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Soul, I am so sorry. Seeing and feeling your children's pain must be so much worse than your own.  this is devastating for young children.  I am very grateful (if one can be grateful for anything in this situation) that my children…"
Jun 6
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"when things get difficult then you see the true side of people."
May 31
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Jules, I feel the same way. He died 6 years ago. We were married for 33.5 years yet I seem to remember only the last 3 years when he was ill. At least those years are in the forefront of my mind. "
May 17
Gaining Strength commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Barzan, I feel loss at odd times. Today I went grocery shopping. Everything was fine when suddenly out of the blue, I felt that dark, low, sad, cloud came over me. I just stood there staring at the bunker until it passed. I do not believe it will…"
May 13
Gaining Strength commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Princess, The song is older than 38years. My wedding anniversary May 20, 1978 is 39 years ago. I thought it was 38. Cannot count. It was our wedding song chosen by him. I wanted "don't go changing" Billy Joel but that was…"
May 11
Gaining Strength commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Barzan, Beautiful and touching song. Seems so appropriate now. 38 years ago our song was "the first time ever I saw your face" Roberta Flack."
May 10
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Barry, The hollow inside is there to stay in a bitter sweet way. You are now the keeper of two flames. I am definitely not religious but very spiritual. I think that they are out there and we are still connected. In fact we are all connected whether…"
May 3
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Leekey, I am so sorry.  I do not have words of wisdom. Never had any. I did the same thing with my husband. I did my best to let him think that things will all work out. When he failed his stem cell transplant, I did not raise alarm in the…"
May 2
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Hi Barry, The picture of your angels brought tears to my eyes. This is a tragedy for you and your son. I pray that you both find peace. Please take care of each other.  Your words hit home. Even though it has been 5+ years for me, it is still…"
May 2
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"There is nothing like walking in someone else's shoes.  It is extremely really hard to get it unless you have been there and done that. We  need to forgive some insensitive remarks that the ignorant make. (ignorant not in a…"
Apr 30
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"thank you kindly. She is now 55."
Apr 29
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Averysmom, I am so sorry. It is all so new for you.  I want you to know that things do get better. I do not know what stage of life you are at because it may be harder if u have youngsters dependent on you for comfort and financial support.…"
Apr 29
Gaining Strength replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"So sorry Ann, It takes a while to get your life back on track and to heal your heart.  I do not think that you will ever be the same as previous. However you will be fine. It has been over 5 years for me (eight+ including the illness). So much…"
Apr 29

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My husband passed from Cancer in 2011. He was 57. We have 2 adult children.

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Posted on May 17, 2014 at 6:30pm 7 Comments

My husband of 33.5 years passed away 5 days after his 57th birthday from Multiple Myeloma. He suffered for three years. He was a quiet guy who never complained about anything or anyone.  He loved to play his music and keep parties at home. In fact when we moved into this house he took down walls to build a party room with a dance floor and a disco ball and all the blinking lights etc. With his stereo going full blast, he entertained many people here at the house over the years. His car was…

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At 3:06pm on April 20, 2016, Nieta said…

A virtual rose for you.

Hugs, 

Nieta

At 3:05pm on April 20, 2016, Nieta said…

At 2:12pm on April 20, 2016, Nieta said…

Thank you Gaining Strength,
I hope you enjoyed a wonderful day. I like to read about when anyone here has a good day because we have to take those when we get them. It gives us hope and your post made me smile. Thank you for that and so much more.

At 12:10am on May 20, 2015, MaryJ said…

thank you for the friend request. 

At 2:43pm on July 24, 2014, Tony said…

Hello Jen,

Thank you for your kind post.

Wishing you peace and comfort.

Tony

At 5:08pm on May 30, 2014, Ziggy said…

Thank you for your kind welcome Jen.   I look forward to getting to know you as well.

At 11:31am on May 23, 2014, Spazzola (JohnLee) said…

Hello Jen!  I agree with you completely rushing into the arms of another, for me, I think would make me feel guilty. Thank you for sharing your experience and responding to my post.  Body pillows are nice, and I do have those.  I am going insane here without but trying my best to manage it.   There is so little information known on how to help widows.  Sure there are books but the understanding and what to do is surely not part of public knowledge.  I swear there should be a 'hug a widow' day or something.

At 7:37pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

So true, Jen. You don't KNOW it until you are here, though...how many DON'T understand. I've worried over these last 8 mos without Rick how I responded to the widows I knew in my life before. I so hope I was kind...I wanted to be. I so hope I was gentle with them...I owed them that. I know that now, I am a mentor...as you are (sadly). Only those of us who know...KNOW. Doesn't Scripture say somewhere, "With knowing comes great sorrow" ? I believe it does...and how true it is.

At 7:09pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Jen...I know EXACTLY what you mean by 'deflated'. Flat and hollow. An emptiness that reaches down to the very bone of you...I know. I'm there. But there are little spots of sun in these clouds...I guess that is what my life is now...waiting for the sun. Sometimes I think of Rick and smile...in fact, more often now. It used to be that I could hardly bear to think of him...because he was gone and I couldn't believe it...didn't WANT to believe it. I still have moments like that...but they are just that...moments. I've never been through anything so horrendous in my life. And I know I'm blessed to say that. So many people here have suffered so greatly...I don't know how they have the strength to get out of bed. It gives me hope that I will be alright one day...and you will too, Jen. I HAVE to be...I love my children. They still need me. (Sometimes I don't WANT to be needed...but it is what it is, you know?) Yes, you know. God bless you, Jen. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and the next day and the next...

At 4:47pm on May 18, 2014, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hi, there Jen! Thanks for the friend request! Another blessing I can count...another friend.

 
 
 

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