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JpBaker
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  • Columbia, SC
  • United States
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JpBaker commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"SJG I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been just over 4 weeks for me and I can relate exactly to how u feel about wanting to feel their presence in some way. I find my self really connected with music. Our songs really help me to feel in…"
Feb 24, 2014
JpBaker commented on dizzywags's photo
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"Looks like your husband was a smart man. Go Bucks"
Feb 24, 2014
JpBaker commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I hate the countdowns they come every week. I usually try to knock myself out by then (12:47am) I'm so afraid I'll wake up and see that clock saying 12:47"
Feb 24, 2014
laurajay commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"Jp  I just want to add it's normal and Ok to wonder and think about these needs.  In thinking about things we begin to find answers...much better than just acting out on a whim when the urge hits us."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"That's all makes perfect sense, and I was guessing that would likely be the outcome, but I'm just feel so empty and disconnected from everything, didn't know if anyone had been there looking for any kind of outlet. Thank you for the…"
Feb 21, 2014
BESTBUDS1 [Norman} commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"JP I am so very sorrry for your loss,,,my soulmate passed dec 27 2013..I can only speak for me and you can take it for what it means to you ..I am 55 ...This grief thing is enough to deal with besides bringing in guilt..As I would feel guilty, and…"
Feb 21, 2014
eliana commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"JpBaker, I think it was brave of you to post this.  And I am glad you've received such a thoughtful response from laurajay and a male perspective from RiseUp22. It sounds like you're looking for two different things --…"
Feb 21, 2014
Clearwater Widower commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"Meaningless sex is not a solution, and I suspect you would likely feel worse.  At two and a half years out I had an encounter with a tourist and it felt so wrong.  I felt like my wife was watching disapprovingly from above.  It…"
Feb 21, 2014
laurajay commented on JpBaker's blog post What I'm missing?
"You ask a loaded question Jp but I see your age is only 29 so as a healthy thriving man it is  easy to understand your curiosity.  First off, as a much older woman who shared decades of intimacy with my husband I find myself stretched to…"
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Thanks Dianne. It's nice to know others get thru."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"I lost my wife in January unexpectedly in a car accident. We had been married for two years and didn't have any kids yet. I am constantly lamenting the loss of my wife and the loss of the future that has been denied to us. My emotions are…"
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Time scares me. I'm afraid I will lose detail of my memories and the passion of my missing her."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"My wife died at 12:47 am on a Saturday. This Saturday will be 4 weeks and I'm really scared of the clock coming to 12:47 on another early Saturday morning. It just means she one week further away from me."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker commented on IndiaKai's blog post Strength.... yeah whatever.
"How can I be strong, if others are the only reason I move through life right now."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you. Lonely and afraid is how I spend my days but it's nice to see others who have pulled through."
Feb 21, 2014
JpBaker updated their profile
Feb 21, 2014

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January 25, 2014

I lost my wife of 2 years tragically in a car accident, in late Jan. we had been married for 2 years and together for 3.5. The loss of my best friend has truly been an unreal process. Although we didn't have any children we had two and and dreamed of moving to the beach to start a family. I miss her all the time and am lost without her.

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What I'm missing?

Posted on February 21, 2014 at 6:47am 7 Comments

Since my wife died a month a ago. The thing I miss the most that deep connection of being wrapped up in each other completely. I have no desire to date at the moment and don't know when I might be ready for something like that. However, I am wondering if some meaningless sexual encounters would help to combat the loss of intimacy and help me to feel better even if for just a couple hours? Has anyone ever had these thoughts or feelings. Anyone ever done this? Was it helpful? Would it help me?… Continue

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At 5:40pm on February 20, 2014, rodsgurl09 said…

Jp,  I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you've joined us. The Groups are a good place to start; you'll find others with circumstances similar to your own. The Chat room is a great source of real time support. Links to both are at the top of your page. I hope you'll find the same comfort and friendship here that I have. Welcome. 

 
 
 

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