"Froggie, I get what you're saying. Another experience I recently had with disposing of things concerned my own items. I've lost weight since my husband passed and it was time to get rid of all the larger clothes in my closet. I thought…"
"laurajay, I'm hanging on to your words right now. It's been a very hard week. I do believe you when you say things will change and wisdom will come in the future, but it feels like happiness, or even contentment will forever be elusive.…"
"Like you, Patience, we didn't really make a big deal out of Valentinrs Day...just acknowledged it in small ways. And you're right too about feeling a little left out now that there is no one to share it with. I'm so lucky to have two…"
"Two years have gone by and I'm feeling like it may be time to go through a few more boxes of my husband's things that I put away temporarily when I moved last year. I look around and realize that absolutely no one wants or needs anything…"
"In four weeks, it will be the two year anniversary of my husband's sudden death. He died sitting right next to me on the couch one evening. He layer his head back and fell asleep. Too fast and I knew it felt wrong. I couldn't revive him.…"
"AED, thank you, thank you for taking the time and effort to share these feelings and realizations with us. It seemed that you were talking just to me because these were words I needed to hear today. So many others, I'm sure feel as I do."
"Hi everyone. Haven't been on in awhile. It's been about 18 months since my husband passed now and I'm feeling much like Froggie465. The Texas heat right now is really bad, but I don't need that excuse to keep me home. The lonely…"
"Just made it through the first year. Can't believe I've lived a year without him! I'm so glad the Christmas music is over and we are finished with New Years celebrations. I'm finding myself tearing up again frequently at the most…"
"The first year just passed for me this November and I did pretty well handling that. Our anniversary, then Christmas and well...those were a little harder, but family and grandkids kept my spirit from getting too low. I felt like today was very…"
"I know what you mean about Christmas not meaning much.it's been 18months 2nd Christmas but I still haven't decorated for Christmas I just go to my daughter's for a day we all exchange gifts and try to do the best we can. When I get…"
"I have never felt so alone and irrelevant than I do at this moment. I'm looking at the Christmas tree I put up for the grandkids when they come one day next week, since they all have plans this week. Honestly, by the time they come, Christmas…"
"It seems like we are all down right now. The holidays would often bring some sadness in my life, even when I was young. This feels so different. I guess it's because I don't have my husband to hug and make me feel like everything will be…"
"I'm putting one foot in front of the other and am back to dealing with one day at a time. I made it through the one-year anniversary of my husband's passing on Nov. 21. My two sons were so great. One could be with me that day and the other…"
"laurajay, you are right about the promises we have after death. I do believe that however I am changed, part of my complete joy in heaven will be in part due to the love Jim and I share, before, after and always."
I know what you mean about Christmas not meaning much.it's been 18months 2nd Christmas but I still haven't decorated for Christmas I just go to my daughter's for a day we all exchange gifts and try to do the best we can. When I get home my two dogs sit with me but thats my life now no cuddling no kisses no hugging. I have no grandkids to enjoy so yes Christmas doesn't mean much. I hope you can have some happiness.
Hi! I am new here but noticed we belong to the same 3 groups. I have been reading some of your comments and I want you to know, I feel the same way you do. I have no purpose here anymore. I just want to be with my husband who died suddenly and unexpectedly Thanksgiving day. I sit in my house and only go out when necessary. It has been 6 months now. I thought things were supposed to get better, but for me they are getting worse. Wanted you to know, you are not alone. I am hoping this site can help me. Seems I am sinking deeper into depression. If you ever want to talk, I am here!
I am also in that mode too, I have been getting things in order and also not wanting to buy anything expensive. Funny how all those things you just had to have before, now seem meaningless. Why do we do this?
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