I feel like I am being stalked by Death. 3 co-workers have lost a member of their immediate family and now a teacher at my kids' very small elementary school has died suddenly. 10yo's response was…Continue
I'm not getting angry (thank goodness), and during whatever stressful event, I'm fine. As soon as it's over though I go on full out anxiety mode and I can't calm back down. For example, today around…Continue
"Thanks for the tip Helen. I have a few go to people that are keeping me sane. Mostly my kids and granddaughter. There are a few of Mark's closest friends that I have been giving "jobs" to help me with and I know it makes them feel…"
We have never learned how to talk to someone who has lost a loved one, so instead of people reaching out the stay away. I would suggest if you need someone to talk to you approach them or call them. Living in isolation is not…"
"My two grown daughters and I just celebrated the 1 year death anniversary on April 18th, 2020, at our family beach property in honor of my husband Ed of 36 years. This day was actually peaceful because we knew he was is at peace.
"I was just talking to someone about this today. It is strange the people that avoid you but even more so the people that you barely know that want to hug or ask you "How are you". I found myself spending as much time at my desk as possible…"
"I also frequently use the "taking it one day at a time" phrase when well-meaning friends/acquaintances inquire. I find in most cases it works, and more importantly, stifles any further questions. Using that approach makes it easier for…"
" Like the rest of you I usually respond with "I take it one day at a time." Recently I have started adding, "This is something I will never get over but I will get through it." I have found that saying that has left most…"
"I feel the same way about being out in public. I have figured out when the grocery store is least crowded with people that I may know and go then, but inevitably there is someone that will tap me on the shoulder and say how sorry they are and…"
for me I usually answer with "some days better, some days worse" and if I feel like they want to continue talking I ask them questions about their life (how are you doing? how are the kids? etc.). Not that I'm really…"
"Sometimes instead of even trying to answer it, I say "Thanks for asking." I figure that way I am acknowledging that they are asking because they want to show their concern, but I don't really have to give a response that's about…"
"I wish people would stop asking the ridiculous question! Obviously we are not fine or even ok. We just lost the love of our life, our soulmate. Ugh.
I respond with
“ trying to live a new life that doesn’t make any…"
"Yeah, I usually just say “hanging in there” or “taking it one day at a time.” I know people mean well, but I really don’t think I even have the words to explain how awful I really feel. Even if I did, it’s not…"
"I know what you mean. "How are you doing" is my nemesis. A few weeks ago I was at church, after the service, in the crowded, noisy foyer, and a casual acquaintance came up and said, "How are you?" When I answered…"
"Good afternoon Justme,
You could try saying something along the lines of "as good as can be expected", which tells them "no really good, however, we are getting by." Sometimes I find that type of answer to let someone like that…"
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