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Justme
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stalked by death

Started this discussion. Last reply by Frank Oct 15. 2 Replies

I feel like I am being stalked by Death. 3 co-workers have lost a member of their immediate family and now a teacher at my kids' very small elementary school has died suddenly. 10yo's response was…Continue

Lack of Chill

Started this discussion. Last reply by Melissa Sep 29. 3 Replies

I'm not getting angry (thank goodness), and during whatever stressful event, I'm fine. As soon as it's over though I go on full out anxiety mode and I can't calm back down. For example, today around…Continue

 

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Justme replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Ugh. How/why do people think that’s ok to say? "
Oct 25
setlib replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"I'm approaching the five month point and my boss at work recently told me she thought I was doing "too good." Like, if I'm not breaking down into tears all the time in front of my coworkers, then somehow my grief isn't…"
Oct 25
AtSam(Steve) replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Heart goes out to you Justme! Searching for support led me here and I am seeing that we are not going nuts. I go home and keep wanting to talk to my best friend I could ever imagine and she is not there to talk with anymore. That and not being held…"
Oct 25
Roxana replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Oh, sweetheart, I feel you. The pain is truly unbearable at times. We need to go with the flow and live the pain, live through this agonising new life until we can make sense of everything. This will take months and years, but somehow we will have…"
Oct 25
Alma replied to Justme's discussion the 3 month wall in the group Widowed in 2019
"Hi! Welcome to the forum. I am glad you found us but am sorry you need to be here. I lost my Michael unexpectedly three months ago tomorrow. The pain, the sorrow. It's all so much. Sometimes I can do nothing more than sit with my…"
Oct 25
Justme added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2019
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the 3 month wall

Looking through posts, it seems like this is a thing. Michael died 3 months ago. The surreal fog is wearing off, and it's like a bandaid being ripped off. The pain is awful and the reality of my new life alone is horrible. I talk to him all the time, I pray a lot, and I feel so terribly alone. I'm 40. None of my friends are going through this. My kids are 10 and 6. They force me to keep it together and function when I just want to stay in bed. This is not news to anyone here, but this whole…See More
Oct 25
Frank replied to Justme's discussion stalked by death
"I would agree with Laura, I don't think there is an outbreak or something. instead, I think we are much more sensitized to death and it hits us with more impact than it does to the general public.  For children, they can become alarmed…"
Oct 15
Justme posted a discussion

stalked by death

I feel like I am being stalked by Death. 3 co-workers have lost a member of their immediate family and now a teacher at my kids' very small elementary school has died suddenly. 10yo's response was anger and who's next? I tried to calm him down, but really, I was thinking & feeling the same thing. I am mentally and emotionally empty, and then another announcement comes and somehow, the world gets emptier. No replies needed, I just needed to vent.
Oct 14
Melissa replied to Justme's discussion Lack of Chill
"Totally normal. I've been there. My whole system responds to any surprises now as though, you know...DEATH. I'm primed for the worse. It's calmed down a bit for me as time goes on, so there's that. Like you, I'm usually…"
Sep 29
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Justme's discussion Lack of Chill
"(((Hugs Justme))),Its okay to be angry. Anxiety attacks are caused by fear of the unknown. When I went into full blown rage, the attacks stopped. I was motivated as well as determined to heal myself - I had found my goal & purpose for living. Of…"
Sep 27
Justme posted a discussion

Lack of Chill

I'm not getting angry (thank goodness), and during whatever stressful event, I'm fine. As soon as it's over though I go on full out anxiety mode and I can't calm back down. For example, today around 1:30 my son's school called and said he had fallen on the playground and might need stitches. I made arrangements, left my school, drove and picked him up. By the time I got there, bleeding had stopped, butterfly bandage was on and he was fine. We could've probably gone and gotten one stitch or the…See More
Sep 26
Justme replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion Does anyone actively journal?
"I write Michael a letter every day telling him all the little things I would've told him, ranting when I need to, updates on the kids. It helps most days."
Sep 26
Justme replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"I would be early and would take more pictures, more videos, more momentos."
Sep 26
Justme replied to DIVA70's discussion Choosing to be a recluse
"I teach and I have young children, so I can't be a recluse. But the only place I feel comfortable is at home. We were always homebodies together. Being out, around people is like an itchy sweater. I try not to squirm or flinch, but the relief…"
Sep 26
Justme replied to DIVA70's discussion Choosing to be a recluse
"I teach and I have young children, so I can't be a recluse. But the only place I feel comfortable is at home. We were always homebodies together. Being out, around people is like an itchy sweater. I try not to squirm or flinch, but the relief…"
Sep 26
Justme replied to Rich's discussion Ever awake at 2:45 in the morning?
"all the time. and get sidetracked down that rabbit hole at bedtime."
Sep 26

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At 10:49am on September 9, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Justme. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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