"I learn so many great things from you, fellow widows/widowers. Ten Spoonfuls Daily is wonderful! I've been trying to figure out why I'm so tired all the time -- start out the day intending to accomplish a small list of things…"
"I wrote a reply yesterday , but, don't see it. It's 4:54, but, this was pressing on my mind (another quirk I have?). Anyhow, I notice my friend has a lot of things and pets etc. etc. to keep her going. One dog, two cats, two…"
"Thank you Lark.....I like that idea of staying home with the dog (pups)
it was so hard on my family when we lost Jim, but, also, our dog. She would go into "dad's office and just lay under his desk. I'd be playing with her…"
"Hello, Sadder, and welcome. Hopefully sharing your feelings and emotions will help. I know it helps me. I recently posted a message about Christmas that several kind folks responded to with great suggestions, and those suggestions truly…"
"Dear Lark thanks for your kind words...i can not tell you if grief it's lived differently here in Europe, i don't think so...but for sure ITalians are used to expressing their emotions and that helping me! ITalians also think that one of…"
"To all of you who have responded when I reached out, I thank you so much. Reading the comments of people who understand -- who "get it" -- has buoyed me immensely. Today I tell my sister that I'll be staying home on…"
"I hear you Lark and am so sorry. This is also my fourth Christmas without my husband. I am glad I won't be around my sister, for the same reasons as you. They've been married forever and he buys her extravagant gifts. I don't want…"
"Lark, it’s doubly hard your husband died around Christmas because you are surrounded by all the “cheer”, whether genuine or manufactured, of everyone else looking forward to the holiday season. It’s galling, yet peoples mean…"
"Lark, my husband and I had a weird tradition of going to an Indian restaurant on Christmas Eve every year. We kind of fell into it one year because it was open, and it became a tradition. In 2011, we decided to surprise my father in…"
"What makes our community here at Widowed Village so special is that we understand that, even though we have that one awful thing in common, we all have individual responses to dealing with the challenges of widowhood. Bergen's and…"
"Lark i really admire you for your decision..you are really brave! I am not ready to pass alone Christmas... I think memories should overwhelming me...best wish for your day with chines food...ciao Roxi"
"Thanks, Gary'swife! This is actually getting kind of exciting - have already found two good Chinese restaurants near me that are open on Christmas, and I'm considering one of the meal delivery services so I don't have to walk in…"
"Lark....what they said! Your family thinks they are doing the best for your by insisting that you spend the day with them. They do not have any idea what you are feeling...and quite frankly, until I went through this, I did not…"
"Thank you, LP. I love what you wrote about not owing anyone anything! I try to attend things, but inevitably as the date approaches I'm feeling more and more apprehensive and filled with dread. As I told Bergen, permission to…"
"That's wonderful advice, Bergen! Somehow it's empowering to be given permission to do what feels right to me. And Chinese takeout instead of the usual family fare sounds just fantastic. Thanks so much!"
Lark.....I just reread your last post. The sentence "we widows are like walking nerve endings and we merit a bit of extra consideration " is so right on!
i don't beat myself about what I may or may not of said to offend someone anymore. I can't. It's too time consuming. I apologize on the spot and that's all I can do. I have friends and wonderful neighbors. In fact, one friend of mine on the block and my 12 year old friend next door, spent 3 hours last week assembling my bookcase fireplace. Wonderful day...we laughed and joked and really had a good time. I just sat and watched, 'cause I have a problem with dizziness.
Enjoy your pups!! I will take my dog to the market with me today....I always ask her if she wants to go in dad's car to the store. She gets sooo excited!
I wrote a reply yesterday , but, don't see it. It's 4:54, but, this was pressing on my mind (another quirk I have?). Anyhow, I notice my friend has a lot of things and pets etc. etc. to keep her going. One dog, two cats, two canaries and a turtle. She also owns a small business. She loves music, old movies, eating at all the "hot spots". She just goes and goes. The other day, when we went to lunch, I was hoping she'd call and cancel!
Today, another friend, is taking me to buy a fireplace tv stand. Not in the mood, but, I'll go because she was nice enough to offer to go with me.
Have a nice weekend....keep busy...even if it's watching a good movie
Thank you Lark.....I like that idea of staying home with the dog (pups)
it was so hard on my family when we lost Jim, but, also, our dog. She would go into "dad's office and just lay under his desk. I'd be playing with her and a toy on the bed, then, she would stop...look down the hall for him to join us. That was our regular routine. She's better now..but, it was heartbreaking. Another long day, but, I did go to lunch with a friend. She lost her husband five months after I lost mine, but, she's very upbeat and funny and it's good for me to be around her.