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Report from Camp Widow

Posted on April 21, 2012 at 7:21am 0 Comments

Lee posted this in Chat room but I wanted it to be a blog post so I cut and pasted it while he was sitting with me at our booth.



Camp Widow East is Fabulous. The weather was great yesterday. The Ocean is warm. I have an ocean view from my room.

There is a great beach here and it is fun watching the surfers.

The classes are very informative.…


Walk About With My Friends

Posted on September 29, 2011 at 11:10am 19 Comments

Susan and I was talking about how we need to get out of the house and enjoy the fresh air and nature by going on walks.  The problem is we are all so diverse in where we live so we can not walk together.  Susan thought of putting up a blog and when we go on our walks to post what we see and hear and feel.  We were talking of walking a couple of times a week or more, depending on how we are feeling.  Susan has been busy so I am starting the blog. and inviting all my friends and those on…



Posted on August 27, 2011 at 12:54pm 5 Comments

At different times during the last year before Madeline died she would say "We need to talk".  I didn't want to talk but she would insist.  These talks usually centered around what I was to do after she died.  One talk in particular, she was trying to uplift me.  She said "Lee, you are a keeper.  That is why I have kept you all these years.  All of the keepers are committed to each other and their spouse will not give them up.  Keepers are very special and rare individuals.  They do not…


You Do Make A Difference

Posted on August 27, 2011 at 12:45pm 5 Comments

I am going to attempt to write down a few thought.  For those that do not know me, I will give a brief background.  My dear wife of 43 years, Madeline died May 16, 2011.  She had a progressive lung disease that lasted 4 years.  I am one of the senior members, 68 years, of Widowed Village.  I attended Camp Widow in San Diego this year.

Last Sunday I was looking at the pictures from Camp Widow and though how old I looked in comparison to all the other younger people.  I was looking at…


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At 4:01pm on August 9, 2012, cj said…

Lee - So sorry for what you have been through.  Dealing with this disease and the doctors is such a nightmare. This disease is not on the forefront of any of their minds, too focused on COPD.  We never got a reason for my husband's IPF.  He had an infection in his lymph glands that the doctors didn't do anything except give antibiotic, fever to 105, and finally landed in the hospital.  Shortly thereafter, developed breathing problems.  I blame the doctors and clinic for not treating the infection properly and for their "i don't care" attitude, but can't prove that is how he got the disease.  He went on oxygen full time in October 2010, went into hospice in June 2011 and died in Sept 2011.  Like you, we were married 42 years, he was 66, and our plans and dreams died with him.  I'm angry that they didn't diagnose this sooner, that they didn't tell us the whole truth and that he didn't get a transplant, too old by that time.  Sorry for boring you also, but seems our stories are so similar.  Some day it would be great to meet.  Likewise, if ever on B'bridge, contact me. -  CJ

At 11:23am on August 9, 2012, cj said…

Thanks for the "friend".  Can you tell me if your wife's lung disease was IPF - Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis?  My husband died from that disease in Sept 2011 - coming up on one year.  He lived 3 years with the disease.  Also you are close to me - I'm on Bainbridge Isl. I'm also so very sorry for your loss.  

At 12:20pm on June 12, 2012, motherkitten said…

hello lee.  we are practically neighbors.  i am sorry to hear about your wife.  how are you holding up?

At 2:30pm on April 25, 2012, CrazyWidow said…

So nice to meet you Lee and Congratulations!

At 11:22pm on April 13, 2012, Nathan said…

Hi Lee, thank you for including me as your friend! We are very close together

At 2:58am on March 27, 2012, srm541 said…

Hi Lee, (Snoopy)

Just wanted to give you a (((hug))) on this special day, actually it was yesterday, that your beloved Madeline's birthday. Hope you are feeling better soon. By the way, thanks for all your support for me, this last few months . Today was my first year anniversary of the passing of my Gerry, as you know. You have  helped me so much. 

God Bless,


At 11:17am on March 4, 2012, Niki said…

Nice chatting with you Lee.  Thank you for the add.

At 5:55pm on January 17, 2012, Susan B said…

Lee how are you doing? I think of you often, but miss when you are in chat... send us some rain down here, OK?



At 4:23am on January 2, 2012, Elaine said…

Good Morning Lee,

Thank you for your note to me, and for friending me as well.  My husband passed away 1-26-2011, so I am close to one year. This is a hard walk for all of us. Since I was 12 years old I have helped care for widow ladies. I am now 68 and feel that after all the widows I have helped and cared for, I am only just beginning to understand what they had to deal with, and the frustration of finding them so inactive and almost completley frozen. It is as tho they never moved on, never changed anything. They, most of them, have really been lost in a time where they were before Husband died. Now, with the understanding of how a widow can get stuck in just trying to hold things together, I began to wonder how a widower functions and moves on in life. You do a great job of writing how it is for you. I have dealt with the death of 2 of my children, and then becoming a widow..I have no intentions of letting grief control me or my future. I know I'll be okay.   I am grateful that I have children to talk to about some of the things going on with me, and they have great and logical suggestions for me.  But, there are some things they just don't get.  So, thanks for the offer to talk about things . I appreciate it so much.  Have a great day, and thanks again for being a blessing to me and the others you help here on WV.  ((hugs)) back to you.  Elaine

At 8:40am on December 18, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…

Hope you have a really special day, Lee.



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