"Thank you all for your hugs, they arrived just when I needed them the most.
There is nothing like knowing you can reach out across the continent and be touched by those who are so barely known, but who have become oh so important...
"Today was our 6th wedding anniversary, and it has been 3 months and9 days since my beloved passed. I took the day off from work, just in case... Glad I did. I haven't cried this much since the first few weeks.
I am so lonely, no one here,…"
When it comes to teenage sons, keep in mind that men are generally hardwired to want to fix things. These teenagers are men in practice, so they might get so frustrated that they can't "fix" anything in this situation. They…"
"OhMissy I am so very sorry for your loss. I am glad though that youhave found this site.
Shock is the one saving grace right now, it is natural, and keeps us from the full brunt of the pain until we can process it better.
Widvill is a wonderful…"
Crazy? No way! This is a very natual reaction. It may go on for some time I am very sad to say.
We all seem to go though something similar.
If you can, try to set up some local grief counseling.
It has really helped me.
Ava I am sorry for your…"
I am so sorry for everything you are going through. It will be 3 months for me on Sat. and our6th anniversary on the 20th.
I also understand about wanting to be with your husband too. I recently had an emergency callback on a mammogram I…"
"Hi Ava, I am so very sorry for your loss, and glad you found this wonderful site.
I know we all seem to ask that very same question.while everybody's journey is different, we do indeed go on. I wondered how i would breath 3 months ago when my…"
"Hi Connie, I am SO sorry for your loss. ALS is really cruel, I lost a friend to it years ago. I lost my love Joe May 11, to cancer. 2.5 months from diagnosis to death. He was home until the day before he passed. We had 8 years and3 days together, he…"
"Thank you Cristina,
It really was wonderful as it could be.
I would really like to thank everyone for their wonderful supportive comments and good wishes. I know that my love, Joe, would be happy to know that I have found such an amazing group of…"
"Thank you Bonnie,
It was very peaceful, and our dog, who worked with Joe 6 days a week and was his full-time companion laid right on Joes flat headstone with his head down and a sad look on his face. He misses his daddy something awful too.
I've decided that I need to focus on statements/responses for groups and firsts because I think part of the problem is being caught off guard. At the Wedding, sure as Hell, someone will say "How are you holding up Honey?" Think of response now! that's what I plan to do . I have found myself crying and babbling in front of people at these kinds of questions because I stopped and thought about How I'm doing. Don't. Be prepared. Don't( at that particular moment) stop to think about how you're doing. Do that in private.
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Welcome Leeanne: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".