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lovie commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"Wishing you and Ron a lifetime of bright COLOR ahead. So glad that I had the opportunity to meet you two at camp!"
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Enlightened Widow left a comment for Lori
"Hi Lori .. love your revelation of New Life .... it is so refreshing and hopeful.  You go Girl!"
20 hours ago
Lori commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"Thanks all for your words of love and encouragement.  (((((((hugs))))) to all of you who had to watch the loves of your life unravel.  dialysis is horribly  hard on the person having it and at least in my experience very hard on the…"
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Lori commented on hendrixx2's blog post Knowing Now
"love the quote, love your writings and musings, thanks fred much love to you!"
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Lori commented on M'LADY's blog post Moving on 'WHEN?"
"hugs m'lady, this journey has many twists and turns, hoping for a better tomorrow for you"
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MyNewLife (Melody) commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"Lori, I loved the way you used the colored fonts to illustrate your point. It was like that for David too but without the treatments. He just gradually faded away, "living" in pain most of those last four months. It was awful and so hard…"
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Lori liked srm541's blog post Announcing marriage plans
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Lori commented on Emy's blog post Hoo What a difference a Year Makes
"love this Emy you are living and alive and beautiful.  And i am so happy for you!"
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Dianne in Nevada commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"Such lovely words, Lori.  We had 18 months of dialysis after the cancer Vern had battled for 2 years invaded that organ. It was hard, really hard, for him to do dialysis 3 times a week along with weekly chemo. I'm grateful those treatments…"
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Suz commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"This is so beautiful, Lori. It makes me cry. I know you will always feel your love and caring for him, as well as the love and caring in this new marriage to Ron! "
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Susan commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"Oh Lori, my heart aches for you. Your words resonated with me as my journey with my husband's illness was so similar.  Your metaphore is beautiful.  Thank you for this."
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Karen commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"That is so beautifully written, Lori!  May you always have the sunsets and sunrises!"
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Lori commented on Profe D (Susan)'s blog post Hardest of times
"that is so sweet and amazing susan "
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Lori commented on Susan's blog post An Introvert's Insight
"Never thought about introvert vs extrovert but i too needed to recharge.  I found my autistic grandson did that for me.  He doesn't talk just wanted me to bounce of the trampoline with him, and "listen to him" if that makes…"
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Lori commented on Jpswife(Cathy)'s blog post 10 things NOT to say to the widowed. By Jean Powis
"thank you for this reminder cathy, love this"
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Lori commented on suebru (Sue)'s blog post God Winks
"i love this!  i find hearts all the time, a sweet reminder of being watched over"
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I've never blogged, but here goes. I'm a new widow and am not sure who or what I am anymore. I recently retired to take care of my husband, he was hospitalized 3 days after I retired and returned home after 5 weeks for 6 days before he died. I was raising 5 grandkids, however 3 are now again with their parents. I am envolved with my parish choirs and have almost 10 grandkids. I watch my 6 year old grandson who is autistic and help when I can. I have 5 grown children and love to spend time with my family. I spend my vacations camping in my T@b teardrop with my grandkids.

 

a link to my husband singing you can only see the top of his head because he sits in a wheel chair in the front

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Lori's Blog

The unraveling of a life...

Posted on May 18, 2013 at 5:48pm 7 Comments

It started 6 years ago, I’d patched him together so many times, but the stitches just wouldn’t hold.  Dialysis would help give him time until he could get a kidney they said; more patchwork on the worn afghan that was his life.  But it caused more stress on the worn yarn.  And the well loved life of my dear Mark was starting to fade, all the patches made that afghan…

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how not to say the wrong thing

Posted on April 8, 2013 at 2:34am 10 Comments

This is an article Mark's cousin sent me, she's a widow too and has been very supportive!

Op-Ed

How not to say the wrong thing

It works in all kinds of crises – medical, legal, even existential. It's the 'Ring Theory' of kvetching. The first rule is comfort in, dump out.…

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The breaking of my heart...

Posted on April 5, 2013 at 11:18pm 10 Comments

 

My mom in tears told me our dog had died…I was 11 my heart was breaking

My mom in tears tells me my grandpa has died…I was 15 my heart was breaking

My mom in anger tells me all that my father is not part of our family…my heart is confused

My mom in tears tells me my grandma has died…I was 16 my heart was lost

My daughter was born…I was 19 my heart was full

My sons were born…my heart is bursting with love

My husband leaves us all…I was 27 my…

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A revelation of New Life

Posted on March 20, 2013 at 8:30pm 9 Comments

 

I recently realized I don’t have to answer to my friends, family, or community.  I can and will make decisions about my life without their permission, well wishes, advice or other unsolicited concerns.  How I live my life is up to me. 

God is wiser than any financial adviser, thera…

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At 9:28pm on May 19, 2013, Enlightened Widow said…

Hi Lori .. love your revelation of New Life .... it is so refreshing and hopeful.  You go Girl!

At 5:52pm on April 11, 2013, Joy said…

Thank you for your sweet comment.  I appreciate the verse you left for me; it was such a great reminder at a perfect time today!

At 8:03pm on April 7, 2013, Patcpoo said…
Hi Lori, yes it did sell fast and I am a big believer in if its meant to be it will happen and maybe Gary had a hand in it. Now They will start building my new one next to my daughter and I will be in a whole new life. I would much rather have Gary but we all know its not gonna happen so I have to think about my future and keep going..hopefully someday I will find someone to share the my life with...again..
At 1:28am on April 2, 2013, PatKD said…

Lori,  Thanks for friending me.  I look forward to getting to know each other!   Pat

At 7:20pm on March 28, 2013, Jpswife(Cathy) said…
Lori. CONGRATULAtions!! So glad you've found a 2nd LOVE SHARE YOUR STORY
CATHY. THIS GIVES ME HOPE!!!!
At 7:20pm on March 28, 2013, Jpswife(Cathy) said…
Lori. CONGRATULAtions!! So glad you've found a 2nd LOVE SHARE YOUR STORY
CATHY. THIS GIVES ME HOPE!!!!
At 10:33pm on March 17, 2013, bj628(Bonnie) said…

Hope the cold goes away soon..... and you feel better quickly ♥

At 7:01am on March 7, 2013, LostWithoutThem(DD) said…

thank you lori for adding me as a friend i hate that its under this circumstance but im glad i can finally release sum of the pressure with people on here that know exactly how im feeling.. take care and god bless

At 12:59pm on December 30, 2012, Tommi said…

How wonderful to see your two smiling faces together!!!!  HK...an added bonus!!  So very happy for you both!!!!  Love and hugs!!!!

At 3:27am on December 18, 2012, Hopeful said…

Hi Lori, just stopping by to say hi, and appreciate the note you left on my wall. Congratulations on your new grandchild.  I agree, we have much to be thankful for, and I'm so grateful for my Faith, and knowing I will see my husband and loved ones again some day.  Until then, doing the best I can. Thinking about Christmas without my husband and mom is hard, but I'm praying a lot. Take care, new friend. 

 
 
 

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