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Lostandlonely
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Another Holiday

Started this discussion. Last reply by only1sue yesterday. 1 Reply

I'll be having my 2 children and their families over for Easter afternoon.  My husband died shortly before Easter in 2015.  We went out of town for the first one, when we were still in shock.  We had…Continue

Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lisa_says on Thursday. 27 Replies

At 4 years, I am in the deepest depression and can't find my way out.  I was better in the first years than I am now.  I am on an antidepressant and seeing a therapist, but I've lost all hope.  I was…Continue

Dreams

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs.Linda on Thursday. 8 Replies

Sometime in the night I got wrapped up in the covers and in my half awake state I thought my husband was behind me holding me in his arms.  He was always the one who liked to sleep curled up together…Continue

Debilitating morning grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by Portpom Mar 22. 11 Replies

It's been 4 years and I still wake every morning with debilitating grief and longing for my husband.  I can't immediately get out of bed because I have severe anxiety and it makes me so shaky and…Continue

 

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only1sue replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Another Holiday
"Holidays are always hard as a widow. I am six years out but always face them with apprehension. I question who will ring me, if anyone will be here with me. I have just had my younger son and his daughter with me, he has her the first week of every…"
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Another Holiday

I'll be having my 2 children and their families over for Easter afternoon.  My husband died shortly before Easter in 2015.  We went out of town for the first one, when we were still in shock.  We had the second one here, and then my family has been out of town for the last two years.  I'm ashamed to say I have butterflies in my stomach thinking about it.  We've had some family stress over the winter and that makes me nervous.  But I feel we need to start being together more, as we were so close…See More
yesterday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thank you Mrs. Linda for your kind words.  You were very blessed to have such a good husband for so many years.  Many good memories. I too am glad to have been my husbands caregiver for his last 9 years.  I was holding his hand when…"
Thursday
Mrs.Linda replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Dreams
"I can totally understand.  You know, there was a time years ago I entertained the thought of leaving my husband. Foolish me.  I got over it.  I have not dreamed of my husband which is a little surprising.  But I can still…"
Thursday
Mrs.Linda replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Oh Lisa!  I like your picture; what a handsome couple!  I have dreaded summer and the outside work that my husband actually enjoyed.  I learned to mow the lawn-and we have a good sized lot--2 years ago.   I do not do it all in…"
Thursday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Mrs.Linda, I am so sorry for your loss.  I am in the same situation.  Grass has to be cut and we have a large commercial lawn mower that I can't navigate.  I have raked up 16 huge bags of leaves and also work from home. Mentally…"
Thursday
Mrs.Linda replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"My husband died of cancer too.  And even knowing he was terminal--and he accepted his sufferings and death with so much courage--nothing can really prepare us for the loss.  I don't cry every day but I tear up reading these…"
Thursday
Mrs.Linda replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Oh me too!  It is going on 6 months now.  I am still not at peace with my new state in life although I know I must get there. I have two sons and one of them has become distant and that is also breaking my heart. The other is super busy…"
Thursday
soulmate replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"It has been 2.5 years since the loss of my wife. There are indeed days that are still very difficult. I miss her down to my marrow. I finally gave up thinking I will be the same person I was before I lost her. Grief has become a constant companion…"
Thursday
chef (John) replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thank you for your replies. There's never a "clean break", so that we move forward through life as though nothing had ever happened. Our spouses made us who we are today, so it's not like we can erase them from our lives. We…"
Wednesday
PhilEC replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Sorry for your loss John and thanks for the reply.  I hope it  doesn't take 10 to 18 years for me to get back to some sort of normal however we have a friend that is on her 9th year and still grieving.  I know it helps talking to…"
Wednesday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Thanks for your kind words John. I am sorry for your loss. I will read and educate myself on this process as much as possible, it helps to understand. And yes Ground Hog's day every day for me. Feels insane"
Wednesday
chef (John) replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"I offer my sympathies to both of you. Five months is only...five months, so please go easy on yourselves--even now. Lisa, the "Goundhog Day" analogy is quite appropriate. I have a friend (also a widower) who said the same thing for the…"
Wednesday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"I'm sorry for your loss.  I hope the grief eases up. I also have watched on you tube hoping to find ways to help me cope.  I miss my best friend my better half.."
Tuesday
PhilEC replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"Sorry for your loss.  Its been a little over 5 mos.  For me also, for a time I thought things were getting better but boy was I wrong.  It seems that if I'm watching tv or hear a song about missing someone I start tearing up and…"
Tuesday
Lisa_says replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Has anyone else gotten worse as time goes by?
"It's only been almost 5 months since my husband passed from stage 4 brain cancer, I'm not doing too well at all.  Especially with spring here. My husbands favorite season, he spent all his time working on the property making sure it…"
Tuesday

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4 years

Posted on February 16, 2019 at 11:25am 9 Comments

Tomorrow, Feb. 17th, will mark 4 years since my husband's death. That was the last "normal" day of my life.  I died that evening too, and can't seem to come back to life.

I met my husband when I was 16, married at 18, and was 64 when he died.  So we were together for 48 years.  He was my first and only love.  He died in an instant from a blood clot to the heart.  He was a strong, healthy man who loved life.  I…

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At 10:39am on March 18, 2019, Frank said…

Hi,

Yes I would enjoy chatting with you.  Please write as you find the time.

Hugs

Frank

At 12:55pm on January 16, 2019, Timelord said…

Absollutely!!!!

At 3:30pm on December 2, 2018, Dee1960 said…

Thanks for your friend request -- my husband also died suddenly in 2015 -- seems like it should, well everyone says, it gets better with time...   I don't know, miss him still everyday. and seems like just yesterday.  Anyway, we got that in common.   I am looking forward to our friendship.

Diane

At 5:35am on September 11, 2018, SweetMelissa2007 said…

Hi Linda,

PM me, it will automatically be sent to my e-mail ...

Take it easy ...

Lissa ...

At 3:34pm on August 25, 2018, Patience said…

Welcome to Widville, Lostandlonely. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
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