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Maddieluv
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  • Saskatoon
  • Canada
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kln82 commented on Maddieluv's blog post We had a last day, we just didn't know it
"My heart aches for you.  My husband died 3 years ago April. You are just starting your grief journey. This is a good site to share your thoughts. Everyone grieves differently so take what works for you and your situation. I would gently suggest…"
Apr 10
lowrsr (Sherry) commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"My heart goes out to you. My husband passed away suddenly 6 months ago, leaving me with 3 kids (2 with autism) to parent solo. I was 46, too young to be a widow. So is 39. It isn't right. I am still not able to fathom that I will have to live…"
Mar 29
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"At 3 weeks out, the cold feeling is shock. Going through the motions while not feeling present is called dissociation. Both of these mean your mind & body are simultaneously reacting to this highly stressful situation by automatically going into…"
Mar 29
Steve commented on Maddieluv's blog post We had a last day, we just didn't know it
"Hi Maddielove, so sorry for your loss and reasons of needing to be here. So happy that you found this place, Widowed Village. You will find lots of support and wonderful people here that share in your experience. As i read your blog, my heart ached…"
Mar 2
Boniblu1977 commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"Hi Maddie, We have a lot of similarities. My husband Brian passed away suddenly 7 months ago leaving me a 39 year old widow with two children to raise along with 2 dogs to care for. The first couple of months feel like you're in a…"
Mar 1
Anna commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"Hi Maddie, you are only three weeks out. I'm not gonna lie, that stage is excruciating. I'm 8 months out. The first 2-3 months for me were almost unbearable. I did bear it. I don't know how. It wasn't one day at a time; it was…"
Feb 28
Callie2 commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"Grieving is hard work and it is draining. Be patient, it takes as long as it takes. Understand you will be okay one day so always keep that in the back of your mind. This experience becomes part of you but one day, the good memories will surface and…"
Feb 28
Orb101214 commented on Maddieluv's blog post Will we ever be okay?
"I think you will be okay.  I tell people I am not okay now, but I know I will be some day.  I have seen people who are okay after losing their spouse.  I have an Aunt who lost her husband when she was a little older than me with…"
Feb 28
Maddieluv posted a blog post

Will we ever be okay?

Most days I just feel anxious now. I have a constant ache in my stomach. The feeling sad is just sort of normal now so I can't imagine it going away anytime soon. Sometimes it surprises me what will make me cry, or have that intense wave of loneliness. Sometimes I just feel cold, like I'm going through the motions but not really present. Then I feel bad. I have four children to care for who need me to be present. I'm thankful to have that purpose because I think if it were just me I wouldn't…See More
Feb 28
Callie2 commented on Maddieluv's blog post We had a last day, we just didn't know it
"Sorry for your reason for being here. Hugs to you and your family during this difficult time."
Feb 27
Maddieluv posted a blog post

We had a last day, we just didn't know it

Today has been three weeks since I last spoke with my husband. Three week since I last heard his voice, felt his touch or enjoyed his calm presence. Every day there are new challenges and frustrations. I hit new depths of sadness and new levels of irritation that I never thought were possible. My thoughts race with what if's, fears and memories. With the ambush of unwanted thoughts and emotions I thought starting a blog would be a way to let some of those feelings out. Put them somewhere to…See More
Feb 26
Maddieluv replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you for sharing Debbie. I am sending you hugs and prayers for some moments, even if they are brief, of relief from the loneliness and pain, "
Feb 23
Maddieluv replied to guilloma's discussion Please tell me this raw, stabbing grief goes away
"I have tried to explain to others the loss, that I grieve for the loss within my family, the loss of a father and son and brother, but that I experience that sadness with the loss of a best friend, partner, lover, all of it. That my loss comes with…"
Feb 23
Maddieluv replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"Those every day things are so comforting. My son took my husband's phone to his room. It's something he is holding on to. I haven't shut it off yet either. In fact I have done very few things but am setting very small goals so I…"
Feb 22
Maddieluv replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"I think that too, every time I see his vehicle in the garage. Part of me can't wait to get it out of there so I don't have to see it and the rest of me knows it will be so hard when it goes. It makes it that much more real. I can't…"
Feb 22
Maddieluv replied to Larryh0823's discussion Just trying to deal with this.
"I agree. The cemetery does not hold a particular meaning for me. I know he is not there. It definitely doesn't make it easier. The longing is powerful. I lay in bed and hold his shirt that still smells like him and pray that I will see him in…"
Feb 22

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Will we ever be okay?

Posted on February 28, 2017 at 9:10am 6 Comments

Most days I just feel anxious now. I have a constant ache in my stomach. The feeling sad is just sort of normal now so I can't imagine it going away anytime soon. Sometimes it surprises me what will make me cry, or have that intense wave of loneliness. Sometimes I just feel cold, like I'm going through the motions but not really present. Then I feel bad. I have four children to care for who need me to be present. I'm thankful to have that purpose because I think if it were just me I wouldn't…

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We had a last day, we just didn't know it

Posted on February 26, 2017 at 5:38pm 3 Comments

Today has been three weeks since I last spoke with my husband. Three week since I last heard his voice, felt his touch or enjoyed his calm presence. Every day there are new challenges and frustrations. I hit new depths of sadness and new levels of irritation that I never thought were possible. My thoughts race with what if's, fears and memories. With the ambush of unwanted thoughts and emotions I thought starting a blog would be a way to let some of those feelings out. Put them somewhere to…

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