"We had a second memorial service for Martha who died June 19th. The first one was at our Unitarian church here in Charlottesville VA. The second was in Akron, Ohio since only one family could travel the 7 hours to attend the burial of ashes…"
"DH, I am learning the truth about what you said about being alone. If I don't make something happen, then nothing is the default and I sit at home alone. I was supposed to have dinner with a friend this evening and she cancelled on…"
"This is such a strange journey I am on - I never knew about widow-world before I lost my wife to cancer June 19. I don't know what is supposed to happen with relationships. I did meet a woman at a Unitarian church convention at…"
"I think I have given up on m hospice widowers support group. The other members mostly seem to be men who have no friends and cling to their wives memories living only in the past. They have shrines to their late wives, keep all their…"
"Potter, what really rang true for me from your post is "I have no family here." I had to fill out a physician form again and when it came to "next of kin" in the area, well, there isn't anyone. It scares me to…"
"I buried Martha's ashes today after our family's funeral service. It was a beautiful service at our Unitarian church. The music was marvelous and I was surrounded by 60 friends. I feel so lucky to have so many people who…"
"TamilovesTim, I was stunned by the sadness of your story. My God, to have lived through this twice. I wish I could take you in my arms and comfort you. My father in law lost two wives to cancer and I saw what it did to him.…"
"I went to a week long Unitarian conference called SUUSI all last week. It was 1200 Unitarians all staying at Radford University. I took dancing lessons and danced three hours per day, took a massage class, tubing, and attended two worship…"
"The picture is me with my neighbor's dog Ellie who I adore I received a lot of cards but the best was the one I received from from Ellie that included a picture of her. She offered her sympathy and willingness to play with me.…"
"Thank you for adding me as a friend. I'm very sorry that you're having to go through such a rough time. This site as been a gift since the first day. However I offer one piece of unsolicited advice; people heal from grief at different…"
"I just came back after having a long talk with my hospice counselor Shirley. Actually she is a professional counselor who worked for hospice and does some "pastoral visiting" at our Unitarian Church. Her son died and she has a…"
Thank you for adding me as a friend. I'm very sorry that you're having to go through such a rough time. This site as been a gift since the first day. However I offer one piece of unsolicited advice; people heal from grief at different levels, speeds and in a million different a ways. I've found that some even prefer grief to the process of healing, for whatever reasons. I need to heal at my own pace, in my own way... And everyone else should too. Don't be rushed, slowed or stopped in you process. Ok, end of advice. I wish you all the best in seeking healthy choices in your life. Im here if you need to talk, cry or reminisce. Be well!
First,I want to say how very sorry I am for your loss;(. We all know death will come someday but pray it won't happen for a long , long, L O N G time;(. Unfortunately I became a young widow,at age 49! John was 48! He died April 25, 2012 17 monthes after diagnosis from ALS/Lou Gehrig's Disease--it's a terminal motor-neuron disease/and yes it was horrible!! So I began grieving as soon as he was diagnosed;( We were married 28 years/although not quite as long as yours it's still very hard as you share all your life & love togather as one! So what do I do now?! What can I expect?! These are the questions you muddle through and it does get a lil easier as you learn to cope! My FAITH in Jesus Christ had really helped me as John & I were/are Christians! So I know John can walk & talk once again right now in HEAVEN and I'll see him again 1 day! But I miss him. Cathy
Marc, I'm so very sorry for your loss, but glad that you've joined us here at Widowed Village. I hope you will find the same understanding and support here that I have. You might want to look at the Groups to start (there is a Widowed in 2013 group, for example). You will find someone in the Chat room most any time of day. Links to both are at the top of your page, as well as a Help! link for site related issues. I look forward to seeing you in the Village.