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Mel
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What is the most comforting thing someone has said to you since your loss?

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Apr 10. 3 Replies

"You take all the time you need. I honor your courage as you walk through your grief and trust you as you navigate this time." - MomI didn't know how to be with my own grief after my loss. I had many…Continue

 

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Jul 29
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Mel's discussion What is the most comforting thing someone has said to you since your loss?
"Two weeks after Bob's death as I walking on the beach of NAS North Island, a Vietnam widow came up me & other widows individually to say, "Be w/those that understand you - now go back to your rooms & your homes to console…"
Apr 10
myranndah replied to Mel's discussion What is the most comforting thing someone has said to you since your loss?
"Both of my parents have lost a parent, and that is the closest loss they've had. They've been married over 40 years. I lost my dear love just before our 12th wedding anniversary. After he passed away, my parents told me the best…"
Apr 10
vintage56(barb) replied to Mel's discussion What is the most comforting thing someone has said to you since your loss?
"A fellow widow (twice over) told me "Now you will find YOU." She was right, I had been part of a couple for so long it was part of my identity. And my DH was very uch the dominant personality in the relationship. Now I am doing what I want…"
Apr 10
Mel replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion APRIL Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"April 16th, 2001 is Dave & I's anniversary. <3 We were blessed to share 10 years together."
Apr 10
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What is the most comforting thing someone has said to you since your loss?

"You take all the time you need. I honor your courage as you walk through your grief and trust you as you navigate this time." - MomI didn't know how to be with my own grief after my loss. I had many friends and family that didn't know how to be with me during this time either. For those that stayed around, many stuck their foot in their mouth or pressured me to turn the page before I was ready. It isn't a comfortable thing for anyone to sit with.See More
Apr 10
Mell22C left a comment for Mel
"thx for your message... it appears we are in a similar stage in life with a similar name. good news is one tough first is over... and the holidays are that much closer to being over with!"
Dec 26, 2012
Mell22C and Mel are now friends
Dec 26, 2012
Fraulein left a comment for Mel
"Welcome, Mel.  I am the group greeter for the "widowed without children" group.  I hope you have found this site to be a source of comfort and encouragement to you on your journey.  We all "get it" which means…"
Sep 7, 2012
Soaring Spirits left a comment for Mel
"Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the…"
Aug 31, 2012
Mel replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"One week after Dave's death, a mutual friend approached me with a big smile to cheer me up and said, "The good news is, you are going to lose a ton of weight. Breakups are great for that so just imagine." She managed to minimize the…"
Aug 30, 2012
Mel commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"I lost my love to cancer 7 months ago. He battled GIST for 3 years, the last year being the most difficult. I am only 30 years old now but I actually have white hairs. I feel like I have aged a decade for each of the last couple years."
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Aug 30, 2012
Mel commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"I'm 30 too by the way. ;)"
Aug 30, 2012
Mel commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"Hey all, I lost my love 7 months ago to cancer. He was my bestfriend, my family, my heart. I was struggling to find hope that it would ever be better and then I attended Camp Widow and found comfort in the strength of others and the multitude…"
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At 10:13am on December 26, 2012, Mell22C said…

thx for your message... it appears we are in a similar stage in life with a similar name. good news is one tough first is over... and the holidays are that much closer to being over with!

At 10:24am on September 7, 2012, Fraulein said…

Welcome, Mel.  I am the group greeter for the "widowed without children" group.  I hope you have found this site to be a source of comfort and encouragement to you on your journey.  We all "get it" which means alot.  Feel free to contact me directly if there is anything I can do for you.  I look forward to getting to know you better.  Take care.

At 6:30am on August 31, 2012,
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Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
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At 10:40am on August 28, 2012, Patty Sue said…

Hi, I don't know when this friend request came in. I was in Big Bear for a week and am headed for Japan next week. Maybe we can get together for coffee or lunch when I return after 9/22.   Pat

PS: Thanks for the comment about my smile.

At 7:59pm on August 13, 2012, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.

 
 
 

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