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Mrs Bear
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Overwhelmed

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs Bear Aug 12, 2018. 4 Replies

Right now still overwhelmed by life. It's almost 4 months.  I guess I thought I was ok because I survived the first 3.  I must have just been coasting in denial.  Right now I feel like I am…Continue

Having to say the "W" word

Started this discussion. Last reply by Melissa Sep 25. 22 Replies

Boy, that was hard. I went to see a specialist and he asked my marital status.  For 14 years married I was always happy to say married.  It was so hard to breathe at that moment, let alone to say the…Continue

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Melissa replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Filling out the death certificate was the worst for me. I mean, answering questions for a minute or two at a time while others filled it out. Just soul-crushing."
Sep 25
Melissa replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Yeah, that's a hard one. I talked with several people close to me to help figure out who it made most sense to put now. I think my criteria ended up being "Who would be most likely to get this call first/quickly?" and "Who can…"
Sep 25
DIVA70 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Blow after blow
"So sorry to hear about your initial lost which was hard enough but now to be faced with the news about your brother. Believe me I can relate. I lost my husband 16 months ago. Imagine being at the funeral home making arrangements for your husband and…"
Sep 25
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Blow after blow

Just started to come out of my depression fog after losing my husband unexpectedly 15 months ago, today I get news that they found a lump on my brothers pancreas.  He had been losing so much weight.   I can't cope with this, I am not emotionally ready to even think about this. I want to escape again from reality.  But also my brother will need me.  So shattered. Life is exhausting. See More
Sep 25
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Hi Teresa, I know just how you felt as I went through that, after avoiding it for years.  The person who helps me avoid financial pitfalls had been urging me to take Susan off of my paperwork and put one of my sons on it, as had my…"
Sep 24
TeresaNY replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"I was brought to tears a few days ago at work when I had to fill out my emergency contact information.  For 20 years I filled out my husband as my emergency contact person, I sat there and just could not think of anyone else to put.  "
Sep 23
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"You are right...feels like a punch to the gut."
Sep 23
Susan replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
" How I hate the " W " word. It's worse than the "F" word. ... Filling out forms actually hurts when you get to the Marital Status section. Susan"
Sep 23
Noelene T replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Hard day, Our Anniversary in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Mrs Bear. I can relate to your feelings. I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day 2018. He was the love of my life as I am sure Bill was yours. It has been 16 months for me and I still cry when I think of all the lovely times we had…"
Jun 2
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Hard day, Our Anniversary in the group Widowed in 2018
"Thanks Dana775. Today was better.  It's all something we must adjust to. Take care. "
May 23
Dana775 replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Hard day, Our Anniversary in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi, I am so sorry for what you are going through on your anniversary. I'm sorry I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know you're not alone and I appreciate your post. I lost my wife in December and our anniversary is in…"
May 23
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Hard day, Our Anniversary in the group Widowed in 2018
"Thanks Richard, you too."
May 23
Thermopsummit replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Hard day, Our Anniversary in the group Widowed in 2018
"Hi Im new hear, yes Lost my wife of 39 years July 11th 2018, The holidays were bad, but our anniversary it all cam bubbling up like I never grieved, would have been our 40th May 7th, still recovering. Panic attacks depression crying inside and out,…"
May 23
Mrs Bear replied to KJPE's discussion He deserved so much more love in the group Suddenly Widowed
"You can still give him love.  I do with Bill.   It's just different not feeling the love back that they gave us."
May 22
Mrs Bear replied to Julie's discussion Anxiety/panic attacks in the group Widowed in 2018
"We get you.  We're going through it as well.  Never got attacks before losing Bill.  Stopping and breathing helps.  I always say what would he say to comfort me now. "
May 22
Mrs Bear added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2018
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Hard day, Our Anniversary

Bill died 4/14/18, I must have been on autopilot last year. Our anniversary  is today.  Its hitting me so hard today. I heard 2nd occurrence is bad but I still wasn't prepared.   This day was special for us and it feels like it means nothing now, no one even realizes it except me.  I crumbled. I have some old recordings of his voice.  That helps me.   Anyone else feel the same?See More
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Blow after blow

Posted on September 25, 2019 at 12:21am 1 Comment

Just started to come out of my depression fog after losing my husband unexpectedly 15 months ago, today I get news that they found a lump on my brothers pancreas.  He had been losing so much weight.   I can't cope with this, I am not emotionally ready to even think about this. I want to escape again from reality.  But also my brother will need me.  So shattered. Life is exhausting. 

So true, found on Facebook

Posted on October 24, 2018 at 11:23pm 6 Comments

Mending Broken

Posted on June 14, 2018 at 12:33am 1 Comment

I cry at the laughter

I laugh through the tears

I dance with the sobs

Counting minutes,  missing years…



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Infinity and beyond

Posted on June 12, 2018 at 8:54pm 4 Comments

I love you through my pain

I love you through my loss

I love you through the tears

I'll love you still, through our lost years

You loved me when I couldn't

You loved me when I wouldn't…

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At 9:14am on December 16, 2018, Monkey said…

i  just read some of the blogs you shared, thank you for being one of the first for being there. 

At 10:27am on June 9, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Mrs Bear. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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