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Overwhelmed

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs Bear on Monday. 4 Replies

Right now still overwhelmed by life. It's almost 4 months.  I guess I thought I was ok because I survived the first 3.  I must have just been coasting in denial.  Right now I feel like I am…Continue

Having to say the "W" word

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mrs Bear Jun 19. 9 Replies

Boy, that was hard. I went to see a specialist and he asked my marital status.  For 14 years married I was always happy to say married.  It was so hard to breathe at that moment, let alone to say the…Continue

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Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Overwhelmed
"Thanks Frank.  I had my chat with my niece it felt good talking through it. Thanks for all the support. "
Monday
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Overwhelmed
"Hi Mrs Bear, Your "coasting in denial" is spot on.  It's sort of a internal self defense that our minds work for us.  Some times that fog can last a full year or so.  It depends upon the person and each of us, while on…"
Sunday
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Overwhelmed
"Thanks booktime.  You're right, they probably don't realize it.  I am going to write them a quick note since right now my emotions are so raw I don't think I can verbalize what I need.  Thanks again for the help."
Sunday
booktime (Susan) replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Overwhelmed
"Breathe. Your grief is so raw, there is no normal for you right now. When you can breathe, you might be able to talk to them about how you are feeling. If you can't, don't worry. What you are experiencing is what we all have and are…"
Saturday
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Overwhelmed

Right now still overwhelmed by life. It's almost 4 months.  I guess I thought I was ok because I survived the first 3.  I must have just been coasting in denial.  Right now I feel like I am breaking.  I can't sleep and everything has me bawling. I let me niece and her 17 year old son move in and they are touching things that wa Bill's responsibilities and I am loosing it.  We were together for 17 years and it was all fine before he left me suddenly and unexpectedly. He was very technical and I…See More
Saturday
Mrs Bear replied to Whitedoves9698's discussion Im sadly new
"We can't go back to what its, you make decisions with what you know at the time.  Just hold to the love you had for him.  Take it one hour, then one day, then one week at a time.  I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly to a…"
Jul 1
bayoured commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Mending Broken
"Beautiful!!!!!"
Jul 1
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Thanks for sharing Frank. Losing Bill suddenly and unexpectedly made me get my affairs in order quicker than I wanted.   They will never be a erased from our memories."
Jun 19
Frank replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Hi All, It is hard to check that box Widower.  Susan and I were married for 35 years.  Her medical problems were many and varied.  We used the same hospital for the last 20 years, and it came to the point where even the "Gurney…"
Jun 19
Mrs Bear replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Danceinthekitchen....I an so sorry for your loss.  I think for the first 60 days I was just numb."
Jun 16
Bonaroo replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"Same thing happened to me - had to go back to the same hospital where he died for a test. They always ask about your contact information. Fortunately they had a box of Kleenex close by and no one was in the waiting room.  "
Jun 16
Luv4Z replied to Mrs Bear's discussion Having to say the "W" word
"I do not want to answer that question. I was also married 14 years. Its only been 2 weeks so I might be too early to be thinking about that. I have found comfort knowing there are others having the same issues and seeing what they do to help. "
Jun 16
Mrs Bear commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thanks Shoosie. That is what Bill and I use to say, that and we fought over the "I love you more".  I am a fan of the ink.  I have one and getting ready for a tribute one for my love."
Jun 14
Shoosie2 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thank you, Mrs Bear!  I have been have a rough few days with my grief- I'm 6 months out. I am printing this off and taping it to my kitchen cupboard so I'll remind myself how good I had it for 18 years. Your title is what caught my…"
Jun 14
Mrs Bear posted a blog post

Mending Broken

I cry at the laughterI laugh through the tearsI dance with the sobsCounting minutes,  missing yearsI whisper at the noiseHeart left in shredsShouting at the silenceFor words we never saidI reach through the darknessFor love that isn't thereI'll find it in the light againOnce I bear my widow's tearsSee More
Jun 14
Mrs Bear replied to shellybean's discussion Guilty about therapy
"How you speak of Marcus tells me you loved him dearly and I know he probably loved you just as much or more.  He would know that you would grieve for him but I am sure he wouldn't want you to suffer or e hirt.  I always say to myself…"
Jun 14

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Mending Broken

Posted on June 14, 2018 at 12:33am 1 Comment

I cry at the laughter

I laugh through the tears

I dance with the sobs

Counting minutes,  missing years…



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Infinity and beyond

Posted on June 12, 2018 at 8:54pm 4 Comments

I love you through my pain

I love you through my loss

I love you through the tears

I'll love you still, through our lost years

You loved me when I couldn't

You loved me when I wouldn't…

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At 10:27am on June 9, 2018, Patience said…


Welcome to Widville, Mrs Bear. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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