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MrsFreddy replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Bremerton, WA.  I don't think there's anyone up this way."
Jun 15, 2015
eddiesgirl commented on MrsFreddy's blog post One week until THE date
"I have found that the exhausting anxiety leading up to a major grief event has been worse than the actual event. Don't know why. Has it been that way for anyone else? I think you should go and have a good time with your daughter remembering and…"
Apr 19, 2015
MrsFreddy commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I just realized it's 10 months today since the love of my life left me.  ugh.  It hurts when I see others post about spending the rest of your life with their significant other.  I want to yell at them.  NO NO don't…"
Feb 27, 2015
MrsFreddy commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Why, when I say "It's been 7 months now" does it seem like the whole world is still moving forward and I am still in the same place I was 7 months ago.  It's not any one in particular putting a time line on things, it's…"
Dec 1, 2014
MrsFreddy commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Chloe,  I wasn't with my husband when he died, but he was in Japan.  I was told that he was at a great hospital but I still can't help thinking, what if he was here?!  I still have flashbacks as well and it's been…"
Sep 8, 2014
MrsFreddy replied to SJG (Susan)'s discussion Overspending as a coping mechanism for grieving.
"I am finding myself spending a lot of money as well.  I really need to stop before I run out.  My recent expense was a trip to Disneyworld for me and the kids.  It's probably the only time we could all get together, and it was in…"
Aug 23, 2014
AEDforever (Ali) commented on MrsFreddy's blog post Dreams
"((Hugs)). Dreams are strange. And yes, waking up from them can bring on extreme loneliness and sadness. Because we get to see them again for a brief moment and then they are gone again."
Aug 13, 2014
laurajay commented on MrsFreddy's blog post Dreams
" Mrs Freddy.  Not an odd dream to have...the earthquake you  dreamt of is your pain  and reaching for Eric is what you want to do to get rid of it  but you can't. The loneliness is waking to another day of…"
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"It's been a little over 3 months for me.  I know that it's not a lot of time and I should wait.  Next month I have my 6 month inspection (I rent a house) and his side of the room is untouched.  His bedside table has a layer…"
Aug 7, 2014
IndiaKai commented on MrsFreddy's blog post Going through his things
"It's been 13 months for me and I'm JUST starting to go through my husbands things.  I literally shut the door to our bedroom & his man cave.  I couldn't handle the thought of getting rid of any of his things last year.…"
Aug 7, 2014
laurajay commented on MrsFreddy's blog post Going through his things
"MrsFeddy   May I suggest you make for yourself a "one box".  I did this and it helped me a lot because like you I had to do it alone.  Begin not by purging all of his things/stuff  but by selecting one of…"
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One week until THE date

Posted on April 19, 2015 at 8:42pm 1 Comment

Tomorrow is Monday.  Just a Monday.  No significant date.  Except that it's a week from the one year anniversary of Eric's death.  I'm starting to feel the butterflies, the anxiety.  I'm afraid I'm going to give into the sobs.  Not the little teary eyed that I get now and then, but the heart wrenching, exhausting, body racking sobs.  I haven't had any in quit some time.  I'm afraid of them.  I'm afraid of how they make me feel.  I'm afraid of how they make my daughter feel.  How can I stop…



Posted on August 12, 2014 at 6:50pm 2 Comments

I had one of the first dreams with Eric in it last night.  We were moving into an apartment in a tall building and there was an earthquake.  Of course I grabbed him.  I HATE earthquakes!  But not as much as death.  I would take an earthquake with Eric any day over an earthquake free life without him. 

I woke up with a severe loneliness.  It was rough.

Going through his things

Posted on August 6, 2014 at 9:41pm 3 Comments

I think I'm ready, but what if I'm not.  I will take it hour by hour when I do go through his things.  I just need boxes and bags and markers and tape.  I need help, but I'm afraid to ask.  I won't make my daughter help me.  She puts on a brave front but I know that she could crumble any time.

Lord, please send me the energy and motivation to get through my grieving.

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At 7:53am on August 10, 2014, AEDforever (Ali) said…

Hi there.  Justdropping by to say "hey"

At 1:35pm on July 21, 2014, AEDforever (Ali) said…

(((Mrs Freddy))  So glad to see you here in WV and so glad we got to meet. We need all the friends we can get to get through this.  Stay in touch!  ((((hugs))))

At 4:35pm on June 11, 2014, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, MrsFreddy. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.  Take care of yourself.


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