Yes, Quanked is/was a real word that means to be tired beyond exhaustion. My first QUANKED experience was recuperating after a total hysterectomy (I was in the hospital for a week after the surgery…Continue
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I appreciate the feedback. I do think everyone's loss is unique and someone who is her 80's whose husband dies is going to deal with totally different issues (not all of course) than someone who lost their husband at age 51. Wish there were groups for age groups but so far no luck. I am dealing with anticipatory grief with my dad's terminal dx so it is a challenge. I do think my husband dying has gotten pushed into a corner but I don't know. This is all new territory and I will know in the future I suppose. Have my dog die unexpectedly was just awful. Just awful. I have had several dogs that I have had to euthanize due to illness but never one that ate her lunch, walked out to sit with me as I ate mine and die 2 minutes later. Just awful.
It sounds as though you might be able to relate a bit to what I am feeling. Each death made me miss my husband more and when I go to grief support groups I don't feel I fit in because I am 52 and everyone else has been in their mid late 60's to 80's. I don't know if I am considered a 'young widow?" I don't think so, therefore, I don't feel I fit in there either. OH well, nothing feels right when your husband dies. I am convinced of this. Good luck to you and I hope you find someone to help you through the bad days.
MystiqueLady, welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.
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