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MystiqueLady
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Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)

Started this discussion. Last reply by cloudwatcher Jul 6, 2016. 4 Replies

Yes, Quanked is/was a real word that means to be tired beyond exhaustion.  My first QUANKED experience was recuperating after a total hysterectomy (I was in the hospital for a week after the surgery…Continue

 

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cloudwatcher replied to MystiqueLady's discussion Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)
"What you have gone through sounds extremely stressful. Quanked, thanks for the new word I can relate to.   I think we need to shelter ourselves from further pain and feeling quanked paralyzes us so that we shut down, protect ourselves, and…"
Jul 6, 2016
music replied to MystiqueLady's discussion Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)
"I am so sorry to hear about your losses! Feeling "quanked" sounds about right, considering all the stress that you've been subjected to recently! I lost my husband suddenly three years ago, and keeping busy helped a lot. However, I…"
Jul 2, 2016
kenslove replied to MystiqueLady's discussion Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)
"I feel as if I am moving into a quanked state myself.  As the shock wears off (I was widowed on May 9th of this year) I find myself less and less motivated, and too exhausted to even read or pick up after myself.  On top of my loss, I work…"
Jun 16, 2016
Callie2 replied to MystiqueLady's discussion Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)
"MystiqueLady, My gosh, I'm so sorry for your multiple loss, I can only imagine what you're going through. Grief/depression can really do a job on us physically and mentally. I remember when my husband passed suddenly--it put me in a type…"
Jun 13, 2016
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MystiqueLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thethinker -- I am so sorry that you have to deal with this "friend."  Stay focused on yourself today -- the only thing you really HAVE to do today is to take care of yourself.  If you have to distance yourself from others, do…"
May 19, 2016
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May 18, 2016
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"I appreciate the feedback.  I do think everyone's loss is unique and someone who is her 80's whose husband dies is going to deal with totally different issues (not all of course) than someone who lost their husband at age 51. …"
May 18, 2016
MystiqueLady replied to Bj's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi BJ!  Like you, I recently lost my husband (3.5 months ago).  Although I have not started dating again, I do feel like I will find another someone with whom I can, hopefully, "grow old."  My husband had a very wide circle…"
May 18, 2016
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Totally QUANKED (Tired beyond exhaustion)

Yes, Quanked is/was a real word that means to be tired beyond exhaustion.  My first QUANKED experience was recuperating after a total hysterectomy (I was in the hospital for a week after the surgery in 2001 -- a LONG hospital stay for a hysterectomy).Now I am again feeling totally quanked, this time, so I've been told, due to grief/depression.  In short I have lost 6 people in the past three months -- starting with my husband on Feb 6 (very sudden and unexpected), ending with my father at the…See More
May 17, 2016
MystiqueLady replied to missing my love...'s discussion Anyone experiencing challenges with adult step children?
"I am sorry that you have had this issue separate you and your stepdaughter.  I, too, am a childless step-parent/grandparent.  My husband died (2/6/16) with no will, so that, essentially, granted me rights to everything.  The house I…"
May 17, 2016
ultimate15 left a comment for MystiqueLady
"It sounds as though you might be able to relate a bit to what I am feeling.  Each death made me miss my husband more and when I go to grief support groups I don't feel I fit in because I am 52 and everyone else has been in their mid late…"
May 16, 2016
MystiqueLady commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"Hi all! I have had 7 losses since the beginning of Feb 2016 -- in chronological order: My husband (sudden, unexpected, due to accidental prescription opioid overdose), my husband's first wife (which impacts me because that woman's children…"
May 16, 2016
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"MystiqueLady, welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.  Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You…"
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At 9:15am on May 18, 2016, ultimate15 said…

I appreciate the feedback.  I do think everyone's loss is unique and someone who is her 80's whose husband dies is going to deal with totally different issues (not all of course) than someone who lost their husband at age 51.  Wish there were groups for age groups but so far no luck.  I am dealing with anticipatory grief with my dad's terminal dx so it is a challenge.  I do think my husband dying has gotten pushed into a corner but I don't know.  This is all new territory and I will know in the future I suppose.  Have my dog die unexpectedly was just awful.  Just awful.  I have had several dogs that I have had to euthanize due to illness but never one that ate her lunch, walked out to sit with me as I ate mine and die 2 minutes later.  Just awful. 

Have a decent day.

At 4:54pm on May 16, 2016, ultimate15 said…

It sounds as though you might be able to relate a bit to what I am feeling.  Each death made me miss my husband more and when I go to grief support groups I don't feel I fit in because I am 52 and everyone else has been in their mid late 60's to 80's.  I don't know if I am considered a 'young widow?"  I don't think so, therefore, I don't feel I fit in there either.  OH well, nothing feels right when your husband dies.  I am convinced of this.  Good luck to you and I hope you find someone to help you through the bad days.

At 6:27am on May 15, 2016, LifesAJourney said…

MystiqueLady, welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here. 

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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