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Nance63
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the brain on grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by WithoutJim Apr 11. 25 Replies

My husband died 8 mos ago. I have found myself still in a state of shock and bewilderment.  My brain feels fractured. I am ordinarily pretty intelligent, but I find myself really changed. I am hoping…Continue

 

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WithoutJim replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"Hmm ... hit 4 years mark in January. Still some widow brain going on. Pre-loss, I was always in the middle of reading a novel (or 2!) and a nonfiction book with a stack waiting on my bed-table. Since losing Jim, very rare. We read many of the same…"
Apr 11
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"I dunno...I am 3 years in and my mind has still not recovered.  "
Apr 11
kln82 replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"Going though grief does affect our brains. I felt like I was ADD for the first 2 years. I would forget things, I couldn't read a novel all the way through, I would lose m train of thought. I went to my family doctor and she reassured me that in…"
Apr 11
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"wyzkyd, did  you announce your resignation from the AP position? I hope you're getting lots of support and encouragement and all the appreciation you're due from your time in that position! catapan, no need to excuse the lengthy…"
Apr 5
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My husband and I met and dated at a roller skating rink.  Today I had to drive my daughter to some therapies  and I put on an oldies radio station.  Almost every song was one that he had especially liked and got into while roller…"
Mar 28
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"oh my gosh, you are writing what could be my words. (and that's kind of daunting since I am at 10 mos and was hopeful that this would ease up some).  "constant state of anticipation"... well, yes, for me that amounts to waiting…"
Mar 27
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thanks for sharing your  experience with the grief counselor, Angela. It's  helpful to have it spelled out in that way.  It's gentle and kind of open ended for you to fit it to yourself. Taking time we need seems the very…"
Mar 27
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Thanks, seaneen9, going.on.slowly, and ImTheMarigold... yes, I've participated in 3 whole ten week sessions of a local grief support group for widowed people.  The first set was in one location, facilitated by someone who was disorganized…"
Mar 26
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Ohh,I feel so deeply for all of you, also!  I also had the shocking end, and still the lingering "upside down" feeling.  Usually, I just go about the day's tasks as much as I can, and I do what has to be done, but there…"
Mar 26
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Soul Searcher, I loved that book.  Great quote. Lostmyeverything, thanks for writing all that out.  I understand.  There comes an experience that changes how we look at everyone, seeing that their inevitable sorrows are there,…"
Mar 24
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Oh.. thank you.  I won't . . The very thing that makes me want to, to unending critical obligations, keep me going. But oh how I'd like to.  Lie back, and think of england! Love it. "Do it" for the nation. Ha. But,…"
Mar 24
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"That, catapan ,  is a great tactic.  I believe I am treading, but growing ever so weary and overwhelmed with how big and deep the ocean is. I WANT to sink. "
Mar 24
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Catapan...my guess is that the women are identifying with you  and your experience  of loss, as well as being nurturing, while the men may be identifying  with Stuart  and are considering their own mortality. They may have to…"
Mar 20
Nance63 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Bradley, I'm so sorry about your loss of Nicole after too short a time together.  I think you might find that this is a good place to learn that your feelings aren't abnormal or crazy, but par for the (terrible) course. You say…"
Mar 19
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"catapan, I'm glad you have a good number of friends who are there for you to call upon.  If you  haven't close family, that is great boon to have such a wide circle of caring friends.  It's a frustration not to have the…"
Mar 19
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"Sorry: I guess I was NOT without words.."
Mar 19

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At 7:33pm on October 16, 2016, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Nance63. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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