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Nance63
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  • Gloucester City, NJ
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the brain on grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Jun 6. 27 Replies

My husband died 8 mos ago. I have found myself still in a state of shock and bewilderment.  My brain feels fractured. I am ordinarily pretty intelligent, but I find myself really changed. I am hoping…Continue

 

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Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"While all the posts impact me and call up deep empathy, Tiffany, your post sent me up to my desktop to respond with a resounding YES! Me, too!  I'm not as young as you (I'm in my fifties), but our choices had me a stay at home mom…"
Sunday
Nance63 replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"Yes, you CAN! I still have a hard time with novels that have widow characters. If they don't fit my own mood, I'm irritated by them.  I find I am irritated by quite a lot, though.  ...working on that...  But non fiction…"
Jul 21
Nance63 replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"My husband died a year ago. I have always been a voracious reader, and right away I looked for books to help me understand or work things out, so early on I got a lot of grief books, but I also was not able to concentrate and really read them…"
Jul 20
Nance63 replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion Feeling really alone for the first time
"What a gift that you have her journals!"
Jul 20
Nance63 replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion Feeling really alone for the first time
"Susan, I'm sorry you've lost your mom recently!  You are unmoored.  I have had deaths in my family since my husband died a year ago, but none so close as a parent! and they've affected me, deeply.  I can understand how…"
Jul 20
Nance63 replied to catapan's discussion What can I write? in the group Widowed in 2016
"First of all, Catapan, I want to offer you my condolences for the loss of Peter, AND for how it might raise in you some renewal of the intense feelings that the loss of your own Stuart ignited. And then, I'll say that I think you ARE…"
Jul 20
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Heart attack and cardiac arrest are not the same, but for heavens' sake!  Did the policy specify ONLY heart attack?? that doesn't exactly cause death: cardiac arrest IS death.   You might want to ask the hospital for…"
Jun 18
Nance63 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"sara, just saw your post. Please don't apologize for your terrible grief and sadness. Your experience is very sad! You're so alone and without needed support. I am so very sorry!  Keep posting here, anyway; it's helpful to…"
Jun 6
Nance63 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Molly, my husband had a cardiac arrest about 3 a.m. on a Thursday morning, and after a week, we were called about 3 a.m. the following Thursday morning because his body systems were in such disarray. He died later that day.  My body, my psyche…"
Jun 6
Nance63 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"soul, Oh my goodness, reading your posts as they've come into my email, have been heart wrenching!  Your children and you have gone through such a trauma! I am so sorry! I had to take the time to come online and reply this time, though, to…"
Jun 6
widow85 replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"I am almost 3 1/2 years out, and my brain is finally starting to functioning in a sort of sputtering way. Earlier this year, I suddenly realized I don't need disability insurance anymore. Also why am I carrying all this life insurance? I had…"
Jun 6
Dan replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"My brain feels scrambled. not able to concentrate on any given thing. "
Jun 3
Nance63 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"oh my goodness, Leeky. I am so sorry for all you've gone through and the pain you are in now.  I believe we are almost the same age.  I married at 19 and was married 34 years. My  husband died rather suddenly on June 2,…"
May 2
Nance63 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2016
"catapan,  PLEASE do not be so hard on yourself.  First of all, you are NOT the same person you were. You are a shattered, injured version of yourself, and you are still needing to heal and regroup. It's not a sudden healing, it's…"
May 2
WithoutJim replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"Hmm ... hit 4 years mark in January. Still some widow brain going on. Pre-loss, I was always in the middle of reading a novel (or 2!) and a nonfiction book with a stack waiting on my bed-table. Since losing Jim, very rare. We read many of the same…"
Apr 11
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Nance63's discussion the brain on grief
"I dunno...I am 3 years in and my mind has still not recovered.  "
Apr 11

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At 7:33pm on October 16, 2016, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Nance63. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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