My husband died 8 mos ago. I have found myself still in a state of shock and bewilderment. My brain feels fractured. I am ordinarily pretty intelligent, but I find myself really changed. I am hoping…Continue
"oh my goodness, Leeky. I am so sorry for all you've gone through and the pain you are in now.
I believe we are almost the same age. I married at 19 and was married 34 years. My husband died rather suddenly on June 2,…"
"catapan, PLEASE do not be so hard on yourself. First of all, you are NOT the same person you were. You are a shattered, injured version of yourself, and you are still needing to heal and regroup. It's not a sudden healing, it's…"
"Hmm ... hit 4 years mark in January. Still some widow brain going on. Pre-loss, I was always in the middle of reading a novel (or 2!) and a nonfiction book with a stack waiting on my bed-table. Since losing Jim, very rare. We read many of the same…"
"Going though grief does affect our brains. I felt like I was ADD for the first 2 years. I would forget things, I couldn't read a novel all the way through, I would lose m train of thought. I went to my family doctor and she reassured me that in…"
"wyzkyd, did you announce your resignation from the AP position? I hope you're getting lots of support and encouragement and all the appreciation you're due from your time in that position!
catapan, no need to excuse the lengthy…"
"My husband and I met and dated at a roller skating rink. Today I had to drive my daughter to some therapies and I put on an oldies radio station. Almost every song was one that he had especially liked and got into while roller…"
"oh my gosh, you are writing what could be my words. (and that's kind of daunting since I am at 10 mos and was hopeful that this would ease up some). "constant state of anticipation"... well, yes, for me that amounts to waiting…"
"Thanks for sharing your experience with the grief counselor, Angela. It's helpful to have it spelled out in that way. It's gentle and kind of open ended for you to fit it to yourself. Taking time we need seems the very…"
"Thanks, seaneen9, going.on.slowly, and ImTheMarigold... yes, I've participated in 3 whole ten week sessions of a local grief support group for widowed people. The first set was in one location, facilitated by someone who was disorganized…"
"Ohh,I feel so deeply for all of you, also! I also had the shocking end, and still the lingering "upside down" feeling. Usually, I just go about the day's tasks as much as I can, and I do what has to be done, but there…"
"Soul Searcher, I loved that book. Great quote.
Lostmyeverything, thanks for writing all that out. I understand. There comes an experience that changes how we look at everyone, seeing that their inevitable sorrows are there,…"
"Oh.. thank you. I won't . . The very thing that makes me want to, to unending critical obligations, keep me going. But oh how I'd like to. Lie back, and think of england! Love it. "Do it" for the nation. Ha. But,…"
"Catapan...my guess is that the women are identifying with you and your experience of loss, as well as being nurturing, while the men may be identifying with Stuart and are considering their own mortality. They may have to…"
"Bradley, I'm so sorry about your loss of Nicole after too short a time together. I think you might find that this is a good place to learn that your feelings aren't abnormal or crazy, but par for the (terrible) course. You say…"