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Derailed again

Posted on September 28, 2013 at 12:10am 0 Comments

I've been pretty vigilant since Gary died, seemingly always on the watch for things that might make me cry, things that might make me run, things that might make me look a right idiot in public.

I've become been pretty good at being normal on the outside if I do say so myself.…


Physician heal thyself

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 7:56pm 1 Comment

I've heard it a thousand times "Sorry for your loss", "Sorry for your loss", "Sorry for your loss" God I've said it to a few why has it taken me so long to work it out, digest and absorb the words properly and now with meaning Sooo Sorry for your loss ...Duh well yes it was my loss and although the answer has been right in front of me the whole time, belatedly I think I truly  begin to understand and actually accept why others can't feel as I do, can't…


Doing it for the children??

Posted on May 10, 2013 at 9:09pm 0 Comments

If Ive heard it once Ive heard it a hundred times since Gary died, different versions but all the same..."you need to stay strong for the kids" "you need to let the kids see you grieve" "you need to let the kids grieve" "you need to do it for the kids"  "you need to this, you need to that"

Well friggen hell I know what I need, I think I know what my kids need....I want my life back I want the man back, I want the father back that made me and the kids feel safe, the man that taught us…


So the Labrador ate chocolate and we all fell down

Posted on April 20, 2013 at 11:20pm 2 Comments

Last weekend I put our lab outside (pretty much in my sleep) because she was whining. I woke hours later to find her vomitting and clearly unwell.

Closer investigation found she had found and eaten all my sons left over chocolate from easter.

Ive had pets all my life and know full well the dangers of…


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At 9:46am on April 21, 2013, kinigenie said…

Hi There! have the same circumstances as me...I have run into so many people whose husbands died of lung cancer.  Sure isn't a "club" that we want to belong to...hang in there....sending you hugs!

At 7:15am on April 3, 2013, tlb1630 said…

THank you!  The sun is shining and I feel the rays swarm around me as a {{hug}} from him... today will be a day of reflection...but a good day!! Blesssngs Teri :)

At 3:36pm on February 22, 2013, Suz said…

Hi Old55,

Welcome. I know you will here it said many times, but I am glad you found us and sad that such a sad situation brings you here. I lost my husband last year, too; actually it was a year ago this Sunday. I found this place after two months and I cannot believe that I have been here ten months. It has been so good for me and I treasure having a place where people really understand what you are going through.

i am going to friend you. you can accept if you want.



At 4:23am on February 22, 2013, kimkirt (KK) said…


Welcome to Widowed Village. I am sorry for the reason that brings you here but glad you have found us. This site and the wonderful people here have helped so many of us with fellowship along this journey.  I hope that you can find comfort and hope here like so many of us have among others who “get it.”  Have a look around and please feel free to contact me if I can be of any help. Hugs!



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