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You can go half way around the world….

Posted on November 10, 2013 at 10:28am 5 Comments

and find out some things:

1) I'm in South Africa, volunteering in an after school program for high school students.  They  get out of their school early and arrive here at 10 or noon.  They study very hard and stay often until 6 pm.  The days they come are Tuesday through Sunday.  It is very intense work as these students have been selected to receive this extra boost so that they may rise up out of their circumstances and have opportunities they might otherwise never have…


Two discoveries...

Posted on July 16, 2013 at 5:44am 0 Comments

I've not been here in awhile ... I was trying to get beyond bleak.  There have been better days... and then there are discovery days (if one's perceptions are accurate).

It came to me last night that I've had 3 significant people in my life who have become difficult for me to be with.  One is the Sister in Law who invaded personal space during hospice and with whom I've first learned about boundary setting.  Yet she is a relative with whom my children need to remain connected.…


It's our anniversary tomorrow

Posted on June 2, 2013 at 7:34pm 7 Comments

My husband has been gone for 11 months.

His family came for Memorial Day Saturday and Sunday - much as in the past - and I was very weary when the two days were done.  But I was happy to spend Memorial Day Monday in the cemetery in the rain with my husband.  The services had been moved to a building due to weather - I was delighted to be among the families who spent their time in the real world, where uniformed service men were saluting the veterans' grave sites.  It was…


Well, how about that?!

Posted on May 2, 2013 at 8:01pm 4 Comments

A happy thing happened on Sunday.  It was the day of the Governor's Awards for outstanding seniors (top of the class) and they were permitted to bring one teacher who had had an influence on their life.  The top senior of the district I abruptly retired from last year asked me.   That is an honor, but the happy thing is bigger than that.   Her family and I spent a long drive on the road to and fro.  We talked, laughed, ate together, enjoyed the ceremony together and midway home, I realized…


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At 5:58am on September 20, 2014, Bruja said…
Hi Pat. Thanks for the friend request and your very kind comments. Especially thanks for sharing that you understand what I feel guilty about. I have never been a friend that fades in and out and gets caught up in myself, but this one is just so big. I guess we can only do our best. Hope the day is being good to you. Hugs. Yvonne
At 3:45pm on February 18, 2014, Love said…
Thank you for being my friend. This is all new to me but I'm thankful for you all here.
I sleep any where from 2 to 3 hrs a night, it gets so lonely being up at night. Mostly talk to The Lord, listen to music until I could go back to bed again. I don't know how to chat tried a few times to no avail. Hope we can all help each other.
At 7:54pm on February 17, 2014, GPK said…
Thank you Pat. I will try these and see how they work. I'm thinking the radio trick first.
At 6:29pm on February 17, 2014, GPK said…
Hi Pat, it's good to have friends and any suggestions that will improve my sleep are more than welcome
At 7:55pm on February 8, 2014, wildflower said…

thank you for the friend request.  Yes I would like to talk.  Am fairly new to this site so am just finding my way around.

At 11:26am on January 18, 2014, Frank said…

Hi Pat,

Thank you for your kind comments about my post last night.  Its been 13 months now since Susan suddenly passed over night.  I've felt as if an implosion grenade went off and in and instant everything that was me was pulled out of me leaving behind nothing but an empty shell.  I'm rebuilding "Frank" and stepping out by myself on the thin ice of moving forward with my life, alone, and right now without any goals or aims.  Time will tell.  

How ever did you wind up in South Africa?  It would be the adventure of a lifetime and and experiance that one would never forget.  A huge step forward for you.  Terrific.


At 12:23pm on October 31, 2013, lonelyinaz said…

Pat, wow - South Africa that will be so great - that is a big major leap!!  Volunteer work at a school.  I think you'll be teaching right?  I'm sure they really need you, and probably will want you to stay longer than you think.  Just imagine your on your way to making things happen.  I'm so very happy for you.  We all can't wait to hear about your journey upon return, or while your there keep in touch.

At 9:51am on October 25, 2013, my roses said…

My roses to Pat  October 25th

Thank you for your note and your comments.  Did you see Part 1 of the photos

as well as part 2 with the gold boxes?  I really love the photo where  Wes is holding me in his arms.  I have taken a lot of photos over the years.  But that photo and some of the other ones where we are sitting together and Wes was holding my hand were done in a Studio.  Got it done for a Valentine's day gift as he had come ouf of hospital about 3 mths before.

So we have a record on this website from the time we met in 1996 - up to his death and then one's of me showing how thin I became after it all.

blessings to you


At 4:57am on October 25, 2013, my roses said…

My roses 

Forgot to say that if you do have a computer while your away.  And you mentioned about hoping to have friends email you etc.  I am happy to do so.  Just let me know before you go.

with love and blessings 

At 4:52am on October 25, 2013, my roses said…

My Roses 25 October

Dear Pat    Thank you for your message and your news.  Hope you have a fulfilling time and so glad that your prayer was answered quickly.  Keep in touch and maybe when you are back we can catch up on the Australia trip.  When you come over we might be able to speak on phone.  If you have not seen our photo page have a look and See Wes and how we looked BEFORE ALL THIS HAPPENED!! 

He is showing so much love.


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