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Dear John

Posted on August 23, 2011 at 7:15pm 3 Comments

Tomorrow would have and should have been your 56th Birthday.  It's so hard to believe everything that has happened.  Why did you have to die?  You certainly weren't bothering anyone.  All you did was help people.  What was the point of you living for almost a year, being fed by a tube, not being able to talk, fighting infection after infection, if you were just going to die anyway?  Maybe you know the answers to these questions, but I sure don't.


I hate you for leaving me…


It's just Emotions.

Posted on June 3, 2011 at 3:07pm 3 Comments

This may just be a rant or perhaps I should be talking to a therapist but I need to let out some emotions.

John died 4 years ago of a brain aneurysm and my sister died 3 1/2 years ago.  I also had a brother die of an aortic aneurysm in 1982 and my father passed away in 1985.  After the last death I hid from the world for over 3 years. 

I became very passive and was afraid to say a mean word to anyone.  I could not understand why people complained about the weather or their…


So Sad

Posted on January 30, 2011 at 7:00pm 10 Comments

Just when I thought it was safe, when I stopped waiting for more bad news, when I realized that impending doom feeling was being created by me................ I came home from work Friday night and as always looked for my cat.  Pepper is 17 years old and has been by my side since John passed away.  I don't think she has been very happy that I have been going out to work.

I found her and noticed that she seemed very lethargic.  She isn't eating and will only take a little bit of…


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At 4:28am on November 17, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…



Hoping you have a very special day, Patricia.


At 10:49am on August 19, 2011, Greggies Widow said…
Hi Patricia,

Thanks so much for the add. I'm srry for the Eason that brought you here, but I am glad that you found Widville. :)

Sending you lots of hugs.
At 3:07pm on June 14, 2011, Abby said…

Hi Patricia:

I just saw your friend request now and thank you so much for asking me.  I truly admire and respect your determination to have your husband's case investigated. I am going to go another route than you and will definitely keep you posted on my progress. As Canadians, we are known to  not ask questions and simply comply.  That time should be over. I work with a woman who had twins at Mt. Sinai Hospital in TO and there were a number of errors made in her aftercare.  Too complicated to even get into here, but she sued Mt.Sinai and a very well known OBGYN and WON! Three years of hell but she was successful at finding him negligent.  I have the name of her lawyer, should I decide to go that route. I will only resort to that if I feel I have a very strong case against this surgeon. Sadly he is the chief thorasic surgeon at Sunnybrook and when you google him, you would think he parted the Red Sea!


At 6:54pm on January 23, 2011,
Soaring Spirits
Hi Patricia, Thank you so much for joining. I have so enjoyed getting to know you on FB... I think you're one of the people I've seen change the most over this time. It's a pleasure to be part of your "team" and thanks for helping us build this original and new place!
At 5:31am on January 23, 2011, Boo said…
Hi Patricia, I just wanted to drop by and say "hi" and "welcome" here.  I hope you find it as helpful and cathartic to share with other widow/ers in this safe place as I have.  It's like a bolt-hole for me.  Please shout out if you need any help using the site, and one of us will be here.

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