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My late wife's memorial

Started this discussion. Last reply by rosamore (Kamala) Nov 30, 2014. 5 Replies

I thought I’d share the memorial I had made for my late wife. When we’d discussed funeral…Continue


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The Myth of Healing

Posted on February 19, 2014 at 12:01pm 8 Comments

People often talk about moving through grief as being a process of healing, the analogy with physical injuries is that bereavement causes an emotional injury and that grieving is the healing of that injury.  I don’t think that analogy works.  When Sharon died it felt like a huge chunk had been ripped out of my heart, but looking back now it wasn’t me who changed that night it was the world I was living in that changed.  Suddenly being alive hurt, not because I was wounded but because I no…


Seeing grief as a chore

Posted on June 7, 2013 at 1:54am 0 Comments

     I’ve often read that grief is a journey with steps forward and back but that’s not how I see it.  I think of my life as being like a huge rambling mansion with rooms ranging from the few that I mostly live in (my everyday life and thoughts), through to rooms that I use occasionally to rooms that I practically or actually never find myself going into. 

     When Sharon died a storm ripped through the mansion leaving behind a thick layer of dust that worked its way into…


My first blog post

Posted on May 20, 2013 at 1:34am 3 Comments

I was widowed in November 2011.  It's a shame that I didn't find this site at the time, a blog like this would have been useful as I was trying to make sense of where I was and where I was going. All-in-all I'm OK at the moment, but I've still got quite a lot to work out about this…


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At 4:52am on May 2, 2013, Tanya said…

I am sorry for your loss, but so glad you found Widowed Village.  You will find great  support here from people that truly understand.


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