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PattyM
  • Female
  • Westminster, VT
  • United States
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PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I have checked out Meetup.com and didn't find anything in my area, southern VT. But maybe I didn't look carefully enough or correctly. I will check it out again. I am not looking for a husband or any kind of romantic relationship. I think…"
Apr 21, 2014
PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Very well said. I do think that we need to be pro-active in reaching out, and going out and making new friends if our old ones have let us down. And yes, it is tempting to isolate oneself, but that really just makes it worse. I am trying to get out…"
Apr 21, 2014
PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Yes, it sure does. And with a situation like this it is not just lack of proper etiquette, it is very unkind."
Apr 21, 2014
PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"You are not being unreasonable at all.....I too have been disappointed and hurt by friends of 30+ years. When someone is supposedly a close friend, emails or facebook messages really are not sufficient. There should be phone calls and visits or…"
Apr 20, 2014
PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Oh, I really can relate to all of you. Unfortunately this losing friends after being widowed thing seems universal. In the support group I go to everyone in it talks about this happening to them. I have friends who were supposedly close to both my…"
Apr 20, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Kittenchic, so very sorry for your loss. I have a good idea how you feel about those frozen pipes! My husband always took care of that sort of stuff and he could always get them un-frozen with a hair dryer....didn't work for me, so I had to…"
Jan 25, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Wow...thanks to all of you who posted about the change in and sometimes loss of friends following death of a spouse/partner. I also brought this up for discussion this week at my support group and found there as well that other widows have been…"
Jan 25, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Thank you so much, bestbuds1 and Jocelyn. You are both so right, and yes, I know that other widows go through this as well, which is why I asked for your wise advice. I guess it is just a fact of life that this happens and we do have to move on and…"
Jan 21, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Has anyone experienced the loss of close friends....I think many have, but I need some input about this. We were close friends with a couple for over 30 years and I haven't heard from them AT ALL since a few days before my husband died on Oct.…"
Jan 21, 2014
PattyM replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"What do you all think about friends of 30+ years who have not contacted me since my husband died on Oct. 28, 2013? They were, I thought close friends, for all that time. They visited my husband in the hosp. and saw me and my daughter and others who…"
Jan 21, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"My roses, I am so happy for you that you had such a beautiful day with so many signs from your Wes. Keep singing!"
Jan 19, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Thanks to all for your feedback. Gabby, it will be 3 mos. for me too on Jan. 28th. Seems more like 3 years. I know I will be OK, especially when the weather is better; this time of year so many things are cancelled because of snow, etc. and being…"
Jan 19, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Thanks to all for your feedback. Gabby, it will be 3 mos. for me too on Jan. 28th. Seems more like 3 years. I know I will be OK, especially when the weather is better; this time of year so many things are cancelled because of snow, etc. and being…"
Jan 19, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Hello everyone. I have not posted in some time, but have been reading many of your posts. I have gone twice to a support grp. for people who have lost a spouse/partner, and it is helpful, but only meets every 2 weeks. My husband died on Oct. 28,…"
Jan 17, 2014
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"Thanks all for your stories; it helps so much to know that others are experiencing the same. Thanks, Sonja, for your info on the forums about moving, etc. I will check that out. Spunky, I think you are so right about the need to connect with other…"
Dec 3, 2013
PattyM commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Hi. I agree with you, lonelyinaz, that we choose the life we have before birth, on a  soul level, and that our lessons can sometimes be in the form of soul agreements we may make with others for us or them to learn the lessons our souls need. I…"
Dec 1, 2013

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At 4:52pm on November 18, 2013, Passingthrough said…
Hi PattyM. I am so sorry for your loss, and I know exactly how you feel. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Pray that God gives you the strength to carry on. It will get better; it will just take time. My husband passed from lung cancer last year and its a hurt that stays with you for a long time. People that have not walked in our shoes don't understand and will not understand until their time come.
At 6:56am on November 16, 2013, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, PattyM. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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