"When my husband was so Ill, and I was his caregiver, I was started on Zoloft. After he died I was kept on it, and given 1/2 Trazedone and 1/2 Ambien to sleep. They kept upping the dosage of Zoloft as my depression , grew but as it became very…"
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Has anyone had any widow friends who once they got boyfriends dropped out of any widow activity?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Sunshine81 Jul 20, 2011. 0 Replies 0 Likes
I have unfortunetly experienced this. We were a tight group, but then one by off they go. I feel like the only girl left without a prom date. I hope I am not like that. I still need friends.
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Paula replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Dating and love
"well, I have been dating the same man since September. Boy did it start slow. I was glad, he was such a gentleman. Then as we would kiss goodnight, the kisses became more passionate. This continued until it felt like saying goodbye after a coffee…"
Paula commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Hi AKwidow2013 , I understand about being so newly widowed and still thinking about a new love someday. I was so deep in the loss, that the only thing possible to fill the void was somehow replacing it with something similar. I was not…"
Paula replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I have to agree. I was so broken after my husband died. A half person. I got better but I was not truly happy again until I got into a relationship. It's not love, it may never be but at least it's a start."
Paula replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"I agree with until death do us part. I loved Bill with all my heart, but once he died, I knew he was gone. I no longer felt married which made me sad. A wedding ring means you are married, and I no longer was"
Paula replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Postcards from Camp Widow East 2013
"I'm in the bar at the Marriott right now."
Paula replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Camp Widow East 2013
"I am beginning to get a little desparet. I wrote an email to Barb about why I seem to be not registered. She has not responded I have put a lot of money into this and I am a veteran camper. Can someone who is in charge of something please respond to…"
Paula replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Camp Widow East 2013
"I am not sure why this is happening, but I registered for CWE and I cannot figure out how to sign up for the workshops"
Paula replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Time helped. I was widowed in 2010, as well. First two years were just rotten. The first thing I was able to do was drag myself out of the house to exercise. I figured that I would force my body to move and eventually my brain would follow which it…"
Paula commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Juls,
I hit a very hard spell at around the two year mark myself. Friends and family were really sick of me not being over it, but I was so sad, even sadder than I had been before. I don't think it is unusual. Co dependent??? I don't agree…"
Paula commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"My husband also had pancreatice cancer. He really was not very phycially ill when diagnosed even tho it had metzed to liver. Even the doctor was puzzled as his liver enzymes were perfect. He had one chemo treatment and from that point on he was…"
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- At 10:27pm on March 22, 2013,
Andrea S. said… Ciao Paula! I do remember you and your dancing daughter! Thanks for being in touch. How is life? My son and I are moving forward. Some practical things have gotten better in life. Some are still a challenge. Namely - la famiglia. ;(- in fact I just posted a reply on the topic in a forum. I am still holding my ground. :) I am taking my son to weekly Italian class -to honor the best of my husband's traditions. Will you attend Camp Widow West again? Un abbraccio, Andrea
- At 7:36pm on January 5, 2013,
alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) said… Hi Paula. Thanks very much for the suggestion on where to meet others. Take care!
- At 10:23pm on June 11, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Big hug to you today, friend... miss you! Let's catch up soon. XOX
- At 2:29am on May 12, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
Thinking of you on your special day, Paula. Hope you are surprised with unexpected smiles!
Dianne
- At 8:48pm on March 26, 2012,
maddogdolly said… Hi Paula. You can call me Dolly. It was nice to hear from you. I am coming up on 8 mos. I can hardly believe it. It's as if I've been in a fog of some kind. You are at 2yrs. almost, I'd love to hear about your journey. By any chance are you going to Camp Widow/East? I thought I'd check it out. I figure the worst that can happen is I'll spend a weekend at the beach! Please feel free to message me if you're inclined to chat.
- At 12:29am on August 10, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
- Hi Paula. I'm sorry today was a tough one ... but let me just say you are NOT being selfish at all. You need to do what feels right to you, regardless of how your friends react. I think Camp Widow is exactly what you need right now. Friendships, workshops, fun, tears .... what a weekend!
- At 2:07am on July 14, 2011,
Greggies Widow said… Thanks for adding me as a friend. Glad to see you on here. Cant wait to see you in a few weeks!
Hugs to you sweetpea.
- At 11:45am on May 12, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… - Lively, lovely Paula, I hope you're finding some sweet memories and even sweeter hope today on your birthday. I, for one, am glad that you were born. You've been a great help to others with your honesty and open heart. THANK YOU.
- At 11:39am on May 12, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
- At 8:19pm on May 8, 2011,
Abby said… Hi Paula: Thank you for inviting me to be your friend. I am still getting a handle as to how to navigate this site. Could you send me your profile or tell me your story. I would be glad to hear about it and hopefully be able to add some insight.
Abby
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