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kln82 commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"I love this . The words are so true. Thanks."
Apr 10, 2017
Patience commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"Love this, Paula. Thank you!!"
Dec 17, 2016
dublin53 commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"I have also seen this before but the timing of seeing it today is just what i needed. Thank you. ."
Nov 23, 2016
dublin53 commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
Nov 23, 2016
Bundles549 commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"It's only been a year for me. Reading this makes me feel so hopeful, like there is a point to this journey that I wasn't expecting to be on. That something beautiful can come from it after all."
Oct 14, 2016
chef (John) commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"I've seen this posted on other web sites and am glad that it's posted here too. It should have a link on the front page for everyone who is new to our experience, or even six months, one or two years out. It's been up for over a year,…"
Oct 14, 2016
G commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"Thank you for sharing this it really hit home for me"
Oct 13, 2016
Paula commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"one day the same year my husband died, there was a big thunderstorm and we had a power failure. Our garage door was a heavy two car garage model that no matter how hard I tried I could not get it up and over my head to get my car out. I was trapped.…"
Nov 10, 2015
Paula replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Dating and love
"Money makes people NUTS"
Nov 9, 2015
Paula commented on only1sue's blog post I am a careful, not carefree, widow
"I went to a wedding last night. I knew a lot of guests from my college days (40 years ago).  We were all out on the floor dancing and the mother of the brides brother was dancing with me. His wife jumped on him like a ferret on a cracker. I was…"
Sep 20, 2015
Paula commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2010
"Diane, I know you and you know me, 5 years. What the heck? I have done so much. Classes, attempting a new career, selling my home and getting a new one and yes dating and love. Real love. Still not sure of the future. I found out that the crystal…"
Sep 18, 2015
tlb1630 commented on Paula's blog post Looking back from the perspective of 5 years
"WOW... you are so right on here.  And I do wish the person who wrote this knew or knows how right on they are as well!!!  Here I sit at 4 1/2 years and can truly see and understand every point written in this post!  Right on!! …"
Sep 7, 2015
Paula commented on Paula's blog post Once and again the widow in the room The slow dance
"So, a new an interesting development to this saga.  I sent my regrets in.  My boyfriends and I had a wonderful weekend away planned. My girlfriend texted me the next day, and asked if I was coming. She had not gotten the RSVP yet. I said I…"
Aug 30, 2015
Paula commented on Paula's blog post Once and again the widow in the room The slow dance
"I know her husband and he is the cheapest man in the world. She made the comment when she called that there were going to be a lot of unhappy people there because of this, which just seems stupid. Why go if you are going to be unhappy. I swear if I…"
Aug 18, 2015
Paula commented on Paula's blog post Once and again the widow in the room The slow dance
"No Dianne, that was another party I was at. It was a meetup group and I really did not know anyone besides the hostess."
Aug 18, 2015
Dianne in Nevada commented on Paula's blog post Once and again the widow in the room The slow dance
"OMG Paula ... that is NOT the behavior expected from a 40-year friendship!  A true friend would never have called you about it in the first place. Those rules may be fine for the single young folks attending the wedding who just want to bring a…"
Aug 17, 2015

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Once and again the widow in the room The slow dance

Posted on July 22, 2015 at 5:50pm 19 Comments

 It has been five long years, and boy have they been long. I have worked really really hard to rebuild my shattered life.  Most of the time I am in a pretty good place. I won’t go into everything I have been thru and done, because we are here on this site and we have been there.  The ability to abbreviate my story in this space is one that I have really begun to appreciate.  Going to weddings has got to be one of the worst widow activities next to planning…

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Looking back from the perspective of 5 years

Posted on June 2, 2015 at 6:33pm 15 Comments

This was a milestone year. 5 years. how it happened I don't know I think the below makes so much sense where I am right now

I did not write this but I think that after five years these are indeed the things I have learned. I wish I knew who wrote it because I would give them credit, but whoever wrote it really gets it.

A time finally comes when you "get it" ... when, in the midst of all your tears and insanity you stop in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head…

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Valentines day

Posted on February 13, 2015 at 4:10pm 1 Comment

 It is the stupidest fucking day of the year. It is DESIGNED to make everyone partnered or not to feel bad about what they give or what they get. Top that together with the NOT STOP COVERAGE of Fifty Shades of Stupid and I am ready to punch a baby. I cannot believe that a book that celebrates a woman abdicating control of her life when we ALL LOST CONTROL of our lives. I wish that someone would talk about sitting there watching my husband…

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When do I stop having widow problems or is it always widow problems.

Posted on July 26, 2014 at 2:00pm 6 Comments

Right after Bill died I had a lot of problems. Tons of them, millions of them, and all of them, each and every one directly related to his death.  I was in the Hole. They ranged from a soul crushing paralyzing depression to the inability to open my garage door after a snow storm (of course I could not remove the snow) and power failure.  I had an old car with a lot of problems. I had lost my job and my career of over 29 years was over. Most of my friends went on what I call the widow…

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At 4:13am on May 6, 2015, laurazav said…

HI Paula - I am glad that you reached out to me.  I live in Bloomfield. 

At 11:54am on March 5, 2015, leendah said…

thank you Paula for what you said about dating and that one can find love again........and I do think it should start from a friend level that could lead to more........(hopefully)

At 10:38pm on June 21, 2014, Damianino! said…

Great,I feel a coincidental meting works better.  I advised some of the members to start some kind of activity in the community or the next nearest town and see where it leads.  Whatever it is you could ask to be taught or teach someone and see what goes from there.  Cheers.  I haven't started dating as I am just still too raw, three months out since i lost my soul mate! I will get there! Cheers and nice talking with you

At 9:27pm on June 20, 2014, Damianino! said…

Hi Paula,

I was going over the dating page and saw your initial failed attempts with the date sites!  That was several years ago.  I am sure you are dating steady now.  I am quite new...3 months out since my wife passed and well. i don't know

At 5:03pm on June 11, 2014, Morgana (Janet) said…

You can post them here or e-mail them to me at [email protected]

I would love to see what you did. Hopefully it will give me some ideas with mine and I bet it looks awesome.

At 4:29pm on February 13, 2014, onyourMARK said…

My husband was a Chatham "native".  I am a "washashore".  I came here to work one summer, met him, and never left. I love Chatham.

At 4:31am on July 11, 2013, LJ1 said…
Hi Paula - we should have coffee sometime - Starbucks?
Laurie
At 6:27pm on March 22, 2013, Andrea S. said…

Ciao Paula! I do remember you and your dancing daughter! Thanks for being in touch.  How is life?  My son and I are moving forward. Some practical things have gotten better in life. Some are still a challenge. Namely - la famiglia. ;(- in fact I just posted a reply on the topic in a forum.  I am still holding my ground. :)  I am taking my son to weekly Italian class -to honor the best of my husband's traditions.  Will you attend Camp Widow West again?   Un abbraccio, Andrea

At 3:36pm on January 5, 2013, alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) said…

Hi Paula. Thanks  very much for the suggestion on where to meet others. Take care!

At 6:23pm on June 11, 2012,
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Big hug to you today, friend... miss you! Let's catch up soon. XOX

 
 
 

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