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What's wrong with me?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Frank Sep 5, 2019. 17 Replies

I feel a bit strange, like I am doing something wrong. My wife passed on July 24. 2019 after a 7 year long bout with a kidney disease and a transplant that ultimately rejected.  She was 48 and we…Continue


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JeffS replied to Canshifter's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"My MIL and I have never gotten along. She is selfish and narcissistic I have always had issues with the way she treated my wife and continues to treat anyone she deems beneath her. I deal with her because I have to. On the day after Kim died two…"
Sep 24, 2019
JeffS replied to KathleenSmile's discussion "Name a Star", after your loved on.
"Hi Kathleen,  Here are a few links with some explanations on the star naming. This one lets you adopt a star, but the…"
Sep 23, 2019
JeffS replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Anniversary
"@Dee1960, i know it's a tough day for you. Perhaps like EDC said, you can find something you like to do today, or do something you both enjoyed. Sending hugs your way. jeff"
Sep 16, 2019
JeffS replied to newlife's discussion Staying in the marital home or moving elsewhere?
"It's been around 1 1/2 months since Kim passed.  I am definitely staying in the house for a while.  We rent from a friend who has been great.  Plus the community is amazing and the schools are great.  In the entire 3rd…"
Sep 10, 2019
Frank replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Hi Jeff, During the 35 years that Susan and I were married, she had Diabetes.  When we started dating she asked me if it would bother me to give her a shot? Being an EMT, I told her heck no, it won't bother me a bit to give HER a shot. As…"
Sep 5, 2019
Jesi0618 replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Everyone has an opinion, don't they? Some of my in-laws are mad because my husband didn't want a funeral (so he didn't have one). Others are mad that he was cremated so they have "nowhere to visit him". Others are commenting…"
Sep 5, 2019
Jesi0618 replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Your comparison to the Island of Misfit Toys made me giggle, so thanks for that. It's so true. "
Sep 5, 2019
barbee replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Jeff, my advice to you is for you to stop worrying about things not bothering you. My husband of almost 50 years, passed after 16 years dealing with MS and its many complications. The last year of his life he was quadraplegic and on hospice care in…"
Sep 5, 2019
chef (John) replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"The Year-of-Firsts is difficult enough as it is, so definitely block the crazy woman, Jeff. You don't need to waste time deciphering her BS--and she is someone who is a "high-maintenance" personality. I'm also really…"
Sep 5, 2019
JeffS replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"This past Tuesday was the first of the 'Firsts' for me. Kim passed on Jul 25, 2019. Tuesday 9/3 was my birthday. At first it wasn't so bad at work. Then a man and a woman who sit behind me (neither of which even been in the office for…"
Sep 5, 2019
Athena53 replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Jeff- there is no "right" way to grieve and this is a place where people understand that.  What I've never seen here is, "It's been X months/years so move on, get over it", nor have I seen, "How can you be…"
Aug 29, 2019
Melissa replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"You're not doing it wrong. Like others have said, it's possible to grieve a loss before someone passes, and it sounds like that may be part of what is going on. I too went through some parts of what needed to be taken care of mechanically,…"
Aug 29, 2019
Mrs.Linda replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
" I rather suspect perhaps that the original shock of losing your spouse has not yet worn off. You are numb. And in a way that is a protecting thing. But the day may come when that changes for you. You have your son to think about so you're…"
Aug 26, 2019
JeffS replied to Dee1960's discussion Phone Call from the Afterlife?
"I thought I had a few instances of this.  Was away for the weekend with my son (spanning the 1 month mark of my wife's passing).  Twice I looked at my phone and saw a missed call, from my own number.  I was sure it was a…"
Aug 26, 2019
JeffS replied to soulmate's discussion If you could choose one song to express how you feel after the death of your spouse what would it be?
"Years ago when I lost my sister, I would listen to "All At Once" by Whitney Houston, because that was one of her favorite artists. Thirty two years later, it comes back to mind after I lose my wife.  And it resonates just as much."
Aug 21, 2019
JeffS replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: MID-ATLANTIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hello, I am in Hackettstown, NJ... 20 miles from PA border off Rte 80.  "
Aug 21, 2019

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At 7:44am on August 17, 2019, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, JeffS. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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At 7:33am on August 16, 2019, Roxana said…

Dear Jeff,

i am really sorry to hear about your loss and welcome to the forum. I hope you will find help and some sort of guidance in here.


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