I feel a bit strange, like I am doing something wrong. My wife passed on July 24. 2019 after a 7 year long bout with a kidney disease and a transplant that ultimately rejected. She was 48 and we…Continue
"My MIL and I have never gotten along. She is selfish and narcissistic I have always had issues with the way she treated my wife and continues to treat anyone she deems beneath her. I deal with her because I have to.
On the day after Kim died two…"
"It's been around 1 1/2 months since Kim passed. I am definitely staying in the house for a while. We rent from a friend who has been great. Plus the community is amazing and the schools are great. In the entire 3rd…"
During the 35 years that Susan and I were married, she had Diabetes. When we started dating she asked me if it would bother me to give her a shot? Being an EMT, I told her heck no, it won't bother me a bit to give HER a shot. As…"
"Everyone has an opinion, don't they? Some of my in-laws are mad because my husband didn't want a funeral (so he didn't have one). Others are mad that he was cremated so they have "nowhere to visit him". Others are commenting…"
"Jeff, my advice to you is for you to stop worrying about things not bothering you. My husband of almost 50 years, passed after 16 years dealing with MS and its many complications. The last year of his life he was quadraplegic and on hospice care in…"
"The Year-of-Firsts is difficult enough as it is, so definitely block the crazy woman, Jeff. You don't need to waste time deciphering her BS--and she is someone who is a "high-maintenance" personality. I'm also really…"
"This past Tuesday was the first of the 'Firsts' for me. Kim passed on Jul 25, 2019. Tuesday 9/3 was my birthday. At first it wasn't so bad at work. Then a man and a woman who sit behind me (neither of which even been in the office for…"
there is no "right" way to grieve and this is a place where people understand that. What I've never seen here is, "It's been X months/years so move on, get over it", nor have I seen, "How can you be…"
"You're not doing it wrong. Like others have said, it's possible to grieve a loss before someone passes, and it sounds like that may be part of what is going on. I too went through some parts of what needed to be taken care of mechanically,…"
" I rather suspect perhaps that the original shock of losing your spouse has not yet worn off. You are numb. And in a way that is a protecting thing. But the day may come when that changes for you. You have your son to think about so you're…"
"I thought I had a few instances of this. Was away for the weekend with my son (spanning the 1 month mark of my wife's passing). Twice I looked at my phone and saw a missed call, from my own number. I was sure it was a…"
"Years ago when I lost my sister, I would listen to "All At Once" by Whitney Houston, because that was one of her favorite artists.
Thirty two years later, it comes back to mind after I lose my wife. And it resonates just as much."
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