"The professionals say second guessing is counterproductive but how do you stop? And when you've got the closest person to you on earth -- well, used to be -- telling you that you didn't try to save her father, you begin to believe that…"
"I can also relate to some of what your husband did. My husband throughout all of his treatments always told everyone he was fine. I think he too wanted to protect us and wanted us to think he was strong and nothing was going to happen.…"
"That's a great suggestion, Riley!
My husband was in complete denial, telling everyone his dramatic weight loss and cadaver-ish appearance were Crohn's disease. After he finally submitted to a CT scan he lied about the devastating…"
"Lark, Oh my gosh! Maybe you guys should sit down the doctor on a telephone conference and talk this out. I had to do that! It really helps! My daughters didn't blame me , I blamed myself and the doctors. I felt…"
"How are you doing? Should be so much better and would be, 2 yrs and 4 months out, were it not for the agonizing fact that my (adult) daughter blames me for her father's cancer death -- that I could have/should have done more to "save"…"
"Lupe's Husband, thanks for sharing your stories. It means a lot. Also in my situation not only worried about my home etc, but also what my two daughters would think and plus there's a lot of fear about the unknown.…"
"Mary H, you hit it on the head when you said We've had long enough marriages that we have a hard time imagining another life with another spouse or even just dating. I also think especially in my case, I'm 58, young…"
"Catalan, so proud of you for taking care of you first. I know your friend has a lot going on right now but so do you. Sometimes people get caught up in their own pain, they forget other people are going through their own stuff. Way to go making…"
"Athena - I did it. The decision took itself; I was out all day in the National Park and when I came home, I knew I was going to send a message to my friend, telling her exactly what you suggested.
She hasn't responded. …"
"Your 5/5 journal is beautifully written. I totally can feel where you're coming from. I'm not ready and possibly never will be, I don't know. All I know is I want him back and I still love him. Still trying to…"
"Athena, thank you for your words of understanding and your suggestions. I think I will escape from the next clinic appointment, and give the very reason you suggest. Yes, it is horrible what she's going through and…"
"Riley, thank you for your comments and your understanding. I, too, feel that my friend should not have asked this of me - in fact, she didn't ever ASK, she just sneaked in the assumption that she had already asked and I had agreed…"
"Miket, thank you so much for your empathy. I talk to Stuart every night, in solitude, and ask him to help me get through . . . whatever it is that I'm facing at that time. I also thank him for the help…"
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