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Shoosie2
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  • Brownsville, CA
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Keeping your Loved One's Ashes

Started this discussion. Last reply by Former Yooper Jun 27. 3 Replies

Hi everyoneI am 6 months into my grief journey, abut it feels like 1 million years ago since I saw my Rick's handsome face. How can it only be 6 months!!!  There must be some sort of time warp going…Continue

a very uplifting article

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Apr 23. 2 Replies

 I just found this while taking a break at work. I found it very enlightening, especially since my Rick contacted me twice in 12 hours. Last night, upon pulling into the driveway, the radio again…Continue

 

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Shoosie2 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty1 I am sorry for you loss, which is so fresh and new, and the scab hasn't even started to form on your heart. My husband was diagnosed with Stave IV lung cancer last August 21, and he died December 20. My grief, too, is still pretty…"
Jul 2
Dianne in Nevada replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"This is yet another thing, Shoosie, where there are no rules that you must follow. If you type the word 'ashes' in the Forums search box you will find some other discussions on this topic.  And all sorts of responses.  As far as…"
Jun 26
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Others have read bits of this before, but I have most of Ron's ashes in the original box on my mantel, wrapped in one of his old flannel shirts, with is picture nearby.   The rest?  Some are in the lake behind our house. …"
Jun 26
Shoosie2 posted a discussion

Keeping your Loved One's Ashes

Hi everyoneI am 6 months into my grief journey, abut it feels like 1 million years ago since I saw my Rick's handsome face. How can it only be 6 months!!!  There must be some sort of time warp going on because 6 months and 1 million years are now one in the same. I see other people having a life, socializing with friends, holding hands, marveling at a sunset, and I think- We used to do that- WE had a life together. No I have no life. I am a contradiction in terms: I am alive but dead at the…See More
Jun 26
Shoosie2 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Need help using the site? Ask here!
"I hope someone can answer an obvious question- except for me!  LOL    I wanted to reply to a post on Soaring Spirits, but it just keeps 'saving' and never posts. I had never signed up for an account on that site, so I…"
Jun 25
Shoosie2 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thank you, Mrs Bear!  I have been have a rough few days with my grief- I'm 6 months out. I am printing this off and taping it to my kitchen cupboard so I'll remind myself how good I had it for 18 years. Your title is what caught my…"
Jun 14
LP replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Dear Steph, You don't have to move! At least not anytime soon - as long as you don't want to. I understand the pressure of what other people might think - or to be fair, what WE think other people might think, which may not be what they…"
Jun 10
Shoosie2 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much for the sound advice. I know everyone's journey is different, and I totally understand those who have moved because their spouse passed in their home. Rick died in the hospital, but I know if he'd passed away in the…"
Jun 9
shelley replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerinBergenJC, I really enjoyed your post.  Good advice.  "
Jun 9
Dee replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Shoosie, I am in a similar quandary, although farther along in my grief journey. Dan died 4 years ago June 24, and I am still living on our acreage, which has 3 acres of lawn, numerous planting beds, and a pool to maintain. I love it out here, but…"
Jun 9
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Bergen came up with a lot of good ideas and questions; I'd also suggest that you rent before buying in a given area.  It means you're paying for two moves, but better that than buying a place and finding you don't like the…"
Jun 8
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi, Shoosie:  Well, first of all, you don't just pick a place based on price from a Kiplinger article.  There are lots of places that are really cheap to live, but I couldn't live in most of them. Second of all, you don't do…"
Jun 8
Susan replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"I waited the 2 yrs before moving. But did you know you have the option at age 60+ to start taking your spouse's SSI if it is more than yours. You cannot get both. But you can get your spouse's now...if you were married at least 10 yr."
Jun 8
Shoosie2 added a discussion to the group Born in the 50s
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Giving Myself a Panic Attack

Hi everyoneWell, here's something I know we have all been told not to do the first year after losing out spouse. Do not make any major changes!  I am exactly 6 months out from losing Rick as of yesterday.   Did I listen? Sort of.  I was scrolling through newsfeeds, and  a Kipplinger   'Best Places to Retire' came up. ( I'm 61)  I nonchalantly snooped, and found to my surprise, there are several wonderful places out there in the real world that are affordable on a fixed income!. My Rick was so…See More
Jun 8
LP replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"Oh yes, I’m on that same loop. Theee months on and some days it feels like the first day. Some days I can make plans for ‘next year’ and some days -like today- I can’t see how to make it through another hour. The tears just…"
Jun 2
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"Death is devastating & difficult to make sense of as well as changes your life. Its a new normal with widow brain. The extremity of rawness in the first year is temporary, at the same time, its shock that is protecting you from the full force of…"
Jun 1

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At 8:54pm on February 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Shoosie2. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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