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Shoosie2
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Keeping your Loved One's Ashes

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 on Friday. 19 Replies

Hi everyoneI am 6 months into my grief journey, abut it feels like 1 million years ago since I saw my Rick's handsome face. How can it only be 6 months!!!  There must be some sort of time warp going…Continue

a very uplifting article

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Apr 23. 2 Replies

 I just found this while taking a break at work. I found it very enlightening, especially since my Rick contacted me twice in 12 hours. Last night, upon pulling into the driveway, the radio again…Continue

 

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Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"What a wonderful story!  We didn't get that far into Scotland on previous trips although we've been to the Orkneys.  I'm heading to Paris next week and may drop some into the Seine if I can do it…"
Friday
Jabs replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"We took my husbands ashes (not all but most) to Scotland for the one year anniversary of losing him. It had been our favorite place to visit over the years. I invited both his brothers and their wives, my niece and her husband and my kids. We spent…"
Friday
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Athena, Your post gave me a smile as I'm in the middle of drafting a kilt pattern for my daughter; son doesn't want one. Boo! Bob-O was also of Scottish ancestry. They're powerful, our kids are fair like him. Blonde when born, but now…"
Friday
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"There was one place at the top of Ron's and my list when we discussed the places where I'd scatter his ashes:  Edinburgh.  He was of Scottish ancestry and we'd been to Scotland 3 or 4 times.  The first visit, in 2001,…"
Thursday
Shoosie2 commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"Ms Em- Well done on making that huge step. Slowly letting go of their personal items such as clothes, toiletries etc is a BIG step forward. I'm 9 months out now, and had 'our' bedroom painted last month, so it's now my bedroom. I…"
Aug 31
Shoosie2 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Shelley- maybe it was too hard for him to leave and make his transition with you being so close to him. Just my thought. I stayed with Rick in the ER room for 30 minutes after he'd passed. I just kept stroking his hair, telling him that I loved…"
Aug 22
Shoosie2 replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Mike, If I'm not mistaken, you live in a rural area, like I do. I remember some of your earlier posts about finding others who share same interests, etc, and when Meetup.com was mentioned, you said that there was nothing close by. Well, to the…"
Aug 12
Tekwriter replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi, I think we will have to move this coming year. Our house payment is extraordinarily high and I do not believe I will be able to refinance it on what I make in retirement. We had just gone through bankruptcy to keep it so my credit is now good…"
Aug 9
Shoosie2 commented on Athena53's blog post "A sculpture that Creates Intense Emotion"
"Here is another sculpture with captures all of our feelings, at one time or another. It's called The Weight of Grief  by Celeste Roberge. Peace Steph"
Aug 7
julep67 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"I haven't been able to scatter my Mark's ashes yet either.  I have them in my home.  Last fall, I lost our beloved dog Sam, I have his ashes on the same shelf with Mark's.  When our other dog (Mark's sweet sheltie…"
Aug 6
Rockon replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"That is SO awesome Athena! What a treasure chest for Ron and yourself. I am so happy for you!"
Aug 6
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"An update on the container for Ron's ashes- Dad told me that my brother is making the box from a cedar tree that fell down on the property in Myrtle Beach where my parents lived for 30 years.  A kind neighbor cut it down for them and cut…"
Aug 6
Shoosie2 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Everyone here is posting my exact feelings right now. I just suffered through what would have been our 18th anniversary on 7/27. The following day, the neighbor who has been helping me took all of Rick's tools as I had arranged that. It was…"
Aug 5
Morgana (Janet) replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Hi Sooshie2 and sorry you are in the club no one wants to join. My husband wanted to be cremated and his ashes scattered at Battleship Rock out side of Albuquerque, NM. I did keep some for me as that was what I wanted to do. Most all of his ashes…"
Aug 2
SpringLight replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Since my post, I've noticed mentions of religious practices regarding cremains, so I feel I should point out that where I chose to place my husband’s ashes was strictly individual.  My husband and I are of different religious…"
Aug 2
Callie2 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Keeping your Loved One's Ashes
"Shoosie, your loss is still very recent. The feelings you describe seem normal for someone who is grieving. IMO grief is more like a process and for many of us, we let go a little at a time.( more like increments). Whether it be tossing out a…"
Aug 1

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At 8:54pm on February 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Shoosie2. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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