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SoreEyes
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  • Tallahassee, FL
  • United States
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SoreEyes replied to Dee1960's discussion Wedding Rings -- why wear them?
"Hi Dee I am having the same struggle in my mind as to when I should take my wedding band off.  Social Security was so nice to inform me in a letter that I was no longer married.  On paper this might be true but in my heart our marriage…"
yesterday
SoreEyes replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"I read the best way to get validation is to ask for specific things.  I asked my wife to give me a sign with dates, coins and a bunch of purple grapes.  In a way that I couldn't explain, the other day my birth day appears on the…"
yesterday
Loyd1960 left a comment for SoreEyes
"SoreEyes,first let me say how sorry I am for your loss.I see it hasn't been that long since your wife passed,and you are still in what I call shock mode.This is a rough time questioning everything from why her and why now.This seems to go on…"
Jan 14
SoreEyes replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"An interesting topic being discussed here.  I also talk out loud and in my head to my wife.  Unfortunately the conversation has been one sided and I keep looking for some kind of validation.   I wish and ask her every day for…"
Jan 14
Riskybiz left a comment for SoreEyes
"SoreEyes, I too am angry at God, my husband was my best friend, e brought out the best in me.  I am seeing a grief counselor today, will it help?  I don't know.  I am missing him so much."
Jan 14
SoreEyes replied to Jules's discussion 5 weeks and counting i in the group Widowed in 2019
"Jules, Kiki, Riskybiz and everyone else.  You all have said things in your posts that have hit home for me.  That terrible feeling of dealing with each day, each hour that your partner for life is gone.  It's the first and last…"
Jan 13
SoreEyes replied to Riley's discussion I Challenge You! in the group Born in the 60s
" Hello everyone.  I hope this post will help both you and I in dealing with this terrible journey. 1. She was always there to listen. 2.  She laughed at my jokes. 3.  Finding a way to make her smile & laugh everyday. 4. …"
Jan 13
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for SoreEyes
"Welcome to Widville, SoreEyes. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to find others that share your experience. Check out the Forum Discussions…"
Jan 6

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At 12:17pm on January 14, 2020, Loyd1960 said…

SoreEyes,first let me say how sorry I am for your loss.I see it hasn't been that long since your wife passed,and you are still in what I call shock mode.This is a rough time questioning everything from why her and why now.This seems to go on ,at least for me through the first year.As I mentioned in my earlier comment.You will constantly see,hear smell things that will bring all the hurt back.You ask if it ever gets better.Yes it does,but it takes awhile.Do you ever get over it (No)but you learn to live with it.I think of my wife every day.I have started dating again,but its a hard thing to go through,dating someone and try not to compare them to your wife.Sounds like you loved her very much and must have had a wonderful marriage.But where there is much love,there is much grief.I know its a cliché,but you litterly have to take it one day at a time.We men are taught not to cry but some evenings when I am home alone,and it still will hit me out of nowhere.I will bust into tears uncontrollable.So now I focus on my grandkids,And even thou they never met her I show them her pictures and tell them how much she loves them.Its a tough sad road you have to go down,What has helped me the most is my belief in God and my savior Jesus Christ.I know she is in a  great place,with no pain.The bible describes it as paradise.I will see her again one day.That is what helps me the most.

At 8:47am on January 14, 2020, Riskybiz said…

SoreEyes,

I too am angry at God, my husband was my best friend, e brought out the best in me.  I am seeing a grief counselor today, will it help?  I don't know.  I am missing him so much.

At 3:27pm on January 6, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

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