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SoreEyes
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Mother-in-law Zinger

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Feb 15. 6 Replies

10 weeks have gone by since my wife passed away.  The other day though was an unexpected zinger.My Mother-in-law asked that I return furniture that she gave us over the past 34 years.  Startled, I…Continue

Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?

Started this discussion. Last reply by MissingJim Mar 13. 18 Replies

November 2019 is when I lost my wife to cancer.  A long miserable battle for her.  At 58 we were just starting to think about retirement and the future.  Weeks before she passed I cried without…Continue

 

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MissingJim replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Dear Lynne, 17 weeks today since my dear Jim passed away.  He was just 62, but had suffered terribly with cancer.  He told me he was ready to go, but I was not ready.  He died at home in our living room, but he slipped away while I…"
Mar 13
Lynne replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Your emotions are under control. I look at my tears as a way to release the pressure of my sadness and loss. I just lost my husband 6 weeks ago today. Tears just pop up randomly from things I never would have thought. There are so many triggers each…"
Mar 12
DIVA70 replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Thank you. The one thing I am sure about is I have had my Prince Charming. I'm also good with my current status. I have told several family members and friends I don't have a problem being by myself. My challenge is navigating my life…"
Feb 21
Callie2 replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Diva, I understand the feeling of not wanting to get close to another man, especially so soon.  You may change your mind in time, or you may not.  I thought at one time that I might but now I am sure I am good with the way things…"
Feb 21
DIVA70 replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"I don't know if this will be of help or not. I did not cry at my husband's funeral. I really think I was just trying to get through the day and all the formalities that go with taking that last ride with your loved one. I think I was also…"
Feb 21
booktime (Susan) replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Hi SoreEyes, As everyone has said, you are grieving and you are still raw. I was 59 when my husband died at 61 from cancer. I am now in my 7th year and as someone said, it is different but less weepy. Though I cry at a sad movie or book. This may be…"
Feb 18
Callie2 replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Yes I understand completely. My husband and I shared the same sense of humor too. Even though it’s been several years, I actually can recall the first time I laughed after his passing.  It just felt darned good!  It was in the…"
Feb 17
SoreEyes replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Thanks Callie, you know the biggest emotion I miss is laughter.  It was my goal everyday to make my wife laugh even before cancer entered into our lives.  I was usually successful in getting a laugh or a smile or a roll of the eyes plus a…"
Feb 16
SoreEyes replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Thanks Melissa, you sound like a very caring person.  I appreciate the get-out-of-jail free card idea.  So many times, I want to turn around to avoid confrontation.  The thing is that people don't know what to say and things can…"
Feb 16
Callie2 replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Sore Eyes,Grieving is hard. The pain is deep and our emotions can be impossible to control at times.  Crying is normal.   You have to deal with this and it’s a whole lot better that you deal with it now.  Suppressing grief is…"
Feb 16
Melissa replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"Soreeyes, I know it can be hard to break through all the ideas about what we are supposed to do, but you really, really are NOT required to keep talking with her. Like most of us, you probably do not actually have the energy to interact with anyone…"
Feb 16
Melissa replied to SoreEyes's discussion Emotions - How do you keep your emotions under control?
"It may help to remember that grief is not something you can get control of, because it is not something broken or wrong with you. You can't fix it. It's an experience, and as much as it sucks (and hooboy, does it suck!), it's doing…"
Feb 16
Rainy (Misty) replied to SoreEyes's discussion Mother-in-law Zinger
"I didn't read everyone else's response but LJ is a wise soul for sure!!! I was going to say what she said, only she said it much better and also, she's a lot nicer than I am.  SO, what LauraJay said!  "
Feb 15
vintage56(barb) replied to SoreEyes's discussion Mother-in-law Zinger
"yeah, ask for the car back. Tell her you want to keep it in YOUR family. SMH too!!"
Feb 5
SoreEyes replied to Dee1960's discussion Mediums
"Dee1960, I have wondered the same thing.  Up and until my wife's passing, I would have not given a medium much interest.  After her passing, I read a book about Signs that has sparked my interest in connecting.  Sometimes I feel…"
Feb 5
SoreEyes replied to SoreEyes's discussion Mother-in-law Zinger
"You can only imagine the thoughts that have gone through my head about my MIL's request.  If the furniture was passed down through generations, I guess I could understand the request.  But it's not.  Just a simple table and…"
Feb 5

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At 12:17pm on January 14, 2020, Loyd1960 said…

SoreEyes,first let me say how sorry I am for your loss.I see it hasn't been that long since your wife passed,and you are still in what I call shock mode.This is a rough time questioning everything from why her and why now.This seems to go on ,at least for me through the first year.As I mentioned in my earlier comment.You will constantly see,hear smell things that will bring all the hurt back.You ask if it ever gets better.Yes it does,but it takes awhile.Do you ever get over it (No)but you learn to live with it.I think of my wife every day.I have started dating again,but its a hard thing to go through,dating someone and try not to compare them to your wife.Sounds like you loved her very much and must have had a wonderful marriage.But where there is much love,there is much grief.I know its a cliché,but you litterly have to take it one day at a time.We men are taught not to cry but some evenings when I am home alone,and it still will hit me out of nowhere.I will bust into tears uncontrollable.So now I focus on my grandkids,And even thou they never met her I show them her pictures and tell them how much she loves them.Its a tough sad road you have to go down,What has helped me the most is my belief in God and my savior Jesus Christ.I know she is in a  great place,with no pain.The bible describes it as paradise.I will see her again one day.That is what helps me the most.

At 8:47am on January 14, 2020, Riskybiz said…

SoreEyes,

I too am angry at God, my husband was my best friend, e brought out the best in me.  I am seeing a grief counselor today, will it help?  I don't know.  I am missing him so much.

At 3:27pm on January 6, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

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