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Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?

Started this discussion. Last reply by New-widow May 29, 2013. 29 Replies

Jud and I chose cremation, partly because it was a quicker method of "dust to dust, ashes to ashes" but also because of the price of burial. I still found out the the cost of death in this country is…Continue

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Suz commented on Cristina's event My darling Billie's 70th birthday
"Cristina, I am so sorry I missed this! I love seeing the pictures of the two of you. You are both such beautifully warm people and the love just flows from your eyes, especially when you are looking at each other. I hope the day was soft. I…"
Mar 11, 2014
Suz is attending Cristina's event

My darling Billie's 70th birthday at Our hearts and heaven

March 10, 2014 to March 11, 2014
Mar 11, 2014
RonB commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"My wife, Sharon, planned this song into her funeral too. And she explained why to our minister who shared it with everyone. To her, the Rainbow, and this song, represented God's promises for beyond where we can see. My granddaughter is playing…"
Mar 11, 2014
Barbie Doll commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"Thanks for posting this Suz.  We played this at my husband's memorial too.  Breaks my heart every time."
Mar 10, 2014
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Feb 27, 2014
Suz commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"We used this as a background song for Jud's slideshow."
Feb 27, 2014
Suz commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"You are so welcome. I still love it. I must go listen to Iz doing In This life, Ron."
Feb 27, 2014
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"Dianne, That is terrific! I am working hard on just those things! I am a "wannabe queen" I guess! Hugs!"
Feb 23, 2014
Suz replied to only1sue's discussion Are friends in cyber support groups "real" to you?
"I have gotten together with some of the WV people in my area and found them to be just who I thought they were on the board (not that I cannot make a mistake). I have been on fibro boards for fifteen years and met about ten people on that board.…"
Feb 22, 2014
RonB commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"My wife choose two Iz songs for her funeral. In this life with photos of her with friends and loved ones And Wonderful world - Somewhere over the rainbow - which was her. The sermon explained the rainbow, Gods promise. And somewhere over, his…"
Jan 27, 2014
ukladyeileen commented on Suz's video

OFFICIAL - Somewhere Over the Rainbow 2011 - Israel "IZ" Kamakawiwo'ole

"Played this at my husbands memorial,  it always makes me cry but I can listen to it over & over. We bought it when we were in Hawaii about seven years ago and my husband loved it. Merry Christmas to all on this site. Eileen"
Dec 24, 2013
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Suz commented on Cristina's video

"In This Life" - Israel Kamakawiwo'ole

"That is fantastic. I am at my in-laws in Yankton and just read the poem, "Say His Name' to my mother-in-law. Big hugs and thanks."
Dec 12, 2013
Suz commented on judy's blog post Thanksgiving 2013
"Judy, what an incredible story! I will think of you when my Hope falters! I have had a bad month, starting with Blue Cross saying they never should have been insuring me and I owed everything back...for twelve years. Yikes. I would have been on the…"
Nov 19, 2013
Suz commented on Soaring Spirits's blog post Awkward: A conversation in year 6 of widowhood
"I think of myself as a "nondater" and a "one time marry-er" but I have to say that all of you that are handling these new relationships, with all their complexity and mixture of feelings, just impress the heck out of me! Wow. I…"
Nov 10, 2013
Suz commented on goingon (Cynthia)'s event Cynthia Horacek
"I, of course, will attend in spirit. I was so touched by the writing of his leaving and what a fine man he was. Hugs to you, Cynthia. Suz"
Nov 9, 2013

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At 7:18pm on September 27, 2013, Petal said…

You're sweet!  Thank you Suz, for the comment. 

At 8:49am on August 23, 2013, Mariposa said…

Hope you enjoy your massage! ~Mariposa

At 2:07pm on August 10, 2013, Gordy's widow said…

really , I am very flattered I just shoot my mouth off what ever comes to mind.... LOL

At 10:01pm on July 19, 2013, Widow+Mom (Kelly) said…
Hi Suz! Sorry it took me so long to respond. Have had absolutely zero me time in the las few weeks. I would love to connect and share with you! Thanks for reaching out!
At 7:44am on July 10, 2013, sadjanet said…

Hey Suz - would love to be your friend and fellow Minnesotan:)

At 7:45pm on July 8, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

great photos!!

At 7:42pm on July 8, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

Hey Suz, I'm in year # 2--summer--of taking a water aerobics class with the "old folks"  i'm having a great time---i too am the 'baby'

At 4:17am on May 11, 2013, Patience (Diane) said…

Suz,  thank you so much for your comment on my pictures.  It's good to be your friend :)


At 8:39pm on May 6, 2013, Maria Louisa said…

Hi Suz - thank you for your kind words about my photo with my husband when we received our "30 years of spiritual parenting " award...

At 4:07pm on May 4, 2013, goingon (Cynthia) said…
Hi, Suz! Thank you for you thoughts! I'd welcome getting to know you better, too. Someday I do want to get another dog. ,having to give up my Bella (she was a huskie mix; so sweet an soooo smart -she could have been trained as a great service dog for my mom) I think was traumatic. I really felt like I'd found "my dog". I'm angry with myself that I allowed my brother to intimidate me into giving her up. when I get past this, I would love to get another dog. They give you so much unconditional love and are such great companions. Thank you for your comments.

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Think of Me

Posted on March 12, 2013 at 9:04pm 9 Comments

Please think of me tomorrow. I am reading a poem in front of all the medical staff Grand Rounds at Jud's hospital. It will be the first time I have been in the hospital since Jud died. I also remember when Jud did a beautiful rounds there with his doctor called, "The Doctor as Patient." I hope I can get through without crying and do a decent job to honor Jud. I am scared. I also hope I can sleep and my teeth don't hurt tomorrow!

The poem I will read is called, "The Summer Day" by Mary…



Posted on February 23, 2013 at 7:29pm 22 Comments

Tomorrow is the first anniversary of Jud's death. It doesn't seem possible that a whole year had gone by. It has been the hardest year of my life. I have shed a lot of tears and felt like I have carried a huge lump of sadness in my chest on many days. I also feel that I have been so fortunate to have such a loving group of friends, daughter and son-in-law to be.  Tomorrow night, one of our friends is having a little gathering to eat together and remember Jud. I spent the day finishing my…


A Thoughtful Passing...

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 6:04pm 15 Comments

I found this in a file on my computer today, placed there by Jud. It was dated two months before he died. It gave me some insight into what he must be thinking. At this point in time, he had been through four clinical trials and the cancer had spread. He had just come home, knowing he was dying. 

It may be that when we no longer know what to do

we have come to our real work,

and that when we no longer know which way to go

we have come to our…


A Poem That Fit...

Posted on October 16, 2012 at 9:25am 9 Comments

I was going through a group of poems that I have kept and this seemed to fit what we do for each other and ourselves here on the board...


Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of Hope—

not the prudent gates of Optimism,

which are somewhat narrower;

not the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense;

nor the strident gates of Self-Righteousness,

which creak on shrill and angry hinges

(people cannot hear us there;



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