"Really good PWW, especially for Father's Day weekend!
1. I send a note and card to Jud's father.
2. I went out for lunch on Saturday.
3. I went out for coffee on Sunday.
I was sad the whole weekend but I dragged myself out of the house!
"
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Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
Started this discussion. Last reply by New-widow May 29. 29 Replies 0 Likes
Jud and I chose cremation, partly because it was a quicker method of "dust to dust, ashes to ashes" but also because of the price of burial. I still found out the the cost of death in this country is…Continue
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Suz replied to PrincessWidowGirl's discussion 3 Good Things
"My gosh, Lauralee. That is a lot in one weekend!"
Suz commented on Susan's blog post Setbacks
"Susan, I am so impressed. I could not even attend the service they had here. You were not a failure. That was a place and event that was created so people could cry. How could you not? You sounds like you are doing so well and you needed a good cry…"
Suz liked Mac's blog post 5 More Days - Cindy's Last Words
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Hi Joy,
I am so glad you found us. I lost my husband in February of 2012 and had my first anniversary this February. it was a hard day. My daughter and I spent it together and sent balloons with messages off into the sky. We got out some pictures…"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"I am, Dianne, but I sure had a bad spell. I seem to be reacting to the weather (but who knows) and we had constant storms everywhere we were. I went out for coffee this morning and it felt so good to be part of the "human race" again!"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"That was for our Brave Girl, Dianne! Thank you for all the good thoughts you bring to us. I know it is a lot of work and we are grateful!
Hugs,
Suz"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
Suz commented on liz143's blog post Life matters ...
"Liz143, Take your time and take it slowly. Choose those events that make you feel better and nourish you and give yourself credit for trying when it doesn't feel right. i am so glad you are having pleasant memories of Jim. What a huge gift!…"
Suz commented on Mac's blog post One More Day...
"(((Mac))). Tis breaks my heart. It is a hard time and I know you will make it through. As has been said, the days up to the anniversary are harder than the real day for many of us. You write to beautifully and your sadness comes right through. Hope…"
Suz commented on Tomsgirl's blog post Going into hiding
"Tomsgirl. Been there. Totally support you going into hiding, doing whatever will help in this situation.If you get to Monday and it seems like too much, call it off. You get to decide the rules this time!
Hugs,
Suz"
Suz commented on Patience (Diane)'s blog post Where is Superwoman?
"Diane, I totally relate. I am sixteen months from Jud's passing from pancreatic cancer and I have so many days of inertia. I think it started after the first year. I spent the first year fixing up the house and was Superwoman then, too. Somehow…"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"That is just incredible, Dianne.One of the best "pick-me-ups" I have seen.
Thank you!"
Suz replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Welcome Eliana,
I lost my husband sixteen months ago to pancreatic cancer and have been here since the second month after his death. I have enjoyed different areas of the board at different times. It has so much to offer. Really quite special. I do…"
Suz replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"My gosh, RM. You really have your hands full. I am glad you are here and am sure you will find others who are parenting many littles!
Fondly,
Suz"
Suz replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"eliana,
That was our poem, too. i find it especially meaningful since jud has died. i have only a wedding band and still wear it (sixteen months out). I don't think i will even take it off.
"
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- At 8:17am on May 11, 2013,
Patience (Diane) said… Suz, thank you so much for your comment on my pictures. It's good to be your friend :)
Diane
- At 12:39am on May 7, 2013,
Maria Louisa said… Hi Suz - thank you for your kind words about my photo with my husband when we received our "30 years of spiritual parenting " award...
- At 8:07pm on May 4, 2013,
goingon said… - Hi, Suz! Thank you for you thoughts! I'd welcome getting to know you better, too. Someday I do want to get another dog. ,having to give up my Bella (she was a huskie mix; so sweet an soooo smart -she could have been trained as a great service dog for my mom) I think was traumatic. I really felt like I'd found "my dog". I'm angry with myself that I allowed my brother to intimidate me into giving her up. when I get past this, I would love to get another dog. They give you so much unconditional love and are such great companions. Thank you for your comments.
- At 10:49am on April 24, 2013,
connie-uw said… Thanks, Suz. :)
- At 1:58am on March 22, 2013,
onmyown said… I read your post to Lilly. My husband used to also call before he left work and ask if I needed anything. Such a great memory to share. Thank you!! Hope you are doing well.
Jen
- At 1:55pm on March 16, 2013,
saudade said… Hi Suz~ thanks for the FR! I am still learning to navigate the site, but already finding some comments to be very supportive and helpful. So sorry we both find ourselves in need of being here, but thankful to have found a safe place to fall. best, Lisa
- At 7:12pm on March 15, 2013,
BeachGirl said… - Thanks for the friend request, Suz. I also appreciate your encouraging words. I am so sorry for your loss. This is such a helpful website, hopefully it will give you some strength and guidance. Be well.
- At 8:15pm on March 1, 2013,
Roxanne said… Thanks for the friend request, Suz - sorry that we have what we do, in common. Dale was diagnosed last May 8 and gone on August 18 - too quickly. A little tough - going through all the "firsts" through the major holiday season. It still feels a little surreal. I'm thankful for good friends, coworkers and family who have been so helpful in this journey, but there are so many things that they will never totally understand.
- At 4:01pm on February 28, 2013,
Diane said… I know about the 'we' , I find myself stumbling when I speak of my past with Oscar. We did so much together and spent so much time together, I traveled with him, sometimes, we had semis. I just try to think about him in Heaven with the Lord and no more pain, he didn't complain, and barely took pain meds, he was so aware of his situation, but he really didn't talk about it much, still have many questions, but have to wait until I get to Heaven, by then I'm sure it won't matter. I was really suicidal and wondered why The Lord left me down here on earth, but I take it day by day, trial by trial and try to remember to keep my eyes on The Lord. There are so many triggers that start me crying, I never sobbed so deeply after he was gone, still do once in a while, just the thought that I can never talk to him or hug him again is so sad. But we had a love and I will always cherish that. I listen to Joyce Meyer and she had a good sermon about, "Stop Asking Why" seems those things pop up just in time, as did this website. Still cry when I'm writing here, probably always will, but it is nice to know ya'll understand, those who are not widows do not get it. Thanks
Di
- At 10:59am on February 20, 2013,
Maggie said… Hi, Suz. Thank you for accepting my friend request. Hope you have a blessed day!
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Think of Me
Posted on March 13, 2013 at 1:04am 11 Comments 1 Like
Please think of me tomorrow. I am reading a poem in front of all the medical staff Grand Rounds at Jud's hospital. It will be the first time I have been in the hospital since Jud died. I also remember when Jud did a beautiful rounds there with his doctor called, "The Doctor as Patient." I hope I can get through without crying and do a decent job to honor Jud. I am scared. I also hope I can sleep and my teeth don't hurt tomorrow!
The poem I will read is called, "The Summer Day" by Mary…
Continue Tomorrow...
Posted on February 23, 2013 at 11:29pm 23 Comments 2 Likes
Tomorrow is the first anniversary of Jud's death. It doesn't seem possible that a whole year had gone by. It has been the hardest year of my life. I have shed a lot of tears and felt like I have carried a huge lump of sadness in my chest on many days. I also feel that I have been so fortunate to have such a loving group of friends, daughter and son-in-law to be. Tomorrow night, one of our friends is having a little gathering to eat together and remember Jud. I spent the day finishing my…
Continue A Thoughtful Passing...
Posted on December 14, 2012 at 10:04pm 13 Comments 1 Like
I found this in a file on my computer today, placed there by Jud. It was dated two months before he died. It gave me some insight into what he must be thinking. At this point in time, he had been through four clinical trials and the cancer had spread. He had just come home, knowing he was dying.
It may be that when we no longer know what to do
we have come to our real work,
and that when we no longer know which way to go
we have come to our…
A Poem That Fit...
Posted on October 16, 2012 at 1:25pm 9 Comments 3 Likes
I was going through a group of poems that I have kept and this seemed to fit what we do for each other and ourselves here on the board...
HOPE
Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of Hope—
not the prudent gates of Optimism,
which are somewhat narrower;
not the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense;
nor the strident gates of Self-Righteousness,
which creak on shrill and angry hinges
(people cannot hear us there;
they…
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