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Suz
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Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?

Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Jun 12. 43 Replies

Jud and I chose cremation, partly because it was a quicker method of "dust to dust, ashes to ashes" but also because of the price of burial. I still found out the the cost of death in this country is…Continue

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widow85 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"Ignore them all. Not worth the mental energy. Feel fine about your choice, and making all the hard decisions you've had to make."
Jun 12
Lupe's husband replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"I had that issue with my MIL.    She got mad at me because I put Lupe in a crypt instead of paying the $20,000 to buy two burial plots.   She said something about her spirit was going to floating around in the air or something like…"
Jun 10
vintage56(barb) replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"Frank had said he wanted cremation (we both did, for ourselves) and hated funerals. It cost around $1000, the funeral "home" was not really a traditional one, they did not hold services there. They just operated from churches, I guess. But…"
Jun 6
Athena53 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"In-ground burials are darned expensive and if I needed any more proof a lot of people have listed their costs here.  Your conscience should be clear- if you'd anted up the cost of an in-ground burial you'd be stressing out of the loss…"
Jun 6
Molly replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"Hi. My husband died in march. Only had money for cremation my husbands mom is mad at me because I cremated him she wanted him buried but family didn't offer any help even though I came to them but they didn't respond. Only my sister…"
Jun 6
Athena53 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"What an ordeal with the funeral home!  They really shouldn't be in a business where they have to deal with people who are grieving and really not in a position to keep chasing after them to get them to do things right.  I was happy…"
Jun 6
widow85 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"What awful stories! I did a cremation and a plain cardboard box for about $1,600. The funeral home messed up getting the death certificate, so my husband was not "present" (in his box) at his own memorial service -- 2 1/2 weeks after…"
Jun 5
Patience (Diane) replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"That's terrible Steve!! So sorry that happened!!!"
Jun 5
Lupe's husband replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"Oh, my goodness.    My wife had bought a plot with her sister.    After she died, they told us that she needed to be in a special casket because she was broad shouldered.    Then they told us she wouldn't fit in…"
Jun 5
Imogen replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"$15,000.00 I was blown away. You are right, it is just taking advantage of us when we were in grief/brain stupid mode. Thankfully the only tombstone I liked was in clearance. They were all big & glittering. I just wanted something simple. It is…"
Jun 4
Athena53 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"I'm scattering some of Ron's ashes in various places- started with the lake behind our house, went on to put some in the Panama Canal and off the bow of a ship anchored off Costa Rica.  Next up is Iceland.  My plan is that…"
Jun 3
Tate2701 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"His family always cremate but they live on the other side of the country and we wanted him close by so we chose burial. He refused to arrange a will or his affairs but he did let me know he loved the hymn Amazing Grace and wouldn't mind being…"
Jun 2
Athena53 replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"I'm in KC also and the costs of Ron's funeral were pretty modest.  We knew he was dying and I actually went to the local funeral home beforehand to get everything arranged, which was a big help when Ron died- I knew whom to…"
Jun 1
Dan replied to Suz's discussion Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
"I believe I paid around 3000 total for everything.Igot an urn for my wife's ashes that had Monarch butterfly's on it. I asked the minister that performed our marriage to perform the service. We had a simple service at the funeral home,…"
May 31
Suz commented on Cristina's event My darling Billie's 70th birthday
"Cristina, I am so sorry I missed this! I love seeing the pictures of the two of you. You are both such beautifully warm people and the love just flows from your eyes, especially when you are looking at each other. I hope the day was soft. I…"
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At 7:18pm on September 27, 2013, Petal said…

You're sweet!  Thank you Suz, for the comment. 

At 8:49am on August 23, 2013, Mariposa said…

Hope you enjoy your massage! ~Mariposa

At 2:07pm on August 10, 2013, Gordy's widow said…

really , I am very flattered I just shoot my mouth off what ever comes to mind.... LOL

At 10:01pm on July 19, 2013, Widow+Mom (Kelly) said…
Hi Suz! Sorry it took me so long to respond. Have had absolutely zero me time in the las few weeks. I would love to connect and share with you! Thanks for reaching out!
At 7:44am on July 10, 2013, sadjanet said…

Hey Suz - would love to be your friend and fellow Minnesotan:)

At 7:45pm on July 8, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

great photos!!

At 7:42pm on July 8, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

Hey Suz, I'm in year # 2--summer--of taking a water aerobics class with the "old folks"  i'm having a great time---i too am the 'baby'

At 4:17am on May 11, 2013, Patience (Diane) said…

Suz,  thank you so much for your comment on my pictures.  It's good to be your friend :)

Diane

At 8:39pm on May 6, 2013, Maria Louisa said…

Hi Suz - thank you for your kind words about my photo with my husband when we received our "30 years of spiritual parenting " award...

At 4:07pm on May 4, 2013, goingon (Cynthia) said…
Hi, Suz! Thank you for you thoughts! I'd welcome getting to know you better, too. Someday I do want to get another dog. ,having to give up my Bella (she was a huskie mix; so sweet an soooo smart -she could have been trained as a great service dog for my mom) I think was traumatic. I really felt like I'd found "my dog". I'm angry with myself that I allowed my brother to intimidate me into giving her up. when I get past this, I would love to get another dog. They give you so much unconditional love and are such great companions. Thank you for your comments.

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Think of Me

Posted on March 12, 2013 at 9:04pm 9 Comments

Please think of me tomorrow. I am reading a poem in front of all the medical staff Grand Rounds at Jud's hospital. It will be the first time I have been in the hospital since Jud died. I also remember when Jud did a beautiful rounds there with his doctor called, "The Doctor as Patient." I hope I can get through without crying and do a decent job to honor Jud. I am scared. I also hope I can sleep and my teeth don't hurt tomorrow!

The poem I will read is called, "The Summer Day" by Mary…

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Tomorrow...

Posted on February 23, 2013 at 7:29pm 22 Comments

Tomorrow is the first anniversary of Jud's death. It doesn't seem possible that a whole year had gone by. It has been the hardest year of my life. I have shed a lot of tears and felt like I have carried a huge lump of sadness in my chest on many days. I also feel that I have been so fortunate to have such a loving group of friends, daughter and son-in-law to be.  Tomorrow night, one of our friends is having a little gathering to eat together and remember Jud. I spent the day finishing my…

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A Thoughtful Passing...

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 6:04pm 15 Comments

I found this in a file on my computer today, placed there by Jud. It was dated two months before he died. It gave me some insight into what he must be thinking. At this point in time, he had been through four clinical trials and the cancer had spread. He had just come home, knowing he was dying. 

It may be that when we no longer know what to do

we have come to our real work,

and that when we no longer know which way to go

we have come to our…

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A Poem That Fit...

Posted on October 16, 2012 at 9:25am 9 Comments

I was going through a group of poems that I have kept and this seemed to fit what we do for each other and ourselves here on the board...

HOPE



Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of Hope—

not the prudent gates of Optimism,

which are somewhat narrower;

not the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense;

nor the strident gates of Self-Righteousness,

which creak on shrill and angry hinges

(people cannot hear us there;

they…

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