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Need a book recommendation for a man dating a widow

Started this discussion. Last reply by aussiewidow Nov 30, 2013. 4 Replies

I have been dating someone for a year and I sometimes struggle with how to explain what I am experiencing with grief. He tries really hard to understand but doesn't have any context. Is there a book…Continue


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"If you are in Atlanta I hope to see you tonight!"
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Soaring Spirits Regional Event in ATLANTA, GA at Atlanta Botanical Gardens

March 29, 2014 from 2pm to 4pm
Let’s take a stroll in the garden to enjoy the spring air and some good conversation with people who get it. Feel free to bring your camera to capture some of the natural beauty we will experience there. I’ll meet you near the doors of the Hardin Visitor Center wearing my red Hope Matters t-shirt (what else?)A note on cost: I have eight free passes so RSVP quick if you want one!…See More
Mar 3, 2014
aussiewidow replied to Tamara's discussion Need a book recommendation for a man dating a widow
"'s hard and it won't be the same. I think the new man in our lives can feel threatened by our love for our dead husband and maybe he doesn't understand that there is no point in being threatened because he's not…"
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"I hear ya! It took me 18 months before I left a workplace that was no longer working for me and started trying to figure out what was next for me. When I found it, I knew it. Much love and fortune to you in the discovery."
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Carol in GA replied to Tamara's discussion Need a book recommendation for a man dating a widow
"I think since we all grieve so different it would be difficult for a man to read one women's book to understand us all. And also, what was the marriage like that you loss, strong, weak...? I am going to read the books that are posted here. I do…"
Nov 6, 2011
shakyground replied to Tamara's discussion Need a book recommendation for a man dating a widow
"Hi Tamara, I'm not sure which book you read, but this one I ran across (although also apparently written by a man) sounds insightful: "The Same … but Different" was written by Jim Riddel, who is a widower himself, and is based…"
Oct 9, 2011

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Plan A

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 8:52am 1 Comment

Plan A When I started my blog I wrote about the pluff mud of grief. In it, I outlined how I thought my life would go…my Plan A. By now you know that Plan A went awry in a few ways not the least of which was the death of my beloved husband.

So what do we do…


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At 4:11pm on April 23, 2013, connie-uw said…

Thanks--was great to see you too!

At 9:29am on September 11, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…


Hoping your special day is filled with love and peace, Tamara.  (I love your profile picture!)



At 5:46pm on July 12, 2011, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

Tamara, So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to lung cancer 5/14/2011. This place has helpped me so much. You will find we all care and we all "get it".  Glad you found us. 


At 1:17pm on July 12, 2011, Mary0830 said…

Hi Tamara,

I'm sorry for your loss, my husband also died of EC.  I hope this group will help you to find support and encouragement. 

At 10:26am on July 9, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Pleased you found us, Tamara.  Take a look around and join our conversations. There is wonderful support here.
At 10:11am on July 9, 2011, wannabmartha said…

So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others.  Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.



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