Members

This site is run by widowed people, for widowed people

Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing. The moderators, administrators, and others involved in running this site are not professionals.

Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice. Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.

We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there."

Tekwriter
  • Female
  • Tobaccoville, NC
  • United States
Share on Facebook Share

Tekwriter's Friends

  • Roxi
  • Allan_sch
  • Melissa
  • eliana

Tekwriter's Discussions

Holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Aug 17, 2018. 6 Replies

I lost my Husband on May 3rd. It was Mothers day and my oldest son's birthday the week we held the funeral and the military internment. We basically just did nothing for the 4th of July which used to…Continue

 

Tekwriter's Page

Latest Activity

Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you no longer in Bergen. I found your post helpful. I hope I have mitigated some of these by moving and have already taken care of the clothes issue I guess while I was still in shock. I find I have very little memory from May till the…"
Saturday
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I wish I had thought of "okay you have been dead long enough, you can come back now". I wish it worked that way. but nope. I am past my first anniversary. I am past my irrational anger period. I am just lonely. I don't know what to…"
Friday
Pualili221 commented on Tekwriter's blog post Year 2
"I hope that one day I can say the same.  Right now it stings so bad but I am fresh into my grieving process.  This upcoming 21st will be only 3 months since my husband's passing. "
May 10
Tekwriter posted a blog post

Year 2

I just started my second year of grief. The only difference is it is not as fierce this time. I do not think I am going to die. I realize I will live another year through the grief without him. Grief will not kill you. It only feels like it will.See More
May 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
" I am very lucky it appears. I just bought a new house and both of my sons moved with me. My older son and his girlfriend took the upstairs and my younger son took the basement which is fitted with a bathroom and we hope to completely finish…"
May 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Friday is the first anniversary for me. It is getting close and and I have feelings of anger and anxiety. Not at at him just at everything for some reason. I hope that goes away. I don't like feeling angry.My young.est son and I will be going…"
May 1
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Barzan I was moved by your post. I understand how you use the term single woman. One of the things right now that drives me the craziest if to have to fill out forms that only leave space for me to say I am single. Thursday the Lawyer said you are…"
Mar 26
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I finally closed on my new home. We began living here this weekend. We still have a weeks moving so far to go, we got furniture moved and have appliances yet to move. So far it has gone well. It may have drawn me and the sons closer. It feels good…"
Mar 25
Tekwriter posted a blog post

35 Days

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came here…See More
Mar 18
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Bergen my husband made it through two back to back brain surgeries also. He made it through the regular hospital and into rehab. He was supposed to come home at the weekend. I always went by in the morning and checked his lunch to see if it was…"
Mar 13
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My companion dog of 11 years had to be put down because of seizures two months after my husband passed. I had raised him from the time he was 8 weeks old. He made every step I made and I always felt safe with him. They had to lock him in a car when…"
Mar 11
Heidi57 commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"My husband of 42+ years passed away (age 64) and my anger is directed towards our Canadian & Provincial health system.  He slipped thru the cracks far too often despite my diligence and repeated questions regarding his heart.  I…"
Feb 25
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I stayed on facebook. For the first few months I just didn't comment on anyone and even now sometimes I say nothing when I am sad. I mostly only post about grief. There are days I am surprised I have any friends left at all but they are all…"
Feb 25
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This is the only place I post where I do not think I am crazy. I do not think any one other than another widow or widower understands what it is like."
Feb 20
Tekwriter commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Tense
"I do understand. The first time I had to fill out a box that had married single and no other choice I was so angry. I was not married in the world sense of the word but I did not feel single either. Widow should have been there."
Feb 15
Roxi commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"me too i'm full of anger...i'm trying to stay calm but people around me really make me mad...'cos they are so boring so idiots and i think "all those stupids are alive" and my love a special person is gone...i know it's…"
Feb 14

Profile Information

Tekwriter's Blog

Year 2

Posted on May 7, 2019 at 8:06am 1 Comment

I just started my second year of grief. The only difference is it is not as fierce this time. I do not think I am going to die. I realize I will live another year through the grief without him. Grief will not kill you. It only feels like it will.

35 Days

Posted on March 18, 2019 at 6:05am 0 Comments

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came…

Continue

Angry Lonely Hurt

Posted on February 10, 2019 at 10:18am 4 Comments

I thought I was doing better. I survived ,Thanksgiving, Christmas was disappointing, and I made it through January 1st. I am into February and I am having the hardest time since last May. I had to go to the Dr. and get more medication. I am so angry. I am not angry at my husband. I am angry at people. Everyone that gets in my way. People sincerely annoy me. I have been trying to close on a house. The only thing I needed was a deposit from my military pay. I gave it to them on the 1st of…

Continue

Comment Wall (1 comment)

You need to be a member of Widowed Village to add comments!

Join Widowed Village

At 11:47pm on July 5, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Tekwriter. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

© 2019   Created by Soaring Spirits.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service