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Tekwriter
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  • Tobaccoville, NC
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Holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Aug 17, 2018. 6 Replies

I lost my Husband on May 3rd. It was Mothers day and my oldest son's birthday the week we held the funeral and the military internment. We basically just did nothing for the 4th of July which used to…Continue

 

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Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"No this is my second. I am planning to stay in my room and read and eat something indulgent."
yesterday
Jules left a comment for Tekwriter
"Year 2? I can’t even imagine 6 months at this point. It’s only been 5 weeks. Still in shock. I hate this!!!"
yesterday
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Next Sunday would have been my 35th anniversary. I am not looking forward to the day."
Monday
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Sueg I just started my second year at the beginning of May. It is a different kind of hard. You get through the first year and realize the pain did not kill you after all. Then you still have to keep moving. It is different for all of us. The…"
Sunday
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I bought some books on grief, I set up a counseling that my Dr. recommended, and I joined this Souring Spirits that I happened across. I never made to the counseling, but for very good reason. I feel the interaction here is probably more helpful…"
Sep 9
Tekwriter commented on that1chick's blog post I have to find peace
"I understand what you are saying. I am not in the same situation. My sons and I did move to a new home. It has been more peaceful for us. We are not being constantly bombarded with things that make us cry and miss him. It is not that we don't…"
Sep 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wow, you guys have been busy. I do have some positive news. I have been able to reconnect  with two of my friends from Wyoming. We worked together for Mountain Bell and then AT&T after the divestiture. We all ran around together and had…"
Sep 4
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I guess I am fortunate in the fact that my family is small, all my relatives are gone and I only have my husbands so they are very comforting because they loved him. I do no have a lot of close friends, my truly close friends came to my husbands…"
Aug 22
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It was Lucky Charms, Magically delicious. I thought the froot loops were hideous."
Aug 16
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"When did they start putting marshmallows in froot loops?"
Aug 15
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Welcome LadyHawke I am sorry you had to join us. Do not be hard on yourself. Hi everyone, I remember going through an envy stage after my Mother passed, but I have not done that since my husband has gone."
Aug 15
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I can sympathize with everyone's stories. We seem to have forgotten how to celebrate. My husband must have been the drive be hind the celebrations. I don't know. Neither of my son's want to do anything. They don't want to do…"
Jul 18
Tekwriter commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Gifts
"I get it. I am a pinterest fan and had a category for my husband. A few weeks ago I ran across a recipe that he would have loved. I couldn't make myself not do it. I saved it for him."
Jul 14
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have decided to have weight loss surgery. My oldest son and I are going to be doing this together. This is something my husband was against. My brother passed away from this surgery in 2012. However he did not have the quality of health care that…"
Jun 30
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"So sorry Susan. If I was closer I would make you some soup and bring it over. Sending loving vibes your way."
Jun 13
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I am not traveling but I plan to have bariatric surgery in the next few months and I wonder how I will do without my husband. I am missing him so much this month after the first anniversary of his passing. What I would not five just to lay my head…"
Jun 13

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Year 2

Posted on May 7, 2019 at 8:06am 2 Comments

I just started my second year of grief. The only difference is it is not as fierce this time. I do not think I am going to die. I realize I will live another year through the grief without him. Grief will not kill you. It only feels like it will.

35 Days

Posted on March 18, 2019 at 6:05am 0 Comments

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came…

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Angry Lonely Hurt

Posted on February 10, 2019 at 10:18am 4 Comments

I thought I was doing better. I survived ,Thanksgiving, Christmas was disappointing, and I made it through January 1st. I am into February and I am having the hardest time since last May. I had to go to the Dr. and get more medication. I am so angry. I am not angry at my husband. I am angry at people. Everyone that gets in my way. People sincerely annoy me. I have been trying to close on a house. The only thing I needed was a deposit from my military pay. I gave it to them on the 1st of…

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At 4:21pm on September 18, 2019, Jules said…

Year 2? I can’t even imagine 6 months at this point. It’s only been 5 weeks. Still in shock. I hate this!!!

At 11:47pm on July 5, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Tekwriter. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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