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Therese
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Sandy replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"No, it isn't the life we anticipated but it is what we have been dealt and somehow, someway, we need to make the best of it! Easier said than done for sure. I am a dog lover and started fostering dogs. Something my hubs would have put his foot…"
Aug 4, 2016
Therese replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"Yeah, hang in there, lol. You are right there is no other choice. Fortunately I learned how I hang in there is my choice. I can either be grumpy and miserable or try to find the silver lining in the whole thing and choose to be happy. I guess that…"
Aug 4, 2016
Sandy replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"I hear ya sister! I was fortunate to have a good job but I still was stuck with thousands of dollars in medical bills. Took me 7 years to get them paid off! Paying medical bills for a dead husband is so frustrating. My credit was…"
Aug 4, 2016
Therese replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"Thanks Ladies!"
Aug 2, 2016
Janine (txmomx6) replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"I'm so sorry, Therese.  Life really can suck sometimes.  I agree with Mary H. ... there really should be more advocates out there for people who are widowed.Hugs,Janine"
Aug 1, 2016
Mary H replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"I feel your pain, I didn't put myself on the mortgage of our home when we refinanced because I was too busy, and I had no idea how much trouble that would cause me in the end.  And the bank still won't let me put my name on the…"
Aug 1, 2016
Therese replied to Therese's discussion Moved this weekend in the group Born in the 60s
"So even though my heart is broken and I feel like I have done a good job taking care of my children etc given my husband died without a will without 401k without anything, I am having to suck it up and put a smile on my face and take care of myself…"
Aug 1, 2016
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Moved this weekend

Moved into a 420 foot apartment this weekend. I have mixed emotions on this to say the least. If anyone were to congratulate me or even try to console me I think I might bite their head off. I never wanted to be all alone! I never wanted to live in a dump because that is all I could find that I could afford. So I realize I brought this upon myself being too generous when I had money and too Nieve to think not having a fucking credit card would really drag my score down that lie or worse yet…See More
Aug 1, 2016
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"I never in a million years pictured myself as a widow with three kids all grown doing their own thing and me being a single person waiting for her kids to invite her to have fun with them. My sister is talking about keeping her house in Virginia as…"
Jun 28, 2016
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"Today is June 28th. I am not feeling well. I have been fighting off depression with my coming move. My first time completely alone in my entire life, and yet I can't seem to cry right now. I guess because it doesn't seem real yet. I hope I…"
Jun 28, 2016
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed before 2008
"So depressed and frustrated.  having a hard time getting my but in gear."
May 10, 2016
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 60s
"Home alone. Exhausted from the week. Tired, achey no one to talk to."
Mar 11, 2016
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 60s
"Born in 1967. Youngest of 7. Married 18 years before spouse passed away. March 2nd will be 9 years. Live in Dallas Texas. Have three boys all grown. Work full time at hospital."
Feb 28, 2016
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2007
"This is the way I look at it because I am a Christian. The moment you do the deed with another person and remain in a relationship with that person as you have you are married to that person in the eyes of God.  A certificate issued by the…"
Nov 2, 2014
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2007
"Sorry for the language in that comment.  I usually don't talk that way and don't know if it is allowed on here.  I just really feel strongly about it and it is nice to hear that I am not the only person that has had the same…"
Nov 2, 2014
Therese commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2007
"HI, Yeah you learn really quick who is your friend and who is not.  Who now views you as competition or a third wheel to be leery of as they are insecure in their own marriage relationship with their husbands.  Their problem not…"
Nov 2, 2014

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Posted on October 22, 2016 at 2:51pm 11 Comments

March 2, 2007 I lost my husband and so it has almost been 10 years since his passing.



I am now an empty nester living on my own and it sucks! No one to talk to no one to love no one to encourage. I am miserable! I am working tons and I am so exhausted I came to realize I was happier back when and made up mind to find someone new. I joined a new internet sight called meet me.com. Where I met multiple men all interested in me. Well long story short I met a man I thought was real and… Continue

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At 5:34pm on June 28, 2016, Therese said…
I never in a million years pictured myself as a widow with three kids all grown doing their own thing and me being a single person waiting for her kids to invite her to have fun with them. My sister is talking about keeping her house in Virginia as a summer home. She talks about her work and things going on with her family. I envy her. My oldest sister gets mad at me and last minute organized a get together with my sisters up north and basically rubs it in my face talking on Facebook about how much fun they had. I am envious of her because I can't seem to forgive my sisters up there and hold a civil conversation with them without them pointing out some flaw of mine that apparently prevents them from being nice to me. I would like to have a nice relationship with them but I never know when my one sister is being nice because she genuinely means to be nice and when it's forced to keep the peace. Well I say that but I think I do know and the name of the game then becomes figure out what just set her off and try to avoid it and by all means don't call a spade a spade and talk about it because that would be a healthy adult way to deal with it. The other one just doesn't want to hear anything unless it is I am sorry you are right life fucking sucks and I am the only one to blame for it fucking sucking because all my decisions have been a total fucking disaster. No one else is to blame because no one else is ever selfish or makes bad choices or gives erroneous incomplete or bad information or advice. Yet she isn't the one who moved away from home, got married, is now widowed, and having to live alone because of her choices and I'd faced daily with the truth that life fucking sucks and is not fair and intact blames no one but herself for her circumstances. Why wouldn't I want to go to a reunion where my sisters angrily remind me of these things because they are pissed off that I moved away and they didn't. You know I avoid these encounters mostly on purpose because who wants to have that shit forced down your throat when you have been living it 24 / 7 as if I owe them an apology. But I gather from past conversations that is exactly what they feel I owe them and it makes no sense to me. It has never made any sense to me why people feel like you owe it to them to follow their advice and when you don't they act all hurt and self righteous when things don't turn out for you how you hoped because you refused their seemingly "wise" advice. So I guess I am waiting and looking for an opportunity where/when nothing they say or could say would remotely ruffle my feathers or get under my skin. At which point they are left wondering why they wasted so much time being assholes that spoke so unkindly about me behind my back and to my face. I want them to feel the burn of not having been nicer to me.
At 4:40pm on June 28, 2016, Therese said…
Today is June 28th. I am not feeling well. I have been fighting off depression with my coming move. My first time completely alone in my entire life, and yet I can't seem to cry right now. I guess because it doesn't seem real yet. I hope I will be able to ball like a baby my first night in my new place. That survival instinct almost boardering Pride seems to be fueling an internal stubbornness to show the world it hasn't succeeded pummeling me into dust. How can one feel sorry for themselves and cry while demonstrating such strength. I don't know, but I am hoping this shit gets easier and I make some good choices along the way that will change things for the better.
At 10:24pm on April 19, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Welcome to Widowed Village, Therese. Jump into the forum discussions, join the groups that fit you, try out the chat room - just immerse yourself in this very special place. I look forward to getting acquainted with you.
 
 
 

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