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Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Apr 16, 2018. 9 Replies

Hello everyone...so I have daughter in college - only about 2 hours away.  Regular visits, texts back and forth, calls.  Anyway, this past Friday she asked me to come down on Saturday - March 31. …Continue

change....

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 18, 2017. 3 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife passed four and a half years ago.Just drove daughter back to college, and the same pain is back.  And...it's...likely I think that, at almost 50, that I am going to spend the…Continue

help with melting down teenager

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord Dec 29, 2016. 6 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife, Melinda, passed away on May 30, 2012.  I have 2 kids, both at school (home now) D-18, S-22.So we just had a two-day long meltdown.So Christmas Eve, and Christmas and even…Continue

dating someone far away...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Enzo Jun 22, 2014. 1 Reply

Hello everyone...I...I used to be on the website for "young" widows - I was 44 when I lost my wife of 23 years...and met a wonderful woman - fellow widow there - and over about a 1.5 years, we became…Continue

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Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Depression
"Hello - I would say yes, but/and mine is just severe anxiety...to the point of sometimes just being almost debilitating...."
Jan 16
Timelord replied to Hopesmom's discussion runaway train
"Hopesmom I hope I hope I pray things get better for you.  I too am here alone with two kids (24, and 20) and the 20 yo still is dependnent on me of course...and I have no one to help either financially or emotionally etc.  So for what…"
Jan 15
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Hello Rich - I'm so sorry I hadn't replied earlier.  You are so absolutely correct.  100000 percent correct! And I too do not like "moving on."  One doesn't "move on" from something like this. …"
Jan 15
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Rich, yes, this is...I'm not sure if it's anxiety or remembrance.   I...I remember that even a year or so after my Melinda passed, one time I was getting Chinese take out for myself and the kids and literally said to myself that…"
Jan 13
Timelord replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion New Year's Eve
"Susan indeed once we had kids... rarely did we make it that late!"
Dec 30, 2018
Timelord replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion New Year's Eve
"Hugs to you as well! Me - I hope to be asleep early.  My... memory of NYE is always frozen on Dec 31 2011 when my wife told me that she watched the Christmas tree on the roof of the hospital complex across from her room there...."
Dec 30, 2018
Timelord replied to Calranthe's discussion I really do not know whether or not its worth carrying on.
"Thank you for sharing your story and the incredible love between the two of you.  Such love never ever goes away. I too met my wife very young and we had 25 good great years together!!! I hope and pray your cancer is early and you will have a…"
Dec 29, 2018
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Loveboo... I wish I could sleep forever...I don't feel the dread and anxiety when I'm asleep..."
Dec 29, 2018
Timelord replied to Charlieboy117's discussion My Recent Lose...
"Thank you. I know our experiences...like everyone's...is different, but I too feel cheated...and struggling in many ways at an age where that wasn't... supposed to be..."
Dec 14, 2018
Timelord replied to Charlieboy117's discussion My Recent Lose...
"Hello Charlie - all I am going to say is that my heart goes out to you and your kids...stay with each other and support each other.  "
Dec 14, 2018
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Hello - I definitely sympathize...I too want to be lost in dreams.  I don't feel the anxiety and loss there.  Waking up is literally hard.  At least when I sleep and/or dream...I'm not...HERE. So for whatever it may be…"
Dec 3, 2018
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Holidays
"Hello everyone - Thanksgiving used to be us going up to NY to my late wife's family, about 95% of the time.  For about a quarter of a century. Since then, it was me and the kids (20 and 24) - this year will be the first without my son -…"
Nov 18, 2018
Timelord replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"Hi - it was gradual.  Over...months.  The last to go away was the "stomach" pain...and literally heart pain. And of course everyone reacts differently, and like I said, I'd still do the blood work, just to be sure, but yes,…"
Oct 23, 2018
Timelord replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"Hello!  I think you've got a great doctor.  I had massive physical pain for the first several months.  Since then (2012), it occasionally resurfaces.  I think my daughter has IBS because of this, and it made mine worse. At…"
Oct 23, 2018
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Thank you! There always are people who are well meaning and give us advice... sometimes good sometimes...bad. What to me has always been true is that the one I truly want advice from isn't here. It's hard enough to plan...life...as well…"
Sep 3, 2018
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Jabs, no worries - this is not even at all a bit much!!! I'm in the same place...kids are at school, and the nest is TOTALLY empty.  In fact my son is working and living with GF near where daughter is at college.  Who knows where…"
Sep 3, 2018

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I am a widow...married for 23 years to the love of my life...married at 22. Originally (and forever!) from NYC. Currently in Washington, DC area.

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At 6:46am on December 8, 2017, Laurel said…

Hello Timelord - I feel your pain also.  My husband has been gone going on 6 yrs in Feb '18....I have a "new normal"... do I like it - some days yes and somedays no, but I guess acceptance is the key.  And we move on.

Take care

Laurel

At 2:31pm on May 12, 2015, laurajay said…

been sick seriously twice since husband died   scary and exhausting    don't over do   you still need rest....I know because  I do too but I fight it thinking I can do it all knowing I can't   lj  

At 5:49am on May 30, 2014, DW said…

Hi Timelord - my story is pretty much the same - 47, 2 kids 15 and 19, married at 22 - he was 25. We found out he had stage IV liver cancer in July of 2011 and he was gone in April of 2012. Met in college at the University of Iowa where our son is now attending. Life goes on - there is much to celebrate and I don't want to miss anything.

At 4:22pm on May 29, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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